I give up on Men.

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    Aug 10, 2012 1:36 PM GMT
    So I was seeing this guy and I felt amazing connection with him and he's incredibly gorgeous...well it turns out I was played like a fiddle and it feels awful. I took a risk and invested my feelings with this guy only to get hurt in the end.

    Yeah today it feels awful and don't wanna do anything but just lay in bed. I've decided to not give another guy a chance at me until wayy down the road.

    During this time of healing though I need some encouragement to get over this quick and to focus on my career and perhaps encouragement to not give up on guys, I dunno.

    . Come on RJ give this fellow RJocker some love icon_cry.gif

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    Aug 10, 2012 2:04 PM GMT
    Ill give u a pass on the aggie thing. Hook um horns.

    I have a couple questions for you tho. Is this your first relationship with a man? How long were you together? Did you both agree that the relationship was exclusive? How long have you been out?
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    Aug 10, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
  • musicdude

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    Aug 10, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    here's what i got form this.
    - dramatic title
    - something non specific happened
    - you want attention
  • Karl

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    Aug 10, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    just do what you want , believe in yourself and I think focusing on your career is a great choice.

    *hugs*
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    Aug 10, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    Aggieboy saidSo I was seeing this guy and I felt amazing connection with him and he's incredibly gorgeous...well it turns out I was played like a fiddle and it feels awful. I took a risk and invested my feelings with this guy only to get hurt in the end.

    Yeah today it feels awful and don't wanna do anything but just lay in bed. I've decided to not give another guy a chance at me until wayy down the road.

    During this time of healing though I need some encouragement to get over this quick and to focus on my career and perhaps encouragement to not give up on guys, I dunno.

    . Come on RJ give this fellow RJocker some love icon_cry.gif



    Hey man, You're 26, youre handsome and got an awesome body.

    You're going to get over him, move on and find someone better. One day he's going to look at the way he treated you and realise you could have been the best thing in his life.

    You will never know whether the next boy or the one after him will be the ONE you will spend the rest of your days with.

    You're never going to meet the One unless you get out there.

    *hugs*
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    Aug 10, 2012 2:32 PM GMT
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    Not sure if comforting; or about to put him out of his misery by snapping his neck?
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    Aug 10, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    Love hard or don't love at all. Get back in there....
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    Aug 10, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    musicdude saidHere's what i got from this;

    - dramatic title
    - something non specific happened
    - you want attention


    Yep. Moving on...
  • Splendidus_1

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    Aug 10, 2012 2:56 PM GMT
    I'm taking a "expect nothing but the worse" stand, when it comes to guys. Zero disappointments so far. If something good comes up, then see it as a bonus.

    No guy should be a priority in your life -- or else your hapiness is at someone else's will. You should be the one controlling it icon_smile.gif
  • mybud

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    Aug 10, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    Give up on men for a while...It's healthy...Just don't give up on yourself...cause your kinda amazing....Steve
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    Aug 10, 2012 3:12 PM GMT
    Aggieboy saidSo I was seeing this guy and I felt amazing connection with him and he's incredibly gorgeous...well it turns out I was played like a fiddle and it feels awful. I took a risk and invested my feelings with this guy only to get hurt in the end.

    Yeah today it feels awful and don't wanna do anything but just lay in bed. I've decided to not give another guy a chance at me until wayy down the road.

    During this time of healing though I need some encouragement to get over this quick and to focus on my career and perhaps encouragement to not give up on guys, I dunno.

    . Come on RJ give this fellow RJocker some love icon_cry.gif



    At first I was like... icon_neutral.gif then I was icon_rolleyes.gif and now I'm JUST ALL

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    Aug 10, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    sc69 said: Hey man, You're 26, youre handsome and got an awesome body.


    ^^^ LOL! as if the young, good looking, and fit, don't have any emotions!
    way to reduce him to a temporary moment in life.

    i wish that people would just treat each other nicely. its so basic, but so uncommon.

    anyways, yes, you're entitled to lick your wounds. let this be a lesson in life: don't be dazzled by the gorgeous. its whats inside that counts (and hurts) the most.

    xo
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    Aug 10, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    First: GIG'EM AGGIES!!!!

    Second: It's part of life. You should feel better knowing that it happens to everybody.

    Third: Got a little story for ya, Ags! I was stood up twice by the same guy in the same week---the second time being on Valentines Day after I waited for him over an hour at a restaurant. Yeah, you don't think I felt lower than the rent on a burning building?

    Fourth: Just when you think there's nobody else out there, somebody comes along and you forget all about ol what's his name. Happens every time.

    Fifth: Men are pigs. We all know this and yet we continue the chase/search.

