Why are gay guys so mean to each other?

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    Aug 12, 2012 6:02 AM GMT
    So after reading some of the threads I don't understand why we need to resort to name-calling and personal attacks. Why do we need to throw shit around? I mean, it's bad enough that we are isolated from the mainstream heterosexual world, must we also further separate ourselves with all the bitchiness and nastiness? I observed a lot of this not only in the threads, but also in gay bars and clubs and such.

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    Aug 12, 2012 6:13 AM GMT
    Insecurities, mood swings, egos, take your pick.
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:13 AM GMT
    Because other gay guys are assholes.
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:15 AM GMT
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    deal with it
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:26 AM GMT
    Straight people are the same way. Straight men treat everything like a pissing contest and call each other names all the time. You gotta let it roll off your back.
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:28 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidStraight people are the same way. Straight men treat everything like a pissing contest and call each other names all the time. You gotta let it roll off your back.


    LOL wut

    None of my straight friends treat each other like that.
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:31 AM GMT
    Hapuna said
    HottJoe saidStraight people are the same way. Straight men treat everything like a pissing contest and call each other names all the time. You gotta let it roll off your back.


    LOL wut

    None of my straight friends treat each other like that.


    Mine do... he is right.. it's one big competition is seems.. how many girls you can get? how much sex someone is having? how much can you drink? whose car is better? who can lift more? who is stronger? who can be the biggest asshole?

    I remember at my last job, every girl i was with it seemed like i had to be having sex with her. I was like what.. and then me being in to guys.. added even more pressure to everything.
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
    Shell said
    Hapuna said
    HottJoe saidStraight people are the same way. Straight men treat everything like a pissing contest and call each other names all the time. You gotta let it roll off your back.


    LOL wut

    None of my straight friends treat each other like that.


    Mine do... he is right.. it's one big competition is seems.. how many girls you can get? how much sex someone is having? how much can you drink? whose car is better? who can lift more? who is stronger? who can be the biggest asshole?

    I remember at my last job, every girl i was with it seemed like i had to be having sex with her. I was like what.. and then me being in to guys.. added even more pressure to everything.

    You have weird friends. No offense.......
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    Not necessarily... I think every masculine guy or just about every guy could relate.. I'm not saying this happens on a regular basis but, it does happen. And those are not really my friends just a bunch of straight people that I work with or happen to be around.
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    Hapuna said
    Shell said
    Hapuna said
    HottJoe saidStraight people are the same way. Straight men treat everything like a pissing contest and call each other names all the time. You gotta let it roll off your back.


    LOL wut

    None of my straight friends treat each other like that.


    Mine do... he is right.. it's one big competition is seems.. how many girls you can get? how much sex someone is having? how much can you drink? whose car is better? who can lift more? who is stronger? who can be the biggest asshole?

    I remember at my last job, every girl i was with it seemed like i had to be having sex with her. I was like what.. and then me being in to guys.. added even more pressure to everything.

    You have weird friends. No offense.......


    Dude, this is how most guys act with each other. They call each other names and compete.

    People aren't perfect, there will be bickering and insults thrown around. Some people may act superior to others, but we are all just confused and uncertain.
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:45 AM GMT
    Shell saidNot necessarily... I think every masculine guy or just about every guy could relate.. I'm not saying this happens on a regular basis but, it does happen. And those are not really my friends just a bunch of straight people that I work with or happen to be around.


    I see. I apologize for my previous statement. You seem to be a cool dude and I'm sure you have nice friends.

    When I think about things like jersey shore then I guess I can relate....icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:48 AM GMT
    SSJTrunks said
    Hapuna said
    Shell said
    Hapuna said
    HottJoe saidStraight people are the same way. Straight men treat everything like a pissing contest and call each other names all the time. You gotta let it roll off your back.


    LOL wut

    None of my straight friends treat each other like that.


    Mine do... he is right.. it's one big competition is seems.. how many girls you can get? how much sex someone is having? how much can you drink? whose car is better? who can lift more? who is stronger? who can be the biggest asshole?

    I remember at my last job, every girl i was with it seemed like i had to be having sex with her. I was like what.. and then me being in to guys.. added even more pressure to everything.

    You have weird friends. No offense.......


    Dude, this is how most guys act with each other. They call each other names and compete.

