Wait, so are you saying if I go to a straight club, I could go up to a guy and hit on him whereas a gay club this won't work?
I went to the gay bar last night for the first time in a year, went up to a guy who was standing by himself against the wall, chatted him up nicely for half an hour, and then we went our separate ways after exchanging numbers. It was fun, and I want to do it again next weekend (but this time I'll bring my discreet earplugs so I don't lose my hearing from the "music" *noise* --no one notices I wear them anyways, and if he cares, he can go fuck himself! *dainty 1950s homely smile*
However, it is intimidating to go up to other guys who are in groups. It is fine if you come to the bar with someone, but that is basically saying "hey I'm taken" or "don't approach me" if I'm out solo. It takes mega balls to go up to a group of people. Maybe yall should spread out if you want to meet new people.