What makes you stand out from the crowd?

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    Aug 13, 2008 1:44 PM GMT
    Seems like all my life, I've had to RE-introduce myself to people. They'll say...."Nice to meet you" and I'll say..."...this is like the 10th time we've met."
    It makes me feel like there is nothing about me that is memorable...visually or otherwise.
    Yesterday while running on the the Trail I run everyday, I wore a different colored (white) hat and a shirt. Typically, I run shirtless and wear a black hat. Several people who typically wave at me, ran right by me with not even a nod my way...the topper was my BEST friend ran right by me without even noticing it was me.icon_eek.gif
    Periodically, I will see someone I know on the street or a cafe and I'll wave and smile and they just give me this blank stare...sometimes I don't even try, but other times, I walk over and have to tell them "It's me, Billy!".
    I've asked people what's the deal? I'm usually told, I "never look the same"...sometimes I have a hat on, sometimes I don't. I change my hair length too often or one day I'm wearing glasses, one day, I'm not.
    I don't buy these reasons...I mean, how come I recogonize you, but you don't recogonize me?
    Am I that generic looking?
    So...how do you stand out in the crowd? What makes you recognizable that I'm obviously not doing well?
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    Aug 13, 2008 2:18 PM GMT
    I'm sorry, but your post made me laugh, especially, "It's me, Billy" and your best friend running right past you.

    It used to happen to me a lot, especially with gay men. There have been times I was tempted to say, "Yes, I know your name is ___________ because we've met ten times!!"

    Some people can look very different by slightly changing one thing...but I don't think that's bad. Think about it - certain actors always look the same no matter what role they are playing, such as Tom Cruise. There are others you can't recognize from role to role because they become a completely different person by changing a few things.

    Maybe you could start a running joke with people. Try going to a party with a name tag that says, "Hi, my name is Billy."
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    Aug 13, 2008 2:40 PM GMT
    Well my walk gives me away from about a mile! I walk like an old sea captain with a wooden leg.

    Besides that I have a pretty direct way of looking at people. As if I find you the most interesting person in the world. I just find people interesting, nothing personal or sexual.
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    Aug 13, 2008 3:10 PM GMT
    smalltownboy saidI mean, how come I recogonize you, but you don't recogonize me?
    Am I that generic looking?
    So...how do you stand out in the crowd? What makes you recognizable that I'm obviously not doing well?


    Ha! I've often wondered this myself. I have a friend who's boyfriend has met me a dozen times, and never remembers meeting me. I gave up.

    I've always felt like I stood out like a sore thumb...apparently not. People always compliment me on my eyes, which is what I usually remember about people, but that's not the case in reverse.

    *shrugs*

    Working in marketing has really helped change my perspective.

    Lately, I've noticed that accessories are a good conversation starter. I have a necklace and bracelet that I wear all the time. People ask me about them each quite a bit, so maybe that'll work.
  • ShawnTX

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    Aug 13, 2008 3:18 PM GMT
    I'm pretty memorable because when I meet someone for the first time I do my best to get them laughing. Plus, I'm bound to say something very un-PC and very inappropriate.
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    Aug 13, 2008 4:16 PM GMT
    I usually get comments on my energy. I'm a pretty extroverted guy, and I tend to attract people when I'm talking. Kind of intangible, but it's what I'm most noted for. I've even gotten this response in interviews when I've tried to be as calm as I can be.

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    Aug 13, 2008 4:32 PM GMT
    sometimes standing out in a crowd sucks. icon_cry.gif
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    Aug 13, 2008 4:43 PM GMT
    People remember me because I smile a lot... it's just something that I do. Also when I'm up for it... I usually dress better than most people i.e unique pair of jeans or shirt etc but most times I'm bland.
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    Aug 13, 2008 4:50 PM GMT
    Hehe, I get people all the time saying they know me from somewhere (usually work, damn customer service) and I can NEVER remember meeting them. I am just horrible with names and faces. Unlees I am attracted to them ofcourse... then THEY can never remember who I am and I am drooling all over them lol.
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    Aug 13, 2008 4:50 PM GMT
    I show them my underwear...if I'm wearing any at all. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 13, 2008 5:40 PM GMT
    I have only one leg, a killer smile, and blue green eyes!!
    At first I was self-concious as hell about the leg, now I fugure hell I'm still alive. So I have decided it's got to be my eyes!! LOL
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    Aug 13, 2008 5:44 PM GMT
    my swagger... lol
  • art_smass

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    Aug 13, 2008 5:54 PM GMT
    I'm in good shape. In today's tubby society, that makes me stick out like a sore thumb.
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    Aug 13, 2008 5:56 PM GMT
    ShawnTX saidI'm pretty memorable because when I meet someone for the first time I do my best to get them laughing. Plus, I'm bound to say something very un-PC and very inappropriate.


