Too Keep or not to Keep...oh my Baby

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    Aug 09, 2012 12:14 AM GMT
    Hey guys.

    So first off, I want to introduce ya'll to my baby Boo (short for Boothawlameul). That's him below:

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    We've had him for three years now, but for the past while no one has really been home with him. Now this is where my problem steps in. Boo is so full of life, and he always wants to be around people. Now that I have endless amount of work and school, I'm hardly ever home. My parents are divorced and Boo and I love with Dad but Dad recently opened up his fourth restaurant and is literally never home. So all day long, Boo is home alone. I'd go and force myself to make time no matter what to walk him once a day but he needs more then that. It's just that whenever I think about giving him away, I get emotional and I just can't. I have such a strong bond with him, it's unbelievable. I mean, he's been there when no one else was. He doesn't judge me, and he listens. Ya, I know, he's a dog but he's my baby <3
    I never understood the meaning of "If you love something, let it go" until now. I love Boo more then anything, and I know he needs a better home so maybe I should let him go. But I don't think I can. I feel like I'm being selfish.

    What do you guys think?
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    Aug 09, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    The fact that you are willing to let him go for the sake of a better enviornment is very noble of you...noble and empathetic..
    ..Most pet owners think differently..you know what i mean..!!
    Well find him a great home if it comes to it..
    And if i had the time i'd definately take him off your hands..if you agreed..
    So cute !
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    Aug 09, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    Keep him and make the time. Trust me.

    When I moved away for school I was rarely at home, obviously, but I took the time to make it down every couple of days to spend time with my dog, even if it was just for a few hours. During that time I'd take him for walks and play with him until he was knocked out. At that point, he wanted to sleep and I would put him on my bed (where he sleeps) and go back to my condo. By the time my dog wanted to be up and running again, my dad would be home (my parents are divorced and I live with my dad too and the house is usually empty also). I bring my dog to stay with my mom during the weekends sometimes and he loves it, so maybe you could try bringing him back and forth if you feel your mom might help.

    Try and make it work. You're his family now. I would never think of giving my dog away. Good luck!

    Edit: I'm home for the summer now, but I'm moving out again in less than a month and I plan to do the same thing all over again icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 09, 2012 1:53 AM GMT
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    dude, u made a committment to have a dog. Follow through with it.
    I knows animals are not children, but it's still a thing that is alive and has feelings and shit....

    follow through with ur committment. Make more time for ur dog. Would it kill u to walk it twice a day? Maybe hire a dog-sitter like 2 days a week to take it out and play, etc.

    dont just give it away dude. he wuuuuvs u. He's so cute too,
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidHow dare you!.....this devoted loving dog has been your friend and wishes nothing more than to share love and time with you....and you want to get rid of him because he is inconvenient for you?...how noble that you want a better life for him....that just happens to make your life less attached and restricted.....future BF's need to be watching this and aware of how you treat loved ones.....I could no more give away my pets than I could my kids.....life and love is not a throw away for any reason....

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    Aug 09, 2012 2:19 AM GMT
    logical - get rid of it, you can't help it by being so busy

    emotional - keep it because it loves you, you love it, etc

    what matters more to you? the logical or the emotional?
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:31 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidHow dare you!
    Wow you don't have to be so rude about it.
    It's a legitimate concern from a caring dog owner.
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    Solution .... get him a little buddy to be at home with so he is not alone
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidSolution .... get him a little buddy to be at home with so he is not alone
    Good idea!
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    Aug 09, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    How you thought about a dog sitter? Get a neighborhood kid who wants to bay sit a dog for some money, either at your place or his place, and pick up your dog on your way to work. Don't give him away, because if he goes to the pound they might put him down.
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    Aug 09, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidNot "rude".....simple reminder that pets are a COMMITMENT and RESPONSIBILITY ...not a CONVENIENCE.....and while it is a "legitimate concern", the answer is that the pet should be a higher priority than it is currently being given....I stand by my original comment.....
    You basically attacked the OP saying that he's doing it for selfish reasons, and not for the sake of the dog being taken care of properly. You were a cunt, just admit it. You didn't even give him helpful advice like amoonhawk and daviddoublebay did.
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    Aug 09, 2012 3:40 AM GMT
    It is your truth love, you should not let it go. Maybe you buy one more dog so that your boo has a friend.
    good luck !
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    Aug 09, 2012 3:42 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidHow dare you!.....this devoted loving dog has been your friend and wishes nothing more than to share love and time with you....and you want to get rid of him because he is inconvenient for you?...how noble that you want a better life for him....that just happens to make your life less attached and restricted.....future BF's need to be watching this and aware of how you treat loved ones.....I could no more give away my pets than I could my kids.....life and love is not a throw away for any reason....


