need advice, am i over my head

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    Aug 06, 2012 11:44 PM GMT
    about 3 months back i posted on this forum about a guy, which most of you repllied get rid of him

    anyway that guy left me for another and went on holiday with his new guy, when they got back he dumped his new guy saying that his new guy isnt ready enough for him

    i am now dating the guy he dumped, now im really liking him we get on so well, we are meeting every week, going gym, have a lot in common, been on three dates talked for over a month
    but
    i get this niggling feeling hes still after his ex, they have also started going to the gym together again and start tweeting a flirting on twitter, obviously were not together yet but am i right to feel a bit of with this situation??
  • barriehomeboy

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    Aug 06, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    it's called talking. It's what peope used to do face to face before the internet and Iphones. Ask the guy how he feels about you.
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    Aug 06, 2012 11:51 PM GMT
    in process of it fella, just wondering if im being stupid
  • jackthejock

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    Aug 06, 2012 11:52 PM GMT
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    Seriously that just sounds messy at best, I really can't imagine this ending well for you.
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    Aug 06, 2012 11:56 PM GMT
    thats what i was afraid of, the most annoying cuntish this is both of them are my type , like everything about them, looks personality, likes, hobbies, god sake grrrrrr
  • jackthejock

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    Aug 07, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    gymfreak1987 saidthats what i was afraid of, the most annoying cuntish this is both of them are my type , like everything about them, looks personality, likes, hobbies, god sake grrrrrr


    propose a threesome?
  • stratavos

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    Aug 07, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    jackthejock said
    gymfreak1987 saidthats what i was afraid of, the most annoying cuntish this is both of them are my type , like everything about them, looks personality, likes, hobbies, god sake grrrrrr


    propose a threesome?


    if it works out well it can be scheduled ;) every other week with surprise ones as well :p
  • O5vx

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    Aug 07, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    gymfreak1987 saidthats what i was afraid of, the most annoying cuntish this is both of them are my type , like everything about them, looks personality, likes, hobbies, god sake grrrrrr


    Find a tie beaker, lol.
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    Aug 07, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    gymfreak1987 saidabout 3 months back i posted on this forum about a guy, which most of you repllied get rid of him

    anyway that guy left me for another and went on holiday with his new guy, when they got back he dumped his new guy saying that his new guy isnt ready enough for him

    i am now dating the guy he dumped, now im really liking him we get on so well, we are meeting every week, going gym, have a lot in common, been on three dates talked for over a month
    but
    i get this niggling feeling hes still after his ex, they have also started going to the gym together again and start tweeting a flirting on twitter, obviously were not together yet but am i right to feel a bit of with this situation??
    Sounds like you live in one of those small areas where everyone has already dated everyone, and you're just now getting in the game.
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    Aug 07, 2012 5:46 AM GMT
    "niggling feeling"

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    Aug 07, 2012 5:55 AM GMT
    O5vx said
    gymfreak1987 saidthats what i was afraid of, the most annoying cuntish this is both of them are my type , like everything about them, looks personality, likes, hobbies, god sake grrrrrr


    Find a tie beaker, lol.
    I like the threesome idea better.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Aug 07, 2012 6:13 AM GMT
    Dude, get rid of both of them. They both sound like they have too much baggage. You're only just going to get hurt. Seriously...
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 07, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
    Mixleanmachine saidDude, get rid of both of them. They both sound like they have too much baggage. You're only just going to get hurt. Seriously...

    agreed you get in over your head too easily. If this is a true story you can tell by what you stated it won't go well, but we also only have the benefit of your side of the story. Keep your teeth white, your muscles hard and move on lad.
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    Aug 07, 2012 8:06 AM GMT
    Do you really want the drama these people bring
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    Aug 07, 2012 8:21 AM GMT
    So you might be thinking, these are 2 people that are completely your types.
    To be fair, I can see why you might be juggling this whole thing in your head because most people rarely meet even 1 guy that's totally their type that they end up having a relationship with, let alone 2.

    That being said, I do agree with the others in that this could be very messy.
    You have had a relationship with both of these guys, and let's not forget that it is a possibility that your ex had already talked about leaving you to go with this new guy (I don't know details for sure, I haven't seen your other forum post).

    So the new guy you're with could be the type of person to be okay with being the 'other' guy which I don't think generally is a good person to be with.
    If he's okay with being that person, it's fair to assume he'd be okay to cheat as well.
    I think you need to think long term, if neither of these guys seem like they would be good, stable guys to have a future with then I'd not waste anytime and get over them both.

    That really depeonds on what you want. If it's a monogamous relationship, neither of them sound like they'd be good options. If it's not, then that's something you'd have to discuss with the parties involved.

    Wish you all the best mate, truly!
  • masculumpedes

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    Aug 07, 2012 8:47 AM GMT
    Firebrand said"niggling feeling"

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    LOL......No, because there's no "R" in there.....icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 07, 2012 9:49 AM GMT
    Willybear said
    Firebrand said"niggling feeling"

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    LOL......No, because there's no "R" in there.....icon_wink.gif
    What if I say I feel nigglier than you. That has an R in it. Would that be racist? icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 07, 2012 10:23 AM GMT
    This might sound like a simple question but have you tried and talk to him? You can't really go around and wonder for all eternity..
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    Aug 07, 2012 10:35 AM GMT
    Sounds like a threesome to me ; )
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    Aug 07, 2012 10:46 AM GMT
    *sigh* Is it me or everyone goes after or back to the ex :s



    Why don't you ask about it directly. Have a quiet evening with him *sans sex* and talk about the relationship aspect.

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    Aug 07, 2012 11:18 AM GMT
    why would you shit where you eat?
    maybe its time to just back away, and go find someone who is not so complicated.
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    Aug 07, 2012 1:38 PM GMT
    gymfreak1987 saidabout 3 months back i posted on this forum about a guy, which most of you repllied get rid of him

    anyway that guy left me for another and went on holiday with his new guy, when they got back he dumped his new guy saying that his new guy isnt ready enough for him

    i am now dating the guy he dumped, now im really liking him we get on so well, we are meeting every week, going gym, have a lot in common, been on three dates talked for over a month
    but
    i get this niggling feeling hes still after his ex, they have also started going to the gym together again and start tweeting a flirting on twitter, obviously were not together yet but am i right to feel a bit of with this situation??


    OK, let's see if my old brain can get a handle on this:
    You have an Ex.
    Ex went out with New Guy then dumped New Guy.
    Now you are seeing New Guy.
    But now Mr New Guy is texting with your Ex again and going to gym with your Ex again.

    ....how'm I doing so far?
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    Aug 07, 2012 1:41 PM GMT
    The gays do love their drama.
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    Aug 07, 2012 1:44 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidThe gays do love their drama.


    lol, I find nothing gay about it except that it's all men in this triangle. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 07, 2012 1:55 PM GMT
    You're 24. You have a whole lot going for you, and I'm thinking - a ton of good things (and people) coming your way. Your profile here shows that you're a good guy - - - one who deserves a lot better than these two characters. I'd just let them go enjoy themselves..............without any scene or drama...........I'd just get busy with someone new.