Is true love just make believe bullshit?? or does it actually exist like a fairy tale

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    Aug 16, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    What are your thoughts on true love? Ive only been in love once in my life and its never like the movies the movies make gay love look so sad and depressing maybe thats just me
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    Aug 16, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
    True love exists. Don't let the movies get to you.
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    Aug 16, 2012 8:12 PM GMT
    Are you reading back last nights posts in forum or something?

    Sure, some of the guys you love the most on here are in low-dark points, and other gave up on love altogether... but they'll find it again... I really hope they do.

    I don't have a glimmer of hope to find a date in my area, but I'm still certain I'll find that someone someday who'll I'll click and meet in the middle with that will change my life, and I his... if he wants it.
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    Aug 16, 2012 8:21 PM GMT
    sad.desperate feeling of loneliness.I just sat on the bed & thought about my worthless life,my childhood innocence,faith in love that will NEVER happen with me.hurt.feeling like some1 had opened my eyes to life.i'm not deserve love like others usual persons?i'm like a child was dreaming about love,bt now i understand it NEVER happenicon_sad.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    True love does exist but it is NOT like a fairy tale, for gay or straight people. Long term relationships are very rewarding but are a lot of work, too, especially after the "honeymoon" phase is over.
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    Aug 16, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    showme saidTrue love does exist but it is NOT like a fairy tale, for gay or straight people. Long term relationships are very rewarding but are a lot of work, too, especially after the "honeymoon" phase is over.


    What he said.
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    Aug 16, 2012 8:30 PM GMT
    showme saidTrue love does exist but it is NOT like a fairy tale, for gay or straight people. Long term relationships are very rewarding but are a lot of work, too, especially after the "honeymoon" phase is over.


    This all the way!
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    Aug 16, 2012 8:34 PM GMT
    showme saidTrue love does exist but it is NOT like a fairy tale, for gay or straight people. Long term relationships are very rewarding but are a lot of work, too, especially after the "honeymoon" phase is over.
    I think the "honeymoon" phase is the greatest let down for short term guys. It makes me sad to think how quickly guys will break up cause they don't feel THAT feeling of love anymore.
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    Aug 16, 2012 8:54 PM GMT
    I believe in it, however I don't think it's a fairy tale type of true love. I think in some cases it can be, but for others there's a deeper lesson to your connection with this person. I think true live always comes with adversity. You have to really want to make it work for it to be good.
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    Aug 16, 2012 9:15 PM GMT
    Keep in mind that in most movies, or fairty tales, or whatever you want to name, the characters only get together right before the end. So yeah, you get a glimpse of it, and only the best one.
    I'd like to see a "20 years after" cinderella movie ... bitch wouldn't be so smiley, I betcha.
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    Aug 16, 2012 9:30 PM GMT
    The problem is is most people think love is this heady, euphoric feeling that overwhelms you and you have no control over and moves you like a tidal wave. That my friends is infatuation. Once the infatuation phase of a relationship wanes the true test of your love begins.

    Love my friends is a decision. You must decide to move forward in your relationship despite the others snoring (wow he didn't do that when we first met), their sloppy ways, their crazy neatness, their awful laugh you once found so infectious, their whatever. You know all the things you chose to overlook during the infatuation phase but now are magnified since the heady giddiness of infatuation is over and the humdrum of everday life is the norm.

    Is your love strong enough to forgive a betrayal by your partner? Can you stand with them in their efforts to overcome an addiction? Can you be there for them through depression, lifethreatening illness, pending death? Can you love someone so much that their wellbeing comes before your very own? Could you give them up if that was the best thing for them? It seems not many can as witnessed by the high divorce rate and short lived gay relationships.

    True love exists but I fear it's very rare.

    As a side note: Why does true love have to be for a lifetime? Just because two people decide they are better living apart than together does that negate the love they had during the previous 5, 10, or 15 years? Does that mean it wasn't true love?
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    Aug 16, 2012 9:34 PM GMT
    Love is practical work.
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    Aug 16, 2012 9:34 PM GMT

    I don't think you can fully live like that--with an image of how things should be.
    We have to live without those images.

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    The true love question is interesting, though. I def dont have an answer, but i doubt the "honeymoon period" is what you might call true love. If you're in love, then it's probably a state of being, and not something that is just directed at one person, but i dont know.

