Where/How have you had the most success meeting quality guys???

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    Aug 16, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    Just wondering from those of you out there that have or had successful LTR's where have you have success finding quality guys. Is it online? Bar? Through friends? The gym? Church? Public Bathroom? haha. icon_smile.gif

  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 16, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    Well I've only had one 13.5 year LTR with a guy and I met him via an online ad. I think the best way is through mutual friends. You don't have to guess about the guy, you hear about him from those who know him (which I think is helpful). Some places are much more challenged, like some sex site.. but remember, you can find a good guy anywhere!

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    Aug 16, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    The gloryhole down at the reststop. icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    Define "quality."

    I've met over 1000 people from the interwebz over the years. Most I have no contact with. Many I do. I'd consider them "quality" even if we never sexed.
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    Aug 16, 2012 3:29 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidDefine "quality."

    I've met over 1000 people from the interwebz over the years. Most I have no contact with. Many I do. I'd consider them "quality" even if we never sexed.


    By quality I mean someone who is honest, trustworthy, and basically someone you'd consider being in a relationship with.
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    Aug 16, 2012 3:29 AM GMT
    Successful LTR? What is that? a Lease To a Relationship?
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    Aug 16, 2012 3:35 AM GMT
    If you're looking for gold, don't look. If you're expecting unexpected lbs of jade, you got it.
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    Aug 16, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
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    Aug 16, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    It depends on how you defined LTR. I've met a few quality guys online. Online has some advantages in that you can list your interests to figure out what you have in common.
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    Aug 16, 2012 4:33 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidDefine "quality."

    I've met over 1000 people from the interwebz over the years. Most I have no contact with. Many I do. I'd consider them "quality" even if we never sexed.

    Oh, and here I thought I was special. icon_redface.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 16, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    By actually living in real life
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    Aug 16, 2012 4:38 AM GMT
    Depends if you're out or not. Friends, coworkers, maybe a gala event of some sorts. Online works the best for screening purposes. Try your local park at 3 in the morning.
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    Aug 16, 2012 12:32 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidBy actually living in real life
    FTW***
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    Aug 16, 2012 2:48 PM GMT
    never successful.
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    Aug 16, 2012 2:50 PM GMT
    princeofnash said
    paulflexes saidDefine "quality."

    I've met over 1000 people from the interwebz over the years. Most I have no contact with. Many I do. I'd consider them "quality" even if we never sexed.


    By quality I mean someone who is honest, trustworthy, and basically someone you'd consider being in a relationship with.
    Personally, I don't factor that into "quality," but I'm not looking for a relationship.

    If I were, that would be a category all its own, though the other traits would certainly be expected.
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    Aug 16, 2012 2:52 PM GMT
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    paulflexes saidDefine "quality."

    I've met over 1000 people from the interwebz over the years. Most I have no contact with. Many I do. I'd consider them "quality" even if we never sexed.

    Oh, and here I thought I was special. icon_redface.gif
    Nope, no short bus for you. You're just as normal as the rest of us loonies. icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    princeofnash saidBy quality I mean someone who is honest, trustworthy, and basically someone you'd consider being in a relationship with.
    I've met all the guys I've dated except for one online. Most of them have been quality.
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    Aug 16, 2012 3:20 PM GMT
    Over the years, my b.f.'s have come from varied places including:

    * my office / or through business contacts / friends
    * my gyms
    * out running / or swimming laps
    * my Rotary club
    * my alumni association gatherings
    * my neighborhood
    * best one - right here in Forums.
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    Aug 16, 2012 4:28 PM GMT
    I think this is a good question. Any of you guys ever try stuff like gay softball leagues, or hiking groups, snowboarding groups, stuff like that? That seems like it could work but I don't know... I'm moving from my small town to Seattle next week and that seemed like a good place to start... but yeah... it sure seems tricky! I've been thinking maybe the best way is to just do stuff you love, and be a social, quality guy yourself?

    It was tough to find quality girls though, too, when I was dating 'em. I think this question is pretty universal.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 16, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    I met my boyfriend at a coffee shop. I was there with two friends. I noticed he was cute from across the room, but I wasn't really looking for anything at the time. Anyway, he came over to join us and told us he was a writer. I'm also a writer, so we hit it off. We've been together 8 years now. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 4:58 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidI met my boyfriend at a coffee shop...


    That's awesome! Congrats! So... this might be a dumb question but... so how did he know you liked guys? And how did you know?? I don't get that part yet... unless the guy is really femmy or waving a rainbow flag...
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    Aug 16, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    Dangerpuppy said
    HottJoe saidI met my boyfriend at a coffee shop...


    That's awesome! Congrats! So... this might be a dumb question but... so how did he know you liked guys? And how did you know?? I don't get that part yet... unless the guy is really femmy or waving a rainbow flag...


    It was a gay coffee shop the Thursday before Pride, so it was a pretty safe bet.icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    I met one of the guys that I dated for a while on the subway.
    We kept looking at each other so I gestured at the seat beside me and he came over to sit beside me.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 16, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    kawaiidesu saidI met one of the guys that I dated for a while on the subway.
    We kept looking at each other so I gestured at the seat beside me and he came over to sit beside me.


    How brave of you!
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    Aug 17, 2012 12:18 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    kawaiidesu saidI met one of the guys that I dated for a while on the subway.
    We kept looking at each other so I gestured at the seat beside me and he came over to sit beside me.
    How brave of you!
    Thanks haha; I didn't think it was that big of a deal. I don't really understand people who don't know how to flirt, it's so easy.