Hello i know, actually i had been thinking about it for a long long time... i just created the account on this page to share this.
He is my third relationship -ever- and only had five sexual friends? mates? (first sharing for three years, the second for one year and a half, my current boyfriend, the student from abroad and the guy from the threesome).
To answer you:
1) In the short therm: i guess we are, at least, for sure, i can say i am, he looks really happy, to say it fine. In the long term: I really don´t know, but yesterday he told me that he wants to live with me, he just bought his own house and asked me if we can live together after I finish college, so why not to try?
2) We use protection, always, we are both very worried about it. But for healthy feelings i am not cute sure, i think i am the most worried about it. I never never liked the idea of cheating, now i really don´t know. Nowadays i am wondering why do sex have to be so exclusive.
3) Cheating = deception. For 23 years I was completelly agree with you. Now i dont know. I do not if we can call it cheating, because we always tell us the "adventure" and we both agree, and most of the time we first talked it and then the things happen.
Yes, i know some people find this negative or even repulsive, but anyway ALL opinions are welcome. Be cool. Maybe i am only a newby and you could be my friend-parents saying me: "bad boy!" hahaha. The more you know the better your judgment.