  • camfer

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    Aug 10, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    Taking a little time to heal is good. The fact that you're heartbroken now just means you're capable of love. On another day, you'll meet a guy who loves you back. Hugs.
  • DanOmatic

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    Aug 10, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    Take some time to get some perspective on what transpired, and allow yourself to sort through your emotions. It's not clear from your post whether "seeing this guy" means you went on a couple of dates or you had a deep, long-standing, and mutual relationship. If the former, you shouldn't linger too long on feeling down about it. That's more about a bruised ego than real heartache.

    If the latter, however, and if your guy intentionally led you on (as opposed to you assuming there was more there than really was the case), then yeah--that really sucks. It sucks on two levels: it leaves you hurt and angry, and then you also feel foolish at having been played (and then you're turning the hurt and anger inward), because you feel you "should have known better than to be vulnerable".

    Like a few others have said: take heart, because feeling big emotions for someone is a risk, and it requires courage to put yourself out there. It means that you're capable of big love for the right person when he comes along.

    The worst thing you can do is to let this experience make you bitter or cynical. Maybe there are lessons to be learned in how to spot players or disregulated/disordered personalities before forming attachments to them. But don't let it keep you from getting back onto the saddle and giving it another go when the time is right.

  • stratavos

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    Aug 10, 2012 4:25 PM GMT
    mybud saidGive up on men for a while...It's healthy...Just don't give up on yourself...cause your kinda amazing....Steve


    that's so adorable! *hug*
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    Aug 10, 2012 4:33 PM GMT
    No worries, man. You're a great looking guy, intelligent, young, a great body. You might find someone tomorrow or next week who is light years ahead of the guy who hurt you. It's all temporary.

    Just chill, watch a movie, work out, hang out with a friend, whatever, and you'll be better by Monday.
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    Aug 10, 2012 4:47 PM GMT
    We all get used. Get used to it.

    Consider that you got off light because this is just part of your training for when you've loved someone for 20 or 50 years before they screw you. That's always a fun ride.

    Never let that stop you from loving, though. Because some people will never screw you. And you never know which is which until it happens or for as long as it doesn't which is either a problem to fret over or a mystery to ponder or an excitement to behold or a puzzle to solve, depending on your outlook onto life.

    Life is a play and we all play a part
    The Lover, the Dreamer, the Clown
    ~~Lewis & Young
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    Aug 10, 2012 4:56 PM GMT
    I just broke up with my BF of 21 months .I Dated last night and have dates for tonight and this weekend. You carry your happiness within you. Dont make it someone else's responsibility.
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    Aug 10, 2012 5:00 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidIll give u a pass on the aggie thing. Hook um horns.

    I have a couple questions for you tho. Is this your first relationship with a man? How long were you together? Did you both agree that the relationship was exclusive? How long have you been out?


    To answer your questions no this isn't my first relationship. I've had two infusing one for 4 yrs. yes we were exclusive. I've been out for ever.
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    Aug 10, 2012 5:03 PM GMT
    DanOmatic saidTake some time to get some perspective on what transpired, and allow yourself to sort through your emotions. It's not clear from your post whether "seeing this guy" means you went on a couple of dates or you had a deep, long-standing, and mutual relationship. If the former, you shouldn't linger too long on feeling down about it. That's more about a bruised ego than real heartache.

    If the latter, however, and if your guy intentionally led you on (as opposed to you assuming there was more there than really was the case), then yeah--that really sucks. It sucks on two levels: it leaves you hurt and angry, and then you also feel foolish at having been played (and then you're turning the hurt and anger inward), because you feel you "should have known better than to be vulnerable".

    Like a few others have said: take heart, because feeling big emotions for someone is a risk, and it requires courage to put yourself out there. It means that you're capable of big love for the right person when he comes along.

    The worst thing you can do is to let this experience make you bitter or cynical. Maybe there are lessons to be learned in how to spot players or disregulated/disordered personalities before forming attachments to them. But don't let it keep you from getting back onto the saddle and giving it another go when the time is right.



    To answer your question.. Yes he led me on for almost two months. We had had seen each other about every other day.
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    Aug 10, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    hou2jax saidFirst: GIG'EM AGGIES!!!!

    Second: It's part of life. You should feel better knowing that it happens to everybody.

    Third: Got a little story for ya, Ags! I was stood up twice by the same guy in the same week---the second time being on Valentines Day after I waited for him over an hour at a restaurant. Yeah, you don't think I felt lower than the rent on a burning building?

    Fourth: Just when you think there's nobody else out there, somebody comes along and you forget all about ol what's his name. Happens every time.

    Fifth: Men are pigs. We all know this and yet we continue the chase/search.



    And thank you guys for the awesome posts I like the fourth rule. One day soon I'll look back at this and wonder why I was upset over this guy..
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    Aug 10, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    musicdude saidhere's what i got form this.
    - dramatic title
    - something non specific happened
    - you want attention


    And thanks for this post as well!
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    Aug 10, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
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