Relationship on the fritz?

  • geebus

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    Aug 12, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    It seems recently that boyfriend has stopped putting in effort in our relationship. I mean fair enough he's been really busy at work.
    He's told me from the start that he's not into muscly guys, but I feel it's becoming more and more apparent.
    *sigh* if only I could read his mind...
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    Aug 12, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    You can't read his mind but you can confront him about it and ask him.

    Life's too short for games. Your personal happiness and well being matters more. Good luck.
  • geebus

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    Aug 12, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    Thanks Josh, I asked him about it, and he says his feelings towards me hasn't changed.
    *scratch head* I thought women were hard to read!
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    Aug 12, 2012 10:36 AM GMT
    maybe you could take some time to remind each other why you are together.
    take him out, go on holiday, whatever. or something that you both did at the start of your relationship together.
    i have found that there have been two main points in my 3 yrs with my partner than have made this neccessary for both of us.

    1) about 18 months ago, he was assigned a massive case at work and had to almost literally live at the office to get through a mammoth amount of paper work. thus our time apart often outnumbered our time together. i started to feel frustrated and he tarted to feel distant. so once he finished the case, we took a trip to st lucias were some of his family are and introduced ourselves as a couple. that really helped us value oursevles as a unit as well as hard working individuals.

    2)about three months ago, i had three of my trainers leave in the space of two weeks and i had to find replacements within a month, which had simiar consequences. so we spent a week off taking turns having a day ech to spoil each other, and the weekend to um...relax...icon_biggrin.gif

    both times felt like the end of the world to us both, and both seem a bit silly now. but we had LOTS of fun making it right.icon_biggrin.gif

    i dont know how long you guys have been together but these things just pop up. you could see it as an oportunity to wow him again, like you obviously did to begin with.

    im sure that wont go unoticed, if he is a reasonable man.

    but it starts with letting him know as you have

    hope this helps
  • geebus

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    Aug 12, 2012 10:55 AM GMT
    Yeah i see what you mean. I think we both need a holiday somewhere between my never ending schedule of teaching and his massive workload.

    Although his housemate works shifts so it makes..."relaxing"...not so relaxing and quite stressful.

    But I think you're absolutely right. I'm gonna start by playing out our first date kinda thing haha.

    Btw we've been together for about 9 months now
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    Aug 12, 2012 11:02 AM GMT
    geebus saidYeah i see what you mean. I think we both need a holiday somewhere between my never ending schedule of teaching and his massive workload.

    Although his housemate works shifts so it makes..."relaxing"...not so relaxing and quite stressful.

    But I think you're absolutely right. I'm gonna start by playing out our first date kinda thing haha.

    Btw we've been together for about 9 months now


    cool sounds perfect. try ending with a night in a hotel or borrow a friends place for some privacy.
    he a lucky man, you obviously care about him alot
    good luck

    x
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    Aug 12, 2012 12:44 PM GMT
    OP..just a little rough spot..work thru it..romance him...Have a nice dinner waiting for him when he gets home...Foot massages...Full body massages..Help him organize his mornings before he gets to work..make him breakfast..iron his shirts...
    ..If your man is overloaded ..help lighten the load..!!
    Good luck..!!.. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 12, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidOP..just a little rough spot..work thru it..romance him...Have a nice dinner waiting for him when he gets home...Foot massages...Full body massages..Help him organize his mornings before he gets to work..make him breakfast..iron his shirts...
    ..If your man is overloaded ..help lighten the load..!!
    Good luck..!!.. icon_biggrin.gif
    Dang, I love your responses! Spot on! Don't give up, relationships require ongoing work and then they'll bear great fruit!
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    Aug 13, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    geebus saidIt seems recently that boyfriend has stopped putting in effort in our relationship. I mean fair enough he's been really busy at work.
    He's told me from the start that he's not into muscly guys, but I feel it's becoming more and more apparent.
    *sigh* if only I could read his mind...


    If you two ever split I'd take you in a heartbeat! icon_biggrin.gif