    People aren't perfect, there will be bickering and insults thrown around. Some people may act superior to others, but we are all just confused and uncertain.

    I don't understand though. Compete for what? When a guy is bitchy that actually gets me turned off. I mean, like bitchiness is supposed to be a turn-on?!
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Aug 12, 2012 6:52 AM GMT
    On top of everything already said, let's not forget we're on the internet, where everyone acts with impunity. Sure, people can be bitchy in person, but they're often more muted about it, especially if you get in their faces and tell them to change their tampon.

    That being said, yeah, I don't get why so many people feel the need to snipe others online either. Doesn't really add a lot to the community, and you come off sounding like a child. It doesn't happen in my circle of friends, and we are not touchy-feely dandies, nor are we labotomized cult members. Being courteous and thoughtful ain't that hard. Probably just a defense mechanism. Don't sweat it.
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:54 AM GMT
    @ Hapuna "this guy doesn't get it lol"

    naa idk it is kind of like an unspoken kind of competition between guys. I can't really explain it but, it is like everyone wants to be the best at what they are doing and who they are. Especially in things that are seems to be most important to guys (stuff i listed before) Now add that with male ego's and of course their pride, and you get one big pissing match.

    And with that, you're not going to let someone else make you look bad. It's like that saying about who has the bigger balls and what not.

    Does that help?
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:56 AM GMT
    Hapuna said
    SSJTrunks said
    Hapuna said
    Shell said
    Hapuna said
    HottJoe saidStraight people are the same way. Straight men treat everything like a pissing contest and call each other names all the time. You gotta let it roll off your back.


    LOL wut

    None of my straight friends treat each other like that.


    Mine do... he is right.. it's one big competition is seems.. how many girls you can get? how much sex someone is having? how much can you drink? whose car is better? who can lift more? who is stronger? who can be the biggest asshole?

    I remember at my last job, every girl i was with it seemed like i had to be having sex with her. I was like what.. and then me being in to guys.. added even more pressure to everything.

    You have weird friends. No offense.......


    Dude, this is how most guys act with each other. They call each other names and compete.

    People aren't perfect, there will be bickering and insults thrown around. Some people may act superior to others, but we are all just confused and uncertain.

    I don't understand though. Compete for what? When a guy is bitchy that actually gets me turned off. I mean, like bitchiness is supposed to be a turn-on?!


    Bitchiness is a turn off, but there is a difference between bitchiness and competing.

    In terms of gay men, we compete against each other, whether it is looks, intelligence, humor, or money to attract each other.... hahaha sounds kinda crazy... but I suppose it works.

    Some guys are attracted to crude domineering personalities. Some guys like drama queens. Oddly enough, if you want true acceptance, you need to accept the bitchiness.
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    Aug 12, 2012 6:58 AM GMT
    FuriousGeorge saidOn top of everything already said, let's not forget we're on the internet, where everyone acts with impunity. Sure, people can be bitchy in person, but they're often more muted about it, especially if you get in their faces and tell them to change their tampon.

    That being said, yeah, I don't get why so many people feel the need to snipe others online either. Doesn't really add a lot to the community, and you come off sounding like a child. It doesn't happen in my circle of friends, and we are not touchy-feely dandies, nor are we labotomized cult members. Being courteous and thoughtful ain't that hard. Probably just a defense mechanism. Don't sweat it.

    I am sorry that I sound off like a child. lol

    I am not jaded I guess icon_biggrin.gif
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Aug 12, 2012 7:00 AM GMT
    No, you misunderstood me. I was not saying that YOU were sounding like a child. I meant that when a person snipes at someone else on the internet for no reason, that person sounds childish. I'm agreeing with you. Damn pronouns ...
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    Aug 12, 2012 7:03 AM GMT
    Shell said@ Hapuna "this guy doesn't get it lol"

    naa idk it is kind of like an unspoken kind of competition between guys. I can't really explain it but, it is like everyone wants to be the best at what they are doing and who they are. Especially in things that are seems to be most important to guys (stuff i listed before) Now add that with male ego's and of course their pride, and you get one big pissing match.

    And with that, you're not going to let someone else make you look bad. It's like that saying about who has the bigger balls and what not.

    Does that help?


