I've been asked to a bachelorette party.

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    Aug 15, 2012 9:01 PM GMT
    So one of my best friends has asked my to her bachelorette party
    this weekend. There's a bunch of activities involved, a boat-trip, a
    dinner, beach stuff and I'm the only guy among 20 women or so, most
    of whom, I don't really know.
    It's not something I'd particularly relish, feeling like a token gay amid
    a bunch of women I've never met. I've a really open relationship
    with my friend so I think I'll ask to maybe opt out of some of the week-
    end but I'm just curious if any of you guys have been in this sitch
    before?
  • stratavos

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    Aug 15, 2012 10:17 PM GMT
    This really depends on how good of a friend of yours she is (party have-er).
    Mostly though, she should be able to understand as long as you use some buzz phrases like "this looks like it will be awkward for me" and "why am I the only guy here?".

    You could put into perspective for her and ask her if you invited her to a "gays night out" if she would really want to go.
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    Aug 15, 2012 10:18 PM GMT
    gaymachodude's sock account mayhaps =o?
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    Aug 15, 2012 10:22 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidgaymachodude's sock account mayhaps =o?

    no it couldn;t be his sock account, because
    thomeiza types much... more cleanly than
    gaymachodude does. thomeiza probably has apple products but they
    are a disgrace and i will never... buy apple products. microsoft is the bestest.
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    Aug 15, 2012 10:23 PM GMT
    thomeiza saidSo one of my best friends has asked my to her bachelorette party
    this weekend. There's a bunch of activities involved, a boat-trip, a
    dinner, beach stuff and I'm the only guy among 20 women or so, most
    of whom, I don't really know.
    It's not something I'd particularly relish, feeling like a token gay amid
    a bunch of women I've never met. I've a really open relationship
    with my friend so I think I'll ask to maybe opt out of some of the week-
    end but I'm just curious if any of you guys have been in this sitch
    before?
    I've known guys who have but I think it's a little much. Perhaps I'm just not in touch with my feminine side enough but I would think that, although the bride may feel OK with it, many of the other guests might now. I think I would graciously bow out but perhaps send some flowers or a nice dessert for the ladies to chomp on.
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    Aug 15, 2012 10:26 PM GMT
    Oh my god, when will some people realize that gay men are not "one of the girls"?
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    Aug 15, 2012 10:28 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidThere's just no way I'd go to something like that. icon_eek.gif
    Me either.. not in my lifetime OR yours!
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    Aug 15, 2012 10:30 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidgaymachodude's sock account mayhaps =o?


    no I don't think so. I don't think so at all.


    should be fun
    I've done it, be prepared for all the how do men think questions.
    Now if they wanted to take you to a male strip show or Magic Mike then hell no.
    Why do they keep asking?
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    Aug 15, 2012 10:48 PM GMT
    It sounds fun. Go!

    Send us pics
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Aug 15, 2012 10:59 PM GMT
    yes i have been and it was a blast lol lol.
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    Aug 16, 2012 12:35 AM GMT
    Sporty_g said
    thomeiza saidSo one of my best friends has asked my to her bachelorette party
    this weekend. There's a bunch of activities involved, a boat-trip, a
    dinner, beach stuff and I'm the only guy among 20 women or so, most
    of whom, I don't really know.
    It's not something I'd particularly relish, feeling like a token gay amid
    a bunch of women I've never met. I've a really open relationship
    with my friend so I think I'll ask to maybe opt out of some of the week-
    end but I'm just curious if any of you guys have been in this sitch
    before?


    I just looked over your profile pics and.....so .....maybe....she wants you to be the stripper/dancer? Can I watch!....I have a fist full of singles!icon_cool.gificon_rolleyes.gif


    Not quite, but at least I'd feel I had a delegated duty were that the case. I'll thrash it out with her tomorrow and I think she'll be cool about my reservations but I guess ultimately it's her time in the spotlight, so if she really wants me to be there I guess I'll have to take one for the team. Eek.
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    Aug 16, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    To Token Gay, or not to Token Gay???

    Think there is a gay bar they can meet you at when all is said and done...
  • TheBizMan

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    Aug 16, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    Are you a fem?.. only femz get asked to these sorts of things?

    #femhate
  • Timbales

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    Aug 16, 2012 1:19 AM GMT
    personally, I wouldn't want to go to a bachelorette party.
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    Aug 16, 2012 1:27 AM GMT
    Don't go. Being the only guy in the group.. doesn't sound like fun.
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    Aug 16, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    Aress saidOh my god, when will some people realize that gay men are not "one of the girls"?


    In the name of Smokey Robinson... "I second that emotion"
  • mybud

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    Aug 16, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    Never....and wouldn't
  • dancedancekj

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    Aug 16, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    I did it when in grad school and I was friends with all the girls. Maybe was the token gay guy, but I didn't feel awkward or bored during them. One of the activities was going for a pole-dancing outing. My stripper name was Destiny, and I had a blast.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Aug 16, 2012 3:58 AM GMT
    If it sound like fun to you go by all means. From your post it sounds like you consider it an obligation; if so just say no. Next question.
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    Aug 16, 2012 4:08 AM GMT
    Just go, its not about you or being gay its about your friend having all her friends around her to celebrate. Try your best to put all your "this is awkward" feelings to the side and try and have some fun, she will appreciate it. Be a good friend.
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    Aug 16, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    Tell them you'll go once gays have the same rights to marry as straights; but until then you'll feel ostracized and out of place since you have no right to marry the one you love.

    I told that to my nephew, whom I love dearly, when he asked me to be at his wedding this year.