Thoughts about death

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    Aug 06, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    How often do you think about death ? For me , no matter how much I try to prepare myself ( not that I'm dying) , I can't seem to grasp the idea that one day the world will go on without me ( not trolling , just being sincere). Can you ever be ready to go , be at peace with the idea of dying ? Or is it just one of our primal instincts to be constantly terrified of death ?
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    Aug 06, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    I think about it daily. Sometimes to the point of panic. I hate the thought of living my entire life worrying about it, but I can't seem to not think about it. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 06, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    In Health Care I am reminded of it daily. I have also lost many loved ones at young ages. My mom when she was 57, my Cousin recently when he was 39, several uncles in their fifties, etc.

    It scares me enough to make me realize we only have a guaranteed today and even that is not guaranteed. I now try to live every moment to the fullest. I workout, eat healthy, appreciate the things I do have instead of what I don't and appreciate those I love who are still with me.

    Life is short and despite what our egos tells us we are a needle in a hay stack in this life.

    Lately I take my frustration and fear of my mortality out in the gym.

    I agree though that it is kind of scary that one day life as we know it won't exist but that is part of life and and not a single one of us escapes it so I try not to worry too much.
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    Aug 06, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidI think about it daily. Sometimes to the point of panic. I hate the thought of living my entire life worrying about it, but I can't seem to not think about it. icon_sad.gif


    Same

    Edit: I don't worry as much as I used to, but I still think about it a lot.
  • comical44

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    Aug 06, 2012 2:08 AM GMT
    makes me scared.
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    Aug 06, 2012 2:12 AM GMT
    It is something that i think about every day. I just hope when i die it is without fear
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    Aug 06, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidI think about it daily. Sometimes to the point of panic. I hate the thought of living my entire life worrying about it, but I can't seem to not think about it. icon_sad.gif




    Me, too.
    But, I don't panic.
    It just prevents me from enjoying whatever time I have left.
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    Aug 06, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    Sometimes when I think about it, it seems like a release. THere will be no more pain or sorrow. Then other times I think about it and get scared because I won't laugh or learn or love anymore. It is best not to dwell on it.
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    Aug 06, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    Scruffypup saidI think about it daily. Sometimes to the point of panic. I hate the thought of living my entire life worrying about it, but I can't seem to not think about it. icon_sad.gif

    How interesting.... I had no clue that so many of our RJ guys felt this way.
    Must me something wrong with my wiring.. cause it really never crosses my mind.
    I've watched family members and loved ones get older, live their life fully then pass.
    Seems kind of natural to me. Just live every day like it's your last.



    I would like that feeling more than anything. But to me it's like being on a plane that's going down and trying to relax. I'm quite sure I've never gone a single day without thinking about death. Some days it's all I think about.
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    Aug 06, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    I think about death often...just not my own ^.-
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    Aug 06, 2012 3:03 AM GMT
    ConfederateGhost saidI think about death often...just not my own ^.-


    Bwah! Who you hiding in the garden of your backyard? icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 06, 2012 3:05 AM GMT
    If you could call it a garden...maybe more like a "keepsake".



    David4985 said
    ConfederateGhost saidI think about death often...just not my own ^.-


    Bwah! Who you hiding in the garden of your backyard? icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 06, 2012 3:33 AM GMT
    I can't think about my parental figures without thinking about death... I've got one still living, but that bridge burned down too long ago. I've got my siblings and that is enough to keep me grounded.
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    Aug 06, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
    You just need to accept the inevitable.
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    Aug 06, 2012 3:39 AM GMT
    I think of it from time to time ... I don't like to dwell on it .. we are all going to die ... and like the song goes, "the best you can hope for, is to die in your sleep". I think of it this way ... whenever you have found yourself in a circumstance where you are in a lot of pain and you nod of between the pain and fall asleep and dream .... are you still feeling the pain?
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    Aug 06, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI think of it from time to time ... I don't like to dwell on it .. we are all going to die ... and like the song goes, "the best you can hope for, is to die in your sleep". I think of it this way ... whenever you have found yourself in a circumstance where you are in a lot of pain and you nod off between the pain and fall asleep and dream .... are you still feeling the pain?


    Exceptions include http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anesthesia_awareness as well as http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lucid_dream. I've read that with anesthesia awareness, a patient in rare instances might feel the physical pain, while I've experienced that in lucid dreaming we do not normally feel the body but, being conscious, you do of course remember your day and any psychological trauma associated with that.

    I had severe difficulties with this while I was in mourning as I was getting no rest during sleep and so I had to turn off my lucid dreaming and dream nonlucidly for a long time until I was able to better handle my emotions. Though I wasn't aware when I slept of my body's feelings, at that time I did often cry while mourning in my dreaming which would wake up my body which was already convulsing by the time it woke up and also with tears streaming down my face. So there most certainly is a physically responsive connection from mind to body beyond twitching or erections even while it sleeps.