    If people want to be the best that they can be, shouldn't they try to be nicer and be the bigger person, like laugh it off instead of retaliation, and forgive instead of being nasty back?
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    Aug 12, 2012 7:08 AM GMT
    SSJTrunks said
    Hapuna said
    SSJTrunks said
    Hapuna said
    Shell said
    Hapuna said
    HottJoe saidStraight people are the same way. Straight men treat everything like a pissing contest and call each other names all the time. You gotta let it roll off your back.


    LOL wut

    None of my straight friends treat each other like that.


    Mine do... he is right.. it's one big competition is seems.. how many girls you can get? how much sex someone is having? how much can you drink? whose car is better? who can lift more? who is stronger? who can be the biggest asshole?

    I remember at my last job, every girl i was with it seemed like i had to be having sex with her. I was like what.. and then me being in to guys.. added even more pressure to everything.

    You have weird friends. No offense.......


    Dude, this is how most guys act with each other. They call each other names and compete.

    People aren't perfect, there will be bickering and insults thrown around. Some people may act superior to others, but we are all just confused and uncertain.

    I don't understand though. Compete for what? When a guy is bitchy that actually gets me turned off. I mean, like bitchiness is supposed to be a turn-on?!


    Bitchiness is a turn off, but there is a difference between bitchiness and competing.

    In terms of gay men, we compete against each other, whether it is looks, intelligence, humor, or money to attract each other.... hahaha sounds kinda crazy... but I suppose it works.

    Some guys are attracted to crude domineering personalities. Some guys like drama queens. Oddly enough, if you want true acceptance, you need to accept the bitchiness.


    Or, I can date a wonderful guy who is nonconfrontational, who is kind-hearted, self-made, self-taught, earthy, pure-hearted, sweet, gentle, and yes, romantic.

    These guys do exist. I have dated several. But you're right most gay guys are jaded and bitchy and drama queens.
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    Aug 12, 2012 7:23 AM GMT
    Hapuna said
    SSJTrunks said
    Hapuna said
    SSJTrunks said
    Hapuna said
    Shell said
    Hapuna said
    HottJoe saidStraight people are the same way. Straight men treat everything like a pissing contest and call each other names all the time. You gotta let it roll off your back.


    LOL wut

    None of my straight friends treat each other like that.


    Mine do... he is right.. it's one big competition is seems.. how many girls you can get? how much sex someone is having? how much can you drink? whose car is better? who can lift more? who is stronger? who can be the biggest asshole?

    I remember at my last job, every girl i was with it seemed like i had to be having sex with her. I was like what.. and then me being in to guys.. added even more pressure to everything.

    You have weird friends. No offense.......


    Dude, this is how most guys act with each other. They call each other names and compete.

    People aren't perfect, there will be bickering and insults thrown around. Some people may act superior to others, but we are all just confused and uncertain.

    I don't understand though. Compete for what? When a guy is bitchy that actually gets me turned off. I mean, like bitchiness is supposed to be a turn-on?!


    Bitchiness is a turn off, but there is a difference between bitchiness and competing.

    In terms of gay men, we compete against each other, whether it is looks, intelligence, humor, or money to attract each other.... hahaha sounds kinda crazy... but I suppose it works.

    Some guys are attracted to crude domineering personalities. Some guys like drama queens. Oddly enough, if you want true acceptance, you need to accept the bitchiness.


    Or, I can date a wonderful guy who is nonconfrontational, who is kind-hearted, self-made, self-taught, earthy, pure-hearted, sweet, gentle, and yes, romantic.

    These guys do exist. I have dated several. But you're right most gay guys are jaded and bitchy and drama queens.


    Of course they exist. I'm dating a guy right now that would fit your description. However, it is all still a competition.
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    Aug 12, 2012 8:06 AM GMT
    This is very random.. and if you know me enough or read what i post sometimes, then you know I'm not like needy and all that other bull shit,

    BUT,


    Why does someone IM me, and flirts. We are hitting it off pretty damn well, he seems just perfect. They unlock their private pics, and ask what i think. He is just about stunning, but then tells me out of the blue that he wanted my opinion so he could look his best... for his boyfriend?

    I'm like wtf? (wasn't necessarily expecting much) but it's still kind of shitty, I think. Maybe it is just me but that kind of upset me. And then he tells me that he never as even met the guy, and that I'm nice person and blah blah.

    That's it. Just venting I guess. Thanks.