How do I get my Crazy Ex-boyfriend to move out of my house?

  • Blakey_Boy

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    Aug 14, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    So my crazy ex and I finally split after probably a good 3 months of misery. He has a severe alcohol problem and refuses to admit it and wont get help. Now he's lost his job, and I lost my mind. So I ended it with him and told him he had 2 days to pack his stuff and get out. I own the house, just me on the mortgage. He actually has never even changed his address from where he lived before. I've already called his old roommate and she'll take him back no problem. So it's not like I'm kicking him to the curb. BUT, he won't leave! He just says no! I've tried to be nice, I've tried to be mean, and NOTHING is working. He's sleeping on my couch and I'm basically just ignoring him. He says he wants to be "roommates" and it wont be awkward... umm, how will it not be?!
    Anyway, I know in AZ he has legal rights so I cant just throw his shit outside and change the locks without potentially getting in legal trouble,

    I'm so frustrated and don't know what to do. I want this psycho out!
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    Aug 14, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    Start taking his stuff over to his old apartment?
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    Aug 14, 2012 3:56 PM GMT
    Tell him to leave... being kind about this has/will only hurt you; being honest with him gives him an idea that there is a problem. You can't expect him to change if you keep him cozy and safe all the time.
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    Aug 14, 2012 3:58 PM GMT
    If he's not on the mortgage then call the cops and a locksmith. Have them escort him out of the house while the locks are changed and then put all of his stuff under a tarp in the driveway. He has no rights to live in a house that he doesn't have a finger in.
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    Aug 14, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 saidIf he's not on the mortgage then call the cops and a locksmith. Have them escort him out of the house while the locks are changed and then put all of his stuff under a tarp in the driveway. He has no rights to live in a house that he doesn't have a finger in.

    I'm not sure about Arizona, but in many places that is not true. If you allow someone to live in your house, paying rent or not, some states require you to go through eviction proceedings to get the person out.
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    Aug 14, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    At least here in Cali, since he wasn't paying for rent, he'd have no tenancy. You can always seek legal advice to be 100% sure. Either way, he has no further right to be in your home, so as shitty as it is, he's got to go.
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    Aug 14, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    alex1990 saidAt least here in Cali, since he wasn't paying for rent, he'd have no tenancy. You can always seek legal advice to be 100% sure. Either way, he has no further right to be in your home, so as shitty as it is, he's got to go.


    Found this for you. Lots of useful information, definitely read through it.

    http://www.ehow.com/how_6548416_evict-live_in-partner-arizona.html
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    Aug 14, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    Step:
    1) Search online for a proper eviction notice..( AZ)
    2) Make three or four copies..
    3) Get them Notorized
    4) Mail one to his house..
    5) Give him one face to face..
    6) Call The police
    7) They will feed you the 2 week to one month prior notice line.. (You want that)
    icon_cool.gif Ask for an incident / police report
    9) If he's not gone after the legal notice time..
    10) Call the cops again..have the notorized letter and police report handy

    Google AZ eviction laws.. The above was based on FL laws...

    OP Before you do that...try to do it the civil way...
    I mean you had his d*ck in your mouth for three months..
    At least tough it out a little..

    But if you must... you have the right info..
    B safe.. Pleeze !!

    (50 ways to leave your lover...)
  • JD44

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    Aug 14, 2012 4:46 PM GMT
    Does he have a contract with you? If not, just give him a 30 days written eviction notice. It's proper procedure if someone is pay rent. It's best to call your lawyer for consultation. Don't waste time, otherwise you're going to be stressed out. You own the house, you have the right to say. Don't let him take control of the situation.
  • calibro

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    Aug 14, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    call the police to escort him off your premises
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    Aug 14, 2012 5:47 PM GMT
    I'm sure there are plenty of threads on here about guys being dumped for no good reason... maybe you can use one of those reasons?
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    Aug 14, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
    sorry
    Big hugs
    But, can't really blame him.

    #trophybfproblems
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    Aug 14, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    get a restraining order and call the cops.
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    Aug 14, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    How can he sleep when his bed is burning?

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    Aug 14, 2012 6:35 PM GMT
    As some have noted, it can unfortunately be more tricky than just having the cops come and escort him out. Some places have laws saying that if you've allowed someone to live with you x number of days then you have to go through the full legal eviction proceedings, which can take over a month.

    I once rented a room in a house owned by a creepy old man who let a drug-addicted, insane homo live in the other room for a month. When the home owner FINALLY decided to ask the guy to leave (the guy was supposed to be painting the house and never did) the guy pulled that stunt and we had to put up with him for nearly a month more as the legal proceedings played out. :/
  • shawn06

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    Aug 14, 2012 6:48 PM GMT
    The police can't do anything, you need to evict him. So yea you got the whole change the locks thing right as you can't do it legally in Az. I would try to convince him to leave, if he does not you will end up having to sue for eviction giving him a certain amount of time, usually 30 days.

    Just stick it out for a little bit and make it clear its not gonna happen between you two; it's your house. He will get it eventually and leave...
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    Aug 15, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    Without a written lease what you have is a month-to-month tenancy which requires 30 days notice to terminate.
    In the meantime try creating some incentives. Play whatever music he most hates at top volume 8 hours a day. When he attacks you a court will issue a no-contact order and he'll have to move immediately.
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    Aug 15, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]Elusium said[/cite]How can he sleep when his bed is burning?

    (Isn't that from a Midnight Oil song?)
  • Vaughn

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    Aug 15, 2012 12:35 AM GMT
    ....................... You let someone move in and not pay rent after three months of seeing him? icon_neutral.gif
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Aug 15, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    call the cops
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    Aug 15, 2012 12:44 AM GMT
    Kick him out. The legal trouble will only be monetary, and you can put in on payments.

    That would be cheaper than having an alcoholic stay with you.
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    Aug 15, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
    A large gun and a steady hand.
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    Aug 15, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    Judge Judy

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    Aug 15, 2012 12:53 AM GMT
    Tell him that there will be no more alcohol in your home effective immediately. Maybe that will get him to move back to his old place.
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    Aug 15, 2012 12:55 AM GMT
    Tossing any Ex out on their ass is worth a night in jail to me. icon_smile.gif