Well, based on recent brain studies into the nature of lying, there are some people who are hard-wired to lie. They simply have to. It's how they communicate. (Bush for instance.)
Now, just because a guy cheats doesn't mean he's a hard-coded liar. But this may be the case with some guys.
I take what people say or promise with a grain of salt. I judge people more by their facial expressions, body language, actions taken, behaviors displayed. So I don't put alot of stock in anyones 'promises' or 'professions of love'. I don't require word of affirmation - you can skip the 'I love you'. I'm more likely to sense love from the fact that you keep coming back to our home. You smile at me and listen. You say goodbye when you leave and hello when you come home. You treat me fairly and you coordinate handling of money.
The International Association of Relationships' manual on Acceptable Communication and Behavioral Protocols has not yet been ratified at the international assembly. Training throughout the universe on what really is the exact way to behave following specific comments, or what comments to make preceding certain behaviors will begin in every village and home throughout the world starting in Late '09 after the IAR ICBP conference in NYC Aug 15th 2009. The most anticipated section of the manual is, of course, the penalties and recourse section.
What I'm pointing out is that handling relationships properly is an art and almost no-body goes to school to learn such useful subjects as
*How to know what you need from a relationship? *How to screen potential partners?
*Using your network to evaluate potential partners.
*Know thyself - figuring out how your genetics will control your happiness regarding partner selection.
*Money - how to make or break your relationships.
*Marketing yourself - so you can catch, then keep the one you desire.
When you are learning about yourself and relationships through living - its full of lousy manuevers. And most people aren't good at self-learning. They really do need instruction. I wish they'd attempt to teach this stuff in highschool and college.