I'm Tired of Being a Phone "Boyfriend.....?" :

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    Aug 08, 2012 7:21 AM GMT
    So there's this guy I've been talking to for almost three weeks now. We met online.
    We already have pet names for each other, we talk/text to each other on the phone, say good night to each other, send kissy emoticon texts, etc. He's really sweet and he's really nice and I really feel like we click.

    The thing is... I've brought up the idea of finally meeting each other for the first time, more than once, but he keeps blowing it off. His big excuse is that he's looking for an apartment and is busy of thinking about moving all of his stuff, etc., on top of working long hours and night shift...

    I know he's busy and all but I don't think that's a good enough reason for us to not meet. I didn't even care if he takes me to frakkin' McDonald's cuz I really like him and I really wanna get to see him. I mean, he finds time to hang out with his friends and co-workers, but not me......There's a gut feeling that tells me that something is wrong.

    Can you guys help me out? I'm tired of being a "phone boyfriend." icon_surprised.gif
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    Aug 08, 2012 9:40 AM GMT
    Lol it sounds like you're talking to me because I'm in the opposite side of this situation and I know it prob looks like he's just stringing you along but...sometimes it is him and not you.

    In my case I do like the guy but not sure if I'm wanting a relationship atm, but who knows I might just take that leap.

    Maybe your guy will do the same
  • calibro

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    Aug 08, 2012 11:40 AM GMT
    umm... if you've only talked to someone online and on the phone (for three weeks) he's not your boyfriend... start with that problem.
  • masculumpedes

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    Aug 08, 2012 11:44 AM GMT
    calibro saidumm... if you've only talked to someone online and on the phone (for three weeks) he's not your boyfriend... start with that problem.


    This is true, it usually takes a few bare feet photos...icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 08, 2012 11:50 AM GMT
    ry77 saidSo there's this guy I've been talking to for almost three weeks now. We met online.
    We already have pet names for each other, we talk/text to each other on the phone, say good night to each other, send kissy emoticon texts, etc. He's really sweet and he's really nice and I really feel like we click.

    The thing is... I've brought up the idea of finally meeting each other for the first time, more than once, but he keeps blowing it off. His big excuse is that he's looking for an apartment and is busy of thinking about moving all of his stuff, etc., on top of working long hours and night shift...

    I know he's busy and all but I don't think that's a good enough reason for us to not meet. I didn't even care if he takes me to frakkin' McDonald's cuz I really like him and I really wanna get to see him. I mean, he finds time to hang out with his friends and co-workers, but not me......There's a gut feeling that tells me that something is wrong.

    Can you guys help me out? I'm tired of being a "phone boyfriend." icon_surprised.gif


    What? You think that you're his bf cause you text each other for 3 weeks? You are kidding, right?
    My advice-get a life, and I mean real life, not onlineicon_rolleyes.gif
  • Karl

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    Aug 08, 2012 11:55 AM GMT
    he's not your boyfriend , that's all icon_neutral.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Aug 08, 2012 12:04 PM GMT
    I just noticed that you're in Vegas. Mcdonalds?.....hmmmm, how about the one on the corner of Flamingo & Decatur? icon_wink.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 08, 2012 12:06 PM GMT
    Time for the "relationship" to move upward and onward... or no. I'd tell him that its important for you both to meet, for your relationship to grow. If he blows you off, like "the dud on the 4th of July".. I'd go light another..

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    Aug 08, 2012 12:11 PM GMT
    hang up the fone, stop the texts move on!

    the guy is a flake. it is better you dodge the bullet now rather than later after investing more time and effort.

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    Aug 08, 2012 12:39 PM GMT
    calibro saidumm... if you've only talked to someone online and on the phone (for three weeks) he's not your boyfriend... start with that problem.


    Thank you. The guy probably already has a real world boyfriend and the OP is unfortunately a sexting distraction to salve the other guy's relationship boredom.
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    Aug 08, 2012 12:57 PM GMT
    He isn't a boyfriend.

    This is nothing more than a virtual acquaintance. He's not really even a friend -- since you don't have any shared experiences together.

    If you are in the same city and haven't met in person within the first 2-3 weeks of initial contact, something is wrong. Move along.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Aug 08, 2012 1:21 PM GMT
    If he really wants to be with you then he would make time to see you. That is the truth. He could also be fake.
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    Aug 08, 2012 2:05 PM GMT
    Mixleanmachine said If he really wants to be with you then he would make time to see you. That is the truth. He could also be fake.

