physical appearance or the goodness inside of a man? Which do you prefer?

  • nathantoy

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    Aug 06, 2012 12:43 PM GMT
    Though i dont have a mascular body or the good looking appearance which i should be proud of, i still want a man that can accept me for who i am and what i have. In exchange of that i will also love him the way i love my self.
  • FireDoor211

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    Aug 06, 2012 1:05 PM GMT
    Who someone is colors their appearance more as I come to know them. If they are rotten inside they seem less attractive to me, the opposite is true. The better they are inside the better that look to me.
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    Aug 06, 2012 1:07 PM GMT
    A bit of both. Being a nice person is paramount though. Looks are still important for physical attraction. If I didn't click with their looks they would probably be more of a friend.
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    Aug 06, 2012 1:15 PM GMT
    FalseDilemma
  • DrobUA

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    Aug 06, 2012 1:18 PM GMT
    You say you love yourself yet you put yourself down saying you are neither muscular nor good looking. Confidence can be a big part of what makes someone attractive so you should try and work on that..

    In answer to your question, you need a healthy medium. You can't force yourself to be attracted to someone just because they're nice and if you try and force yourself to like a douchebag just because he's hot it's not gonna last.
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    Aug 06, 2012 1:20 PM GMT
    nathantoy saidThough i dont have a mascular body or the good looking appearance which i should be proud of, i still want a man that can accept me for who i am and what i have. In exchange of that i will also love him the way i love my self.


    Physical appearance will get my attention. Personality is what makes me come back for more.
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    Aug 06, 2012 1:20 PM GMT
    LIEV saidFalseDilemma


    Yes...but how many shades of grey...50 perhaps?
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    Aug 06, 2012 1:23 PM GMT
    DrobUA saidYou say you love yourself yet you put yourself down saying you are neither muscular nor good looking. Confidence can be a big part of what makes someone attractive so you should try and work on that..

    In answer to your question, you need a healthy medium. You can't force yourself to be attracted to someone just because they're nice and if you try and force yourself to like a douchebag just because he's hot it's not gonna last.


    Agreed. Plus that healthy medium will always be different for everyone.
    For some looks may be more important (depending on what they are looking for exactly) and for others personality will outweigh looks.

    You're best bet is to get to a place where you feel comfortable and happy staying, and then hope that you find someone who likes where you are at.
    Don't worry too much though, someone will always be another person's type so contrary to some people's beliefs, they are in fact going to be someone's type because they exist.
  • nathantoy

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    Aug 06, 2012 1:33 PM GMT
    Well i am not putting down my self im just telling the truth especially now more men prefer mascular with a nice looking appearance.
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    Aug 06, 2012 1:45 PM GMT
    Both.
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    Aug 06, 2012 1:47 PM GMT
    If he's not a good guy, then his looks and body are irrelevant

    On the other hand, the nicer / sweeter a guy is, the better looking he gets!
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    Aug 06, 2012 1:49 PM GMT
    At night -- physical appearance
    In the AM -- personality
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    Aug 06, 2012 2:13 PM GMT
    If you fall in love with the personality, then the looks of someone doesn't really matter after that. ;)
  • nathantoy

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    Aug 06, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    Dexter305 saidIf you fall in love with the personality, then the looks of someone doesn't really matter after that. ;)

    That's really true. And thanks for the comment
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    Aug 06, 2012 2:21 PM GMT
    LIEV saidFalseDilemma
    This*^& Both, cause noone is going to take one and leave the other without having something lacking in and of themselves. A doesn't have to beautiful or the perfect picture of physical perfection to be attractive, nor does he have to have the best sense of humor, empathy and understanding of life to be compatible with me. Somewhere in the mists of all the possible traits a guy can have there is an uneven combination that is perfect for me, and where I'm at in my life now; cause he himself isn't perfect by any measurable deduction.
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    Aug 06, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    Both. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 06, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    Agreed with most of the answers on here. You need a good combination of both an amazing personality, and looks in my book.
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    Aug 06, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    For me it's ok as long as the person looks GOOD ENOUGH to get attracted, which is not too hard to get, the rest of the attraction comes and grows with personality. I believe that we humans are beyond the bodies we have. Our eyes are very tricky though, they can be caught by other guys but the rest requires much more to be caught icon_wink.gif Trust me, the more you love that person the better he will look (it's not something to be observed though. It just happens), because what you will see on him will be unique for you, nobody else will be able to see that in him or what he sees in you. Others may see muscle, a great shape or whatever in him but when you hug him, when you close your eyes you will see the true caring, giving, loving, the most beautiful person in your life.
    Lastly, appearance is important but love is never something as simple as appearance because we can never see it with our eyes so be careful with what you see, it's probably not what you are looking for if what you need is love.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Aug 06, 2012 3:52 PM GMT
    Personality but the physical attraction has to be there.
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    Aug 06, 2012 4:06 PM GMT
    Chocolately goodness on the inside. icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 06, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    redsoxfan791 said
    LIEV saidFalseDilemma


    Yes...but how many shades of grey...50 perhaps?


    @Red - You're SUCH a SADIST!!!! icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 06, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
    nathantoy said physical appearance or the goodness inside of a man? Which do you prefer?
    If the outside isn't appealing, there's no reason to check out what's inside.
  • ASHDOD

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    Aug 06, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    thats the whole problem ,i need BOTH. icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 06, 2012 5:18 PM GMT
    I'm going to skip right over the bullshit and tell you right now it's not one or the other. LIEV pretty much hit the nail on the head.

    There has to be some type of physical attraction that... well... ATTRACTS you to that person. I think personality certainly helps make person look better/worse in the long run, but there always has to be a blend of both, and the shades in-between.
  • mybud

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    Aug 06, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    nathantoy saidThough i dont have a mascular body or the good looking appearance which i should be proud of, i still want a man that can accept me for who i am and what i have. In exchange of that i will also love him the way i love my self.
    Two words...Live them....BE YOURSELF...Do that and you'll get what you're searching for ....Cheers