    You are being modest, it is your big brown eyes, and the batting of your eyelashes that people will remember you for. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 13, 2008 6:07 PM GMT
    Drastic changes in look will make it hard to recognize people, specially in the face area (hats, hair, beard, mustache). You usually recognize characteristics you've memorized, but, like you say, it's kind of weird that this happens so often. I mean, it's not like you change your face. Maybe the problem isn't you. It's your friends. Give them memory exercises, it's not good for them to have bad memories.

    And looking at your profile, there are some pictures I could say that are of two different people at first glance, although once you look closely it's obvious it's you.

    But in general, I think, people tend to remember quirks. So, be quirky. I, for example, will poke my friends' noses. And one of them will try to bite me when I do. That makes people remember us. And sometimes it will make people stay away.
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    Aug 13, 2008 6:40 PM GMT
    Usually people notice my smile or my hair, complimenting the length and styling. The other day I was complimented on my entire look which being the fag I am, meant something to me.

    Sadly though, to me many gay men are interchangeable due to their homogenous looks, dull personalities, and/or lack of humor/wit.
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    Aug 13, 2008 7:00 PM GMT
    HighVoltageGuy saidI show them my underwear...if I'm wearing any at all. icon_biggrin.gif


    My type of guy.

    COMMANDO is the way to go!
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    Aug 13, 2008 7:02 PM GMT
    Let's see:

    Deathly pale
    Unusualy dress style
    Always say something unPC
    English person in France
    Always invent phantasmagorical stories when people ask where I come from, and then mock the individual if he believes me.

    Think that about covers it.
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    Aug 13, 2008 7:07 PM GMT
    ah yes, the timeless, "i've met 30 times, you STILL dont remember me" issue. it happens quite a bit, not everyone's memory is that good unfortunately. and sometimes, people can't be bothered to remember. what matters is that YOU do.

    it really depends on what i do that's how people will remember me. kinda like ShawnTX's, i might say something un-PC about filipinos or asians. i also wear a dual pendant around my neck of the runes Ur and Algiz, sometimes they'll home in on that. i've had people say they remember me because of my sideburns and how unusual it is to find it on someone of my heritage.

    there's this one dude who i called out in public. We've hung out with the same group of friends 3 times already in the last 2 weeks but he acts like we haven't met. so just to mess with him, i said, "hey michael, nice to see you again. what's MY name?" He was beet red and flustered for 5 minutes, then i pulled him out of his misery, LOL.
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    Aug 13, 2008 8:21 PM GMT
    What's even worse is guys who don't remember sleeping with you! icon_evil.gif
  • ZFaust

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    Aug 13, 2008 8:23 PM GMT
    I'm a sociologist and the main part of what I do is study people in communities. I've learned a lot about how to blend in with people when I have to.

    You seem to be worried about not looking like yourself, but honestly the best way to not seem to be yourself is to change little things. You mentioned wearing a different coloured hat and wearing a shirt. That's exactly the small kind of thing that throws people for a loop.

    People recognize me because I dress in a way that is kind of my own. People recognize me based on my personality and a few unique things I wear.
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    Aug 13, 2008 9:58 PM GMT
    AshLeon saidAnd looking at your profile, there are some pictures I could say that are of two different people at first glance, although once you look closely it's obvious it's you.

    I tend to change my "look" from month to month, sometimes I have facial hair, sometimes I don't. Sometimes longer side burns, sometimes none. It's rare to see me without a hat or head gear, so when I don't wear one, I must look totally different. The length of my hair changes etc, but I know lots of people that do this and I don't have to be reintroduced to them....
    l1lz44 said You seem to be worried about not looking like yourself, but honestly the best way to not seem to be yourself is to change little things. You mentioned wearing a different coloured hat and wearing a shirt. That's exactly the small kind of thing that throws people for a loop..

    I'm prone to wearing the same blue LA hat and since I work & play outdoors, I'm shirtless alot, so perhaps the blue hat & no shirt (plus my big-ass tattoo on my back) are rememberance points for people. People seem to know me with the LESS clothes I wear!icon_eek.gificon_redface.gif and of course something covering my hair...
    It seems to be more of a visual nature then anything else...
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    Aug 13, 2008 11:40 PM GMT
    If you wear a hat all the time, that might be the reason. Hats cover much of what makes us unique and memorable (hair style, lenth, color, face and so forth.
  • geebus

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    Aug 13, 2008 11:46 PM GMT
    I dyed my hair PINK! So now people can recognise me from a mile away.
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    Aug 13, 2008 11:46 PM GMT
    My Accent, grew up in Boston area Try not to say any word with the letter "r" in it. Yeah you own a Vehicle not a Car or CAH. BTW we speak it right the rest of the country is WRONG, Can I add that Boston arrogance