    First off, I never had intentions to get a dog. It was my dad's wishes, not mine. I came home one day and there he was, running up to me. I simply grew attached to him. So don't go bashing because you don't know the whole story.
    If anything, my dad should be the one bending over backwards for Boo but he isn't, I am. And he isn't an inconvenience to me, if anything, I'm an inconvenience to him; having him stay home all alone all day when he can be with a family that can play and care for him more then I ever could. I was the one who was opposed to getting pets because I knew we wouldn't have time for one, but my family still got one and now I'm the one who loves it more then anything when my family couldn't care less. Do you think it's better to have him sit at home alone all day and most nights alone, especially when he's so full of energy and longing for someone to give him attention? Or would you rather have him with a family that can be there for him, play with him, and give him all the attention he needs. Trust me, I don't want to give my baby away. It's the last thing I want to do. I tear up just thinking about it, but I have to put his needs before mine. I'm not saying I will do it, it's still being debated, but I'm saying that it's an option.
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    Aug 09, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    kawaiidesu said
    AMoonHawk saidSolution .... get him a little buddy to be at home with so he is not alone
    Good idea!


    That's actually a good idea! I'm gonna look into it!!
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    Aug 09, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    So...while we are on the subject of "get him a friend"...I think my dog is in need of a playmate. He's a pretty big dog at 6 months old, about 45 lbs now and still growing (lab/bulldog mix). He liked the cats our old roommates had so we've thought about a cat...anyone got any suggestions? I tossed in the idea of maybe getting an ankle biter.

    Early is alot to handle himself, so we don't want another big dog...but we're not sure quite what to do.
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    Aug 09, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
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    Sporty_g saidNot "rude".....simple reminder that pets are a COMMITMENT and RESPONSIBILITY ...not a CONVENIENCE.....and while it is a "legitimate concern", the answer is that the pet should be a higher priority than it is currently being given....I stand by my original comment.....
    You basically attacked the OP saying that he's doing it for selfish reasons, and not for the sake of the dog being taken care of properly. You were a cunt, just admit it. You didn't even give him helpful advice like amoonhawk and daviddoublebay did.


    Glad you changed your name, so we can feel like we have a new drama queen to be annoyed with...now be gone.. so you think I am the "CUNT" doing the attacking here and not offering anything positive here....look in the mirror or better yet, look back at YOUR posts in this thread...your posts have offered so many positive and helpful suggestions too, RIGHT?.....the only one being attacked here is ME by YOU! ....It must be a stereotyped generational thing that you don't get the idea of responsibility, commitment or seeing things through.....especially for defenseless, innocent pets.....
    The thought of getting the 2nd dog as a companion is great!


    Sporty_g I think you missed the whole part in the OP about how he walks his dog once a day no matter what and really wants what's best for this pal who has been there for him through the high and low. Clearly, he is a compassionate individual looking for support, but you treated him like some animal rights case. Completely inappropriate tone. But sometimes our tone does not come across the way we mean to on internet forums. Now lets just help Lash come to a decision. Peace
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    Aug 09, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    That is the cutest dog! Kinda bares a resemblance to the owner.
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    Aug 09, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidComments have been removed after private discussions with OP
    I was off base and apologize....icon_redface.gif


    Hugs make everything better... icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 09, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidComments have been removed after private discussions with OP
    I was off base and apologize....icon_redface.gif
    Apology accepted, I GUESS.
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    Aug 09, 2012 5:29 AM GMT
    If your parents had busy careers and gave you to some stranger(s) as a result, how would you have handled that later in life?

    That is the question I recently asked myself, since I frequently put my dog in a boarding place while the company sends me to BFE for days/weeks at a time.

    The answer I came up with was "keep the damn dog. It loves you and doesn't want anyone else."

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    Aug 09, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    I know how hard it is when life gets busy but don't give him away as you expressed really well how much he means to you. Think of things to do to keep him busy as well I send my boys to day care at least once a week and they love the company see what's available in your area.
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    Aug 09, 2012 7:10 AM GMT
    Is there someone you could leave him with during the day, a friend or even an inexpensive day care?
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    Aug 09, 2012 1:29 PM GMT
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    kawaiidesu said
    AMoonHawk saidSolution .... get him a little buddy to be at home with so he is not alone
    Good idea!


    That's actually a good idea! I'm gonna look into it!!


    It's a great idea, and so is a sitter or doggie daycare.

    Think like your Boo.

    Separation from you and home and adopted off to another family would be pretty horrible for him, especially because you wouldn't be able to explain to him why. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:25 PM GMT
    I understand why Sporty got upset, having never gotten my own dog, more forced to take in others as their owners realized they couldn't keep them, causing me to never to do it again, no matter how freaking adorable they are.
    I realize you are in almost the same situation as not having asked for the unconditional love in the first place.
    I say do you're best, hopefully Boo will be around for a good long time and it will guide your life plans.
    You'll have more time soon enough and cherish them more.