In Cities Where There Is Gay Marriage, Should There Be Father-Son Dances as There are Father-Daughter Dances?

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    Aug 16, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    I look forward to good input.

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    Steve
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    Aug 16, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    In Cities Where There Is Gay Marriage, Should There Be Father-Son Dances as There are Father-Daughter Dances?

    Why not? I never thought of this before. I danced with my late Mother. My Father is also gone (he'd be 101 now).

    But yah know, if he were alive today, sure I'd dance with him. Hell, I bet he danced with fellow male soldiers during WWII, that wasn't unusual then.

    Would he have danced with me? He knew I was gay, didn't make a big fuss about it. Given how liberal he was in every other aspect of his life, yeah, I think today he'd give me a twirl. My Dad was that wonderful. I wish it had happened. The fault was my coming out too late. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    Who gives a fuck? Handle your wedding the way you want to handle it.

    No two weddings are alike, gay or straight. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 6:10 AM GMT
    HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    super creepy
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    Aug 16, 2012 6:58 AM GMT
    wouldn't you just dance with your mom?
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    Aug 16, 2012 7:00 AM GMT
    Don't be a retard. Just because you're getting gay married doesn't mean you're a fucking girl. Dance with your mom and shake your dad's hand.
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    Aug 16, 2012 7:02 AM GMT
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    Aug 16, 2012 7:07 AM GMT
    jimzdc saidDon't be a retard. Just because you're getting gay married doesn't mean you're a fucking girl. Dance with your mom and shake your dad's hand.

    +1
    Dancing with your dad, for me at least, would be kind of weird and awkward.
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    Aug 16, 2012 9:54 AM GMT
    I have trouble seeing the purpose of this thread. Gay marriage and father/daughter & father/son dances have nothing in common. Stop being ridiculous!
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    Aug 16, 2012 9:56 AM GMT
    Father-daughter dances? I thought those shindigs only happened in West Virginia.
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    Aug 16, 2012 10:35 AM GMT
    jimzdc saidDon't be a retard. Just because you're getting gay married doesn't mean you're a fucking girl. Dance with your mom and shake your dad's hand.


    LMFAO +34542
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    Aug 16, 2012 11:00 AM GMT
    Should the dad give the blushing bitch away too?
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    Aug 17, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    Originally, I was thinking of the raising of boys in a society where their future could include same sex marriage.

    The purpose of the Father-Daughter Dance is to allow fathers and father figures the opportunity to set an example and a standard for how their daughters should be treated on a date. It is also an opportunity to build a relationship between fathers and daughters and to make special memories. During this evening the daughters have the undivided attention of their fathers.

    At the health club Lifetime Fitness, there is an annual Father-Daughter dance.

    www.mylt.com

    When some people discuss the father daughter dance, what they are really describing is the wedding dance that may take place between the daughter and her father on the daughter’s wedding day. In many circles it is traditional for the bride and her father to have the first dance together, and either during that dance or shortly thereafter, the father relinquishes his daughter to her new husband. These dances are often emotional and memorable.

    In the father daughter dance, the father is losing his protective role of his daughter and purposefully assigning it to his new son-in-law. Whether the daughter is 18 or 50, the idea of giving her care over to another can be lovely and yet somewhat sad.
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    Aug 17, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    Sound like someone has daddy issues
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    Aug 17, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidIn Cities Where There Is Gay Marriage, Should There Be Father-Son Dances as There are Father-Daughter Dances?

    Why not? I never thought of this before. I danced with my late Mother. My Father is also gone (he'd be 101 now).

    But yah know, if he were alive today, sure I'd dance with him. Hell, I bet he danced with fellow male soldiers during WWII, that wasn't unusual then.

    Would he have danced with me? He knew I was gay, didn't make a big fuss about it. Given how liberal he was in every other aspect of his life, yeah, I think today he'd give me a twirl. My Dad was that wonderful. I wish it had happened. The fault was my coming out too late. icon_sad.gif


    Well, what do you think about this?

    A good father was the provider and protector of the son at least until the age of majority.

    If a man is to marry a man in his 20s with the blessings of his parents' generation, the father must have built trust with his new son-in-law.

    Gay marriage is a caring and protective relationship. To be someone's husband is a role of responsibility. The role assumed are responsibilities that were once fulfilled by the spouse's father.

    It is important for us to think about a gay man's father walking with his son turning him over to a loving spouse.

    With this being a joyous affair, there should be a dance of celebration for future happiness.
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    Aug 17, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    You mind has been plasticisticated<-madeup to the thinking of cultural norms unlike those of your peers and directly against the norms of society at large; causing you too appear to be more deviant in your proposal than progressive. Who wants to dance with their sons in public?
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    Aug 17, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    UglyAmerican saidHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    super creepy



    Maybe gay marriage is super creepy to some people.
    Maybe two guys dancing at a gay bar is creepy and that's why gays have been attacked in the past coming from gay dance clubs.
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    Aug 17, 2012 1:55 AM GMT
    WestCoastGuy saidwouldn't you just dance with your mom?


    Mom: You didn't marry a girl: dance with your father.
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    Aug 17, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
    credo saidFather-daughter dances? I thought those shindigs only happened in West Virginia.


    As I already answered, they at least take place in Texas--and we write the textbooks for a large chunk of secondary education (for better or worse).
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    Aug 17, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    Judging by the thread title, there was a reason I "ignored" OP months ago.
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    Aug 17, 2012 2:14 AM GMT
    JR_RJ saidYou mind has been plasticisticated<-madeup to the thinking of cultural norms unlike those of your peers and directly against the norms of society at large; causing you too appear to be more deviant in your proposal than progressive. Who wants to dance with their sons in public?


    Seems like gay self-hatred defeats gay marriage equality. Gays can get married at the justice of the peace without the support of the generation that bred them but you are admitting shame when same sex love has to be on display within the context of multiple generations.

    Do you want your father like Fiddler on the Roof to dance and play violin for the love you've found or not?

    Did your dad dance with you when you were an infant to help your muscles and brain cells grow?

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    Aug 17, 2012 2:14 AM GMT
    n8698u saidJudging by the thread title, there was a reason I "ignored" OP months ago.


    And I block you and ignore your posts now.
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    Aug 17, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    One of the reasons I posted this thread is that one of the meetup.com groups I belong to will be reading the book Debating Gay Marriage by John Corvino and Maggie Gallagher so we can discuss it at a meetup in September.
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    Aug 17, 2012 2:20 AM GMT
    The one thing I enjoy about being gay is that I'm not constricted by the social conventions created by heteros. If I ever got married (highly doubt it; been there done that and have half a t-shirt to show for it), I'd dance with whomever I fuckin' wanted to, especially since I would probably be paying for the reception.