*sigh* I want to bottom for the first time but...

  • mizu5

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    Aug 16, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    I want to try bottoming simply because I've never done it.

    But I don't want to go home with an absolute random, and none of my friends really... do it for me. So I'm just SOL eh?

    What shall I doo?
  • Timbales

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    Aug 16, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    imo, you should do it with someone you trust, find attractive and will be patient
  • mizu5

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    Aug 16, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    The problem I have is I tend to go for guys I'd like to fuck/ are bottoms because i have only topped, and dont want to be in a relationship with a guy who only tops.

    Plus the type of guy i imagine fucking me has yet to hit on me or even glance my way in a bar or online.
  • mizu5

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    Aug 16, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    mizu5 saidThe problem I have is I tend to go for guys I'd like to fuck/ are bottoms because i have only topped, and dont want to be in a relationship with a guy who only tops.

    Plus the type of guy i imagine fucking me has yet to hit on me or even glance my way in a bar or online.

    ...which is?
    Hrm. I guess that's hard to say. it's just... there are vibes I get around people when I feel more like I'd fuck him versus, I want him to fuck me.

    For example, i feel more inclined to have a guy in late 20s-40s and kinda rugged and naturally dom fuck me.

    The idea of a guy around my age fucking me is less.. enticing somehow? or anywho who isn't like

    ..muscular/beefy/stocky/thick bodied.
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    Aug 16, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    If I were interested in butt sex, I'd happily top the OP.

    But I only want to grope his sexy body. icon_sad.gif
  • mizu5

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    Aug 16, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    well ive enver bottomed so in a sense i am a virgin, plus im painfully tight.
    And of course, as I said I don't want it to be some random, but guys with those body types enver seem to want me.
  • mizu5

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    Aug 16, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIf I were interested in butt sex, I'd happily top the OP.

    But I only want to grope his sexy body. icon_sad.gif
    ;__l I would love to just be groped by yooouu
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    Aug 16, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    mizu5 said
    paulflexes saidIf I were interested in butt sex, I'd happily top the OP.

    But I only want to grope his sexy body. icon_sad.gif
    ;__l I would love to just be groped by yooouu
    Yay! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    mizu5 saidI want to try bottoming simply because I've never done it. But I don't want to go home with an absolute random, and none of my friends really... do it for me. So I'm just SOL eh? What shall I doo? . . .
    For example, i feel more inclined to have a guy in late 20s-40s and kinda rugged and naturally dom fuck me.

    Plus the type of guy i imagine fucking me has yet to hit on me or even glance my way in a bar or online.

    The idea of a guy around my age fucking me is less.. enticing somehow? or anywho who isn't like ...muscular/beefy/stocky/thick bodied.
    . . . well ive never bottomed so in a sense i am a virgin, plus im painfully tight.
    And of course, as I said I don't want it to be some random, but guys with those body types never seem to want me.

    OK, I'm a rather new participant in RJ forums, and don't know you from Adam, but a couple factors stick out like the proverbial thumb:

    In your photo, at least, you have the "cute" look that a lot of guys of the type you say you want to dom fuck you would find to be very appealing - at least the nicer ones. Like Yourname implied - you just have to go out looking for them. (And I doubt you really want to be roughly dom fucked by a very rugged macho - Im' guessing that's only your fantasy.) If you don't want a "relationship" with a versatile guy, like GuyNextDoor suggested, you can accomplish this sex goal only by meeting up with someone who will give you the pleasurable experience you want, and won't be a random troll.

    Maybe you could vacation in Calgary or Edmonton on your way back east, and meet a cowboy type- nice but rugged.

    As for you being too tight, if you really want a pleasurable experience, you should play with your self first with a dildo, so you are used to the feeling - just don't fall in love with the dildo.

    Maybe things are too different now, but when I was your age, I had more than a few pleasant sexual encounters with guys I had only recently met, but for whom I had the foreknowledge that the experience and interaction would be a very sensual one - so they weren't a Grinder random, but someone I got to know briefly - If I weren't in a relationship, I would be doing that occasionaly today.

    Finally, since you want a very special sexual fantasy, and it doesn't sound like you want to be in a relationship with the kind of person you want to fuck you, you might just consider hiring a professional - you just have to be willing to shell out the dough and be very selective about who it is. The good ones make a living of providing safe and sane fantasy sex. They are essentially actors. I have never hired one, but know a number of guys who have, and have not heard of any bad experiences. Probably not too many get requests from guys your age. You get a pleasant sexual experience, your fantasy is fulfilled, you get treated well, and then they leave, with no strings. It must be a much safer bet than a craigslist adventure. If there is a particular porn star you fancy, he is probably available - most are in the sex trade.
  • ads80

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    Sep 10, 2012 8:14 AM GMT
    What I wouldn't give...icon_biggrin.gif
  • Koaa2

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    Sep 10, 2012 6:43 PM GMT
    Buy yourself an average size dildo, lube and practice fucking yourself in preparation for the real thing.
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    Sep 10, 2012 8:09 PM GMT
    Just wait and relax. You want your first time to be natural and normal. It will happen when it happens. Don't force it, because you will regret it. When it's with someone that you really like, it will happen naturally and it won't even really hurt.