    Youll just have to try being in love again and let us know what you find out. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    True love exists. It just doesn't exist for everyone.
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    Aug 16, 2012 9:45 PM GMT
    If you're chasing a feeling, jump on a roller coaster.
    If you're looking for full-time work, fall in love.
    Somewhere in between is true love.
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    Aug 16, 2012 9:46 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidThe problem is is most people think love is this heady, euphoric feeling that overwhelms you and you have no control over and moves you like a tidal wave. That my friends is infatuation. Once the infatuation phase of a relationship wanes the true test of your love begins.

    Love my friends is a decision. You must decide to move forward in your relationship despite the others snoring (wow he didn't do that when we first met), their sloppy ways, their crazy neatness, their awful laugh you once found so infectious, their whatever. You know all the things you chose to overlook during the infatuation phase but now are magnified since the heady giddiness of infatuation is over and the humdrum of everday life is the norm.

    Is your love strong enough to forgive a betrayal by your partner? Can you stand with them in their efforts to overcome an addiction? Can you be there for them through depression, lifethreatening illness, pending death? Can you love someone so much that their wellbeing comes before your very own? Could you give them up if that was the best thing for them? It seems not many can as witnessed by the high divorce rate and short lived gay relationships.

    True love exists but I fear it's very rare.

    As a side note: Why does true love have to be for a lifetime? Just because two people decide they are better living apart than together does that negate the love they had during the previous 5, 10, or 15 years? Does that mean it wasn't true love?

    +1
    Sadly, too many guys are hung up on the infatuation stage, confuse it with love, and expect it to endure. Infatuation never lasts. Love (whether or not it can be called "true love"), develops over time, needs nurturing, and is eventually the product of communication, work, and compromise in a relationship. It's a lot easier to love a dog - they always love you back uncondtionally - but the benefits of a human love relationship are so much greater.
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    Aug 16, 2012 9:54 PM GMT
    I have had the honor of experiencing true love..
    I mean there is a huge part of me that wants it again..
    but if it never happens...I'm happy and extremely grateful to have had the experience and i can live with that..

    ..See what you guys are reffering to is true love from a lover..
    ..have you considered the love given to you by your family and friends?

    ...Personally i think true love is rewarded by karma..
    You have to give true unconditional love before you get true unconditional love !!
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    Aug 16, 2012 10:00 PM GMT
    True Love ABSOLUTELY exists!!!!!

    It is not like fairey tales though.

    In RL True Love involves WAY more blood, ogres and poison apples than in fairey tales.

    It also requires a bigger crew and better lighting than Movies.

    But YES - it DEFINITELY is out there!!!!

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    Aug 16, 2012 10:01 PM GMT
    Cash saidTrue Love ABSOLUTELY exists!!!!!

    It is not like fairey tales though.

    In RL True Love involves WAY more blood, ogres and poison apples than in fairey tales.

    It also requires a bigger crew and better lighting than Movies.

    But YES - it DEFINITELY is out there!!!!

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    Ha ha... at least you got the scale of the work it takes to make it work down right. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 10:04 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidI have had the honor of experiencing true love..
    I mean there is a huge part of me that wants it again..
    but if it never happens...I'm happy and extremely grateful to have had the experience and i can live with that..

    ..See what you guys are reffering to is true love from a lover..
    ..have you considered the love given to you by your family and friends?

    ...Personally i think true love is rewarded by karma..
    You have to give true unconditional love before you get true unconditional love !!
    I get you. Now, if the circumstances would just align themselves already in to the perfect mix of events to have me and a guy I'm very compatible with close enough and willing enough to give me a try, I'd be a very happy fellow. icon_wink.gificon_cool.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 10:08 PM GMT
    JR... The person you end up with would have inherited the equivalent of the earths weight in diamonds and gold.. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 16, 2012 10:50 PM GMT
    I believe in true love. I saw it with my mother and father so I know it exists and want settle for anything less. It IMHO is nothing like in the movies or TV though.

    It is hard to find, hard to keep, and hard to let go of. That I do know for sure. I was lucky enough to see a good example of it in my life.

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    Aug 17, 2012 12:09 AM GMT
    True Love exists, but it doesn't come easy, nor does it come from a fairy god mother... Every person is capable of giving Love. It's when you can trust yourself enough to accept another persons Love, by putting yourself in that vulnerable position of losing Love, does True Love only exist. You can not experience True Love if you're not ready to handle losing True Love. Once it happens, you don't ever want to let go, hence why its True. It's a circle, what must be gained must be lost first, It's that point between the two that you want to stay forever.
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    Aug 17, 2012 3:05 PM GMT

    *digs