    But he's sent me pics, even when he's out with his friends.

    Blackguy4you saidhang up the fone, stop the texts move on!

    the guy is a flake. it is better you dodge the bullet now rather than later after investing more time and effort.



    FYI, I know he's not a literal "boyfriend," but I see I got a consensus here...
    Thanks, you guys!! :]
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    Aug 08, 2012 2:08 PM GMT
    My previous one should have earned me a free T-shirt.

    Move on to someone who's available and if this is difficult, look into number blocking with your cell carrier. It works on text too.
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    Aug 08, 2012 2:08 PM GMT
    You said it yourself.. if your gut tells you something then you really to listen. And hearing you say that you dont care if he takes you to McDonalds sounds a little needy to me. You should have the confidence to want more than McDonalds...
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    Aug 08, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    Aggieboy saidYou said it yourself.. if your gut tells you something then you really to listen. And hearing you say that you dont care if he takes you to McDonalds sounds a little needy to me. You should have the confidence to want more than McDonalds...


    Well hell yea I want more than McDonald's, but if that's the only reason why we can't go out (which I don't think it is) then I don't mind.
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    Aug 08, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    Jay1922 saidLol it sounds like you're talking to me because I'm in the opposite side of this situation and I know it prob looks like he's just stringing you along but...sometimes it is him and not you.

    In my case I do like the guy but not sure if I'm wanting a relationship atm, but who knows I might just take that leap.

    Maybe your guy will do the same


    Well I want him to make a decision now, cuz I've already made mine to be with him... It's not fair to me. I guess I'm walking out of the waiting room...
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    Aug 08, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidTime for the "relationship" to move upward and onward... or no. I'd tell him that its important for you both to meet, for your relationship to grow. If he blows you off, like "the dud on the 4th of July".. I'd go light another..

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    The wisest advice (i. e. the advice I'd like to hear) goes to you, Handsome Kansan!
    Lemme see if I can talk to him about it.
    Thanks!
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    Aug 08, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    ry77 said.....

    The thing is... I've brought up the idea of finally meeting each other for the first time, more than once, but he keeps blowing it off.
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    , he finds time to hang out with his friends and co-workers, but not me......There's a gut feeling that tells me that something is wrong.
    ...

    He has time to chat online hang with friends but no time for you?

    Spending time with someone is committing to that relationship. As he isn't willing to do that he isn't committed to you. All he wants is someone to chat with when he's bored.
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    Aug 08, 2012 3:05 PM GMT
    This reminds me of my x. Our relationship devolved to phone & texting then to nothing...
    Moving along..
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    Aug 08, 2012 3:13 PM GMT
    He's most likely a fake profile, which is why he probably won't meet. Let me guess that you've noticed some discrepancies in his pictures, but you chose to ignore them?
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    Aug 08, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    smthjock saidHe's most likely a fake profile, which is why he probably won't meet. Let me guess that you've noticed some discrepancies in his pictures, but you chose to ignore them?


    Actually, no, unless I'm really that gullible...
    He said he went to a concert, I asked him to snap a pic of him, I got it. Looks legit.
    He told me he was eating with his friends/co-workers, I asked him to take a pic, he delivered...

    OK, I'll talk to him so I can really figure out what's going on.
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    Aug 08, 2012 5:16 PM GMT
    Read my profile about online dating. It's a lot of crap. I'm sure you are learning that first hand right now! In all likelihood one of you will not be satisfied upon meeting now that you have this artificial representation of him through pictures and texts.

    If you want to meet someone from online, meet immediately. Do not have long, blown out emotional interactions online. Emotions aren't transferred very well into 1's and 0's.

    Now we just need the rest of the world to realize this. Soon Facebook will fall, soon people will start recreating away from their computers. It will take a generation of failed relationships first.

    I see the future.
  • jayatl56

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    Aug 08, 2012 10:58 PM GMT
    Run like you're hair's on fire. That's a dead end deal.
  • FRIVER

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    Aug 08, 2012 11:09 PM GMT
    calibro saidumm... if you've only talked to someone online and on the phone (for three weeks) he's not your boyfriend... start with that problem.


    I agree...

    Advice to you.... Do not waste your time...