The dreaded telephonic relationship: I hate it when guys say things like "I dont wanna meet you because I dont wanna get hurt"...

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    Aug 10, 2012 9:00 AM GMT
    So I was chatting to this guy who wanted to meet up. He was really keen on hooking up and having some fun with me. I told him I have to meet this other guy (hot muscled gay guy) for a gym session, and he got offended.

    Next thing I know this guy starts with that crap of "we shouldnt meet cause Ill just fall in love and get hurt" blah blah blah.

    But we havent even met yet and niw this speak of falling in love..., and he gave me the impression that he just wanted to do some not-too-straight things with me. Suddenly Im like his telephonic boy friend (and now the biggest asshole he has ever met)

    WTF??

    Why are some guys so infatuated as if they have breasts and no balls? We havent even met yet. We havent even spoken in person yet. And now Im TelephonicBoyfriend 2.1 model B.

    Do you see any point in not meeting someone cause you are frightened that you may probably from a future possible prediction click with with that person and you guys all live happily ever after.
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    Aug 10, 2012 11:37 AM GMT
    and as the sands turn... tune into another episode of gay men are flakes and a*holesicon_evil.gif
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    Aug 10, 2012 11:58 AM GMT
    The funny part is you actually waste time thinking (and posting) about him. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 10, 2012 12:51 PM GMT
    Use the convenience of electronic communication to connect, not to create a relationship. A couple texts is all it should take to arrange a meet up.
  • bmw0

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    Aug 10, 2012 12:59 PM GMT
    It sounds to me like he found his excuse not to meet you, most likely because he isn't who he as portrayed himself to be.

    I say count your lucky stars.
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    Aug 10, 2012 1:38 PM GMT
    Just be friends. Not "friends first and then if we click..." because that sets up expectations to. Just try to be friends. Anything else is just gravy. Compatibility as friends is often the biggest challenge.

    We don't know the full story in your situation because we don't know what was actually said but it sounds like you both had different intentions to begin with.


  • TonyD

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    Aug 10, 2012 2:33 PM GMT
    Myol,
    That's a more mature response
    Thank you

    Has it ever occurred to you guys that this guy is scared and the 'workout date' sounds like a euphemism for sex?
    Stop acting like insensitive straight men and grow a pair that allow consideration for the scared guy...
    at least he didn't just disappear... He said he doesn't want to get Hirt. Pretty honest is how I see it.
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    Aug 10, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidThe funny part is you actually waste time thinking (and posting) about him. icon_lol.gif
    This*^
    YOY
  • mybud

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    Aug 10, 2012 3:01 PM GMT
    If a guy tells ya he's doesn't wanna meet cause he's afraid to get hurt....Not much of a man...Grab up your nuts and move on...You deserve better.
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    Aug 10, 2012 3:06 PM GMT
    He is another gay in the "gays of our lives"!

    Maybe he misunderstood when you explained your gym session. But either way he sounds like someone not to bother with.
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    Aug 10, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    Blackguy4you saidand as the sands turn... tune into another episode of gay men are flakes and a*holesicon_evil.gif


    Just laughed so hard my morning coffee is on the floor...thanks icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 10, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    What a load of bullshit. Don't waste your time on someone so emotionally unstable.
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    Aug 10, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    His excuse for not meeting is bs, he is clearly hiding something from you. He's not worth any more of your time, at all. Period.
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    Aug 10, 2012 5:23 PM GMT
    Big Guy Said :
    Why are some guys so infatuated as if they have breasts and no balls? We havent even met yet. We havent even spoken in person yet. And now Im TelephonicBoyfriend 2.1 model B.

    LMAO..
    Big guy..he saved you so much trouble by being himself...Run away from this one!!

    "TelephonicBoyfriend 2.1 model B"...Ok i have to call a few friends to tell them about this one..lol
  • FredMG

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    Aug 10, 2012 5:29 PM GMT
    You're better off without him.
    Just like I'm better off not dating the guy who was putt off because I said that the "man candy" at the gym wasn't the only reason that I worked out.
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    Aug 10, 2012 5:34 PM GMT
    obese fat guy
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    Aug 10, 2012 7:03 PM GMT
    biguy1on1 said

    Next thing I know this guy starts with that crap of "we shouldnt meet cause Ill just fall in love and get hurt" blah blah blah.


    He hasn't even met you yet and he started saying that? Good lord. Is he still in high school?
  • TonyD

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    Aug 11, 2012 12:01 AM GMT
    He may be lying,however I'd ask him
    'why do you think you'd get hurt?'
    My guess: sounds like he got (inappropriately)
    jealous over your workout with another RJ member.
    Fantasy crushed.
    Sometimes vulnerability is an entrance to something.
    (hence my original message) Sometimes, not always.|
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    Aug 15, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    Hehe, some of these comments... Okay, so I did the unthinkable and arranged a coffee date with the guy. Wont give the details but yeah, should have followed this advice. What an asshole. I'm so glad he hasn't contacted me back.

    All I can say is that he was so desperate for sex, he just wanted to drive across town in search of motels where we could do it. Freaked me out bigtime, and he wasnt even a great kisser.

    Next!
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    Aug 15, 2012 4:04 AM GMT
    I have had a few dates in My time. I roll with it pretty well...

    But NEVER has anyone said to Me "I have to meet this other guy (hot muscled gay guy) for a gym session."

    What do what Ya want Dude??? - until We share a mortgage it's none of My business. Who cares about Yer" gym session???"

    SERIOUSLY - ya don't know how to romance a Dude a little bit???

    He MAY have been turned-off by Yer lack of finesse????

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    Aug 15, 2012 4:07 AM GMT
    biguy1on1 saidHehe, some of these comments... Okay, so I did the unthinkable and arranged a coffee date with the guy. Wont give the details but yeah, should have followed this advice. What an asshole. I'm so glad he hasn't contacted me back.

    All I can say is that he was so desperate for sex, he just wanted to drive across town in search of motels where we could do it. Freaked me out bigtime, and he wasnt even a great kisser.

    Next!



    You kissed it?! Eeeeeeeeewwwwwwwww icon_eek.gificon_confused.gif
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    Aug 15, 2012 4:08 AM GMT
    biguy1on1 saidHehe, some of these comments... Okay, so I did the unthinkable and arranged a coffee date with the guy. Wont give the details but yeah, should have followed this advice. What an asshole. I'm so glad he hasn't contacted me back.

    All I can say is that he was so desperate for sex, he just wanted to drive across town in search of motels where we could do it. Freaked me out bigtime, and he wasnt even a great kisser.

    Next!


    Hey LOOK!!

    Faceless Dude with empty profile!!!!

    yeah

    we're ALL "driving across town" to have sex with joe-average...

    yeah..

    course

    right

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