Phone number ettiquette??

  • 1974Warrior

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    Aug 09, 2012 11:21 AM GMT
    I've been going to this cafe and there is a really cute guy that works there. I've only talked to him a few times recently but there have always been people around (his fellow employees or customers) so the chats have been brief. He told me last week he is leaving for a new job in advertising so I was wondering would it be too sketchy or not acceptable in this day and age for me to give him my number on a piece of paper. (don't want to be like that Call Me Maybe song). I dont want to put him on the spot at work in front of people by asking him his number. If we were at a bar I would ask him for his number but I feel its inappropriate in this situation. Advice?
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    Aug 09, 2012 12:38 PM GMT
    Say, "Advertising is nice career. Is the company you're looking into still hiring? I'd like to hear more about them if you have some time after work, or I can give you my number?"

    Engaging him on his interest is the first thing you should do. You can try for a more private comfortabe setting to ask for his number but you might risk not getting it if you avoid being direct. It just takes alittle charisma and a sense of what is appropriate.
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    Aug 09, 2012 12:40 PM GMT
    but is he a homo?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 09, 2012 12:41 PM GMT
    I wouldn't hesitate. I'd just give him a little note, "if you would like to chat more, please call me, I'd really enjoy it!

    I know how I am.. I absolutely encourage you to do something like that!

    Good luck!

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    Aug 09, 2012 12:49 PM GMT
    guyathome74 saidSay, "Advertising is nice career. Is the company you're looking into still hiring? I'd like to hear more about them if you have some time after work, or I can give you my number?"

    Engaging him on his interest is the first thing you should do. You can try for a more private comfortabe setting to ask for his number but you might risk not getting it if you avoid being direct. It just takes alittle charisma and a sense of what is appropriate.


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  • 1974Warrior

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    Aug 09, 2012 1:43 PM GMT
    sootopolis saidbut is he a homo?


    His car bumper sticker says "I don't mind straight people, as long as they don't act all straight in public." lol but he is not an in your face gay.

    I know nothing about the advert business so asking for a job or talking about it would make me look like a bumbling idiot if he started to ask me questions lol. Ok he's usually there tonight so gunna give it a shot!
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:07 PM GMT
    Judging by the bumper sticker (assuming he put it on there and didn't purchase the car with it already installed) I would guess he is at least okay with LGBT so....

    Hell yes, what am I saying? I'd do it, if I was interested, rather or not he had some clues. I think you just be polite and aware of his current working environment.
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    I would write him a note like this:

    Wishing you the best at your new job. It would be great to hang out together at your convenience.
    It'll give me the opportunity to make you coffee!
    1974Warrior
    (telephone#)
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    Print business cards.

    Hand them out.

    Much classier than the whole "number on a dirty napkin" thing.
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    Just give it to him, he'll be flattered, it he's gay of course
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:27 PM GMT
    His new advertising job could make a very plausible reason for asking him his number in public, IF he's told you his current cafe employer knows about the job change. Then you can openly use a dialogue like guyathome74 suggests.
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    Aug 09, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    I think it's nice to just give him your name and number. Say something friendly like "if you're up for grabbing a cup of coffee or drink sometime, give me a call." The ball is then in his court. If he's interested he'll call, if he isn't, he won't.

    I wouldn't lie and say you're interested in talking about advertising or anything. It's never good to start off with something dishonest. That would make me very wary going forward if I were him.