    Still, sleep is generally a good analogy particularly as most people so freely surrender their consciousness to it every night of their life, so then why would there ever be any fear of surrendering consciousness even to death?
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    Aug 06, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    theantijock said
    AMoonHawk saidI think of it from time to time ... I don't like to dwell on it .. we are all going to die ... and like the song goes, "the best you can hope for, is to die in your sleep". I think of it this way ... whenever you have found yourself in a circumstance where you are in a lot of pain and you nod off between the pain and fall asleep and dream .... are you still feeling the pain?


    Exceptions include http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anesthesia_awareness as well as http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lucid_dream. I've read that with anesthesia awareness, a patient in rare instances might feel the physical pain, while I've experienced that in lucid dreaming we do not normally feel the body but, being conscious, you do of course remember your day and any psychological trauma associated with that.

    I had severe difficulties with this while I was in mourning as I was getting no rest during sleep and so I had to turn off my lucid dreaming and dream nonlucidly for a long time until I was able to better handle my emotions. Though I wasn't aware when I slept of my body's feelings, at that time I did often cry while mourning in my dreaming which would wake up my body which was already convulsing by the time it woke up and also with tears streaming down my face. So there most certainly is a physically responsive connection from mind to body beyond twitching or erections even while it sleeps.

    Still, sleep is generally a good analogy particularly as most people so freely surrender their consciousness to it every night of their life, so then why would there ever be any fear of surrendering consciousness even to death?


    Everytime you sleep, you experience somewhat a form of death, because many times you wake and cannot even remember the dreams
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    Aug 06, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    Thus, the study of http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bardo.
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    Aug 06, 2012 5:53 AM GMT
    Saad22 saidHow often do you think about death ?
    Considering I make a living 1000+ feet above the ground with nothing but air to support me, I think about death daily.
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    Aug 06, 2012 5:58 AM GMT
    Seriously? You're too young. You have a good 21 years to enjoy yourself before you should start to worry about those things. Don't think about it yet and enjoy life.
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    Aug 06, 2012 11:38 PM GMT
    I cheated death once so i am not too worried , but i am worried about a long sickness preceding my death .
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    Aug 07, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    Scruffypup said
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    Scruffypup saidI think about it daily. Sometimes to the point of panic. I hate the thought of living my entire life worrying about it, but I can't seem to not think about it. icon_sad.gif

    How interesting.... I had no clue that so many of our RJ guys felt this way.
    Must me something wrong with my wiring.. cause it really never crosses my mind.
    I've watched family members and loved ones get older, live their life fully then pass.
    Seems kind of natural to me. Just live every day like it's your last.



    I would like that feeling more than anything. But to me it's like being on a plane that's going down and trying to relax. I'm quite sure I've never gone a single day without thinking about death. Some days it's all I think about.


    What do you think is the core of this anxiety? What brings these feelings and thoughts to the front of your mind?



    I don't know for sure. It seems odd to me that some people don't think about it. If I had to guess, I'd say it was being raised in a fire and brimstone church.
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    Aug 07, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
    theantijock saidThus, the study of http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bardo.



    These usually follow a particular sequence of degeneration from, just after death, the clearest experiences of reality of which one is spiritually capable, and then proceeding to terrifying hallucinations that arise from the impulses of one's previous unskillful actions.

    This is exactly what I've always been afraid would happen! icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 07, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    theantijock saidThus, the study of http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bardo.



    These usually follow a particular sequence of degeneration from, just after death, the clearest experiences of reality of which one is spiritually capable, and then proceeding to terrifying hallucinations that arise from the impulses of one's previous unskillful actions.

    This is exactly what I've always been afraid would happen! icon_sad.gif


    You left out this part "For the prepared and appropriately trained individuals the bardo offers a state of great opportunity for liberation, since transcendental insight may arise with the direct experience of reality..."

    Find comfort being human and you will become comfortable with your mortality.
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    Aug 07, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    Saad22 saidHow often do you think about death ? For me , no matter how much I try to prepare myself ( not that I'm dying) , I can't seem to grasp the idea that one day the world will go on without me ( not trolling , just being sincere). Can you ever be ready to go , be at peace with the idea of dying ? Or is it just one of our primal instincts to be constantly terrified of death ?


    I think it is better to fear death than to accept it for what it is. I used to think about death so much that I couldn't even study, and the way I thought about it was that it would be the end to all the pain and suffering.

    To fear death is more natural than to desire it. I wish i could be afraid of dying :/