Why Do Gay Guys Behave Like They Do

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    Aug 07, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    Just curious to get some feedback. There is a cute guy who works in the HR department of my company. I know absolutely for sure he's gay because he's in the Gay/Lesbian alliance at my work place. Anyway, both him and I have worked at my company for 7 years but in different departments. We've always had kind of a flirt thing going back and forth without even talking to each other. I was out at a gay bar recently taking a sip of my drink and someone bumped my arm walking past. I looked and it was him, he just kept walking with his nose in the air. I know he did it deliberately, but why do you think he walked away with such arrogance.? At another scenario outside of work at a gay street festival, I was walking and saw him and smiled and he looked me straight in the eye and turned to the guy he was with and kept talking but didn't acknowledge me. Any feedback is appreciated.
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:03 AM GMT
    Clearly, you have a crush on him. Confront him. Or ignore him like he did you, girl.
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:05 AM GMT
    tell him he needs to get over his piss poor attitude and stop being a stuck up cunt
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    eightball saidtell him he needs to get over his piss poor attitude and stop being a stuck up cunt


    This.

    To be fair, people of both sexes and all sexualities do this.
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    Sounds like he might be a mean drunk.
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:26 AM GMT
    Since you said there is a flirting thing going on without ever talking there is probably some attraction between the two of you. Since you are coworkers, maybe he has set some boundaries and that is as far as he is willing to take it. You may have not ever have experienced two gay people dating at work, but you have probably experienced straight people that have started dating. It often turns out in disaster and can make the workplace uncomfortable and sometimes one or both end up leaving.
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    You'll answer your own question in the way you respond on this two way street.
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:31 AM GMT
    redsoxfan791 said
    eightball saidtell him he needs to get over his piss poor attitude and stop being a stuck up cunt


    This.

    To be fair, people of both sexes and all sexualities do this.


    I agree.

    My friend has has been dealing with a similar situation with a female co-worker as well. She flirts with him at work but when she see's him out in public she acts like she does not know him. Both sexulalities deal with it.

    Maybe just directly ask him when you are out of the work place what his deal is.
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    lol this sounds like all the american kids at my school
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    Ignore him. Too much emotional energy spent on this matter.
    If you want a relationship (friendship) with this person, then address it directly.
    Otherwise, go on your merry way and let him be.
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    he sounds normal, im sure your being a bit dullsional (but im not there so idk) but he probably doesnt like you sexually ( i doubt he flirts with you to bud)
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    Steve60610 said...he just kept walking with his nose in the air. I know he did it deliberately.... he looked me straight in the eye and turned to the guy he was with and kept talking but didn't acknowledge me.


    ∆ Reason #437 why I don't go to gay bars.
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    dude, i say do not waste your time. if he is acting like that than he is probably not someone you want to get to know. i am different from most. if someone acts like to me. i just simply move on. i figure if they are acting like that than they are not worth my time
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    k1ng saidhe sounds normal, im sure your being a bit dullsional (but im not there so idk) but he probably doesnt like you sexually ( i doubt he flirts with you to bud)



    Yeah, I guess I'm just imagining the whole thing in my head. Geez
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:51 AM GMT
    There seems to be this culture among gay guys where they think it's attractive or appealing to behave like arrogant, icy dickheads. As if it's empowering or something to behave like Joan Crawford or Madonna.

    I can only speak for myself, but once I get that sense from someone, I just sense major overcompensating and I go pretty limp from there. I wouldn't give this guy the time of day, he sounds like a clown.
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    sorry steve, it just doesn't add up... your leaving something you know, or dont know out
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    Aug 07, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    He sounds like a FCB.

    A fucking cunty bitch. Next time you seen him, kick him in his vagina.
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    Aug 07, 2012 3:23 AM GMT
    k1ng saidhe sounds normal, im sure your being a bit dullsional (but im not there so idk) but he probably doesnt like you sexually ( i doubt he flirts with you to bud)


    I gotta agree with him. If anything, you are being vague about exactly how you guys flirt without even saying a word to each other. Him bumping into you sounds like a coincident, and it's more likely that he's avoiding you because he doesn't want to be involved with you than that he is interested in you. Most guys I know - gays included - don't play games like that.

    Besides that, please don't generalize. This is one gay guy who's been treating you in such a manner - it is obvious to me that you haven't met that many gay guys at all. If anything, you are behaving more or less the same way by not going up to him and saying hi yourself.
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    Aug 07, 2012 3:28 AM GMT
    Steve60610 saidJust curious to get some feedback. There is a cute guy who works in the HR department of my company. I know absolutely for sure he's gay because he's in the Gay/Lesbian alliance at my work place. Anyway, both him and I have worked at my company for 7 years but in different departments. We've always had kind of a flirt thing going back and forth without even talking to each other. I was out at a gay bar recently taking a sip of my drink and someone bumped my arm walking past. I looked and it was him, he just kept walking with his nose in the air. I know he did it deliberately, but why do you think he walked away with such arrogance.? At another scenario outside of work at a gay street festival, I was walking and saw him and smiled and he looked me straight in the eye and turned to the guy he was with and kept talking but didn't acknowledge me. Any feedback is appreciated.
    Welcome to the world of working with "fellow" gays.

    There's no rule saying you have to like them. You only have to get along for professional reasons. Other than that, fuck'em.
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    Aug 07, 2012 3:33 AM GMT
    Wait a second. Have you ever actually talked to this guy? Maybe you're just getting a wrong impression. Some people come off as rude, but after you actually talk to them they lighten up and end up being very interesting.

    I suggest you say hello and make small talk. If he really is a bitch, then blow him off, ignore him and never give him a second thought. BUT, you might be surprised to find that he might actually be pretty cool. Never know unless you try, right?
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    Aug 07, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    LVmotoJock saidWait a second. Have you ever actually talked to this guy? Maybe you're just getting a wrong impression. Some people come off as rude, but after you actually talk to them they lighten up and end up being very interesting.
    I don't give those people the time of day, unless I have to work with them. If they can't be nice from the beginning, they're not worth hanging around.
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    Aug 07, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    Greet him nicely every time.
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    Aug 07, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
    Caslon20000 saidGreet him nicely every time.
    They've been at the same company for 7 years. It's time for them to buy uzi's and start shooting at each other. Fuck being nice.
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    Aug 07, 2012 4:03 AM GMT
    He thinks he's too good for you.

    At work he flirted with you because, why not? It's work. He's bored. It's harmless.

    But outside of work flirtation would have consequences. He's not interested in those consequences and so he acts like a dick, either defensively or as an ego mechanism. It doesn't really matter. Have you ever heard the saying, "living well is the best revenge"? I'd take it to heart, because it's the only usefulness you'll cull from these cursory rejections.

    Be happy in a way that's simple and unattainable to people like him. Live well.
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    Aug 07, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    Clearly..the guy has Chlamydia..!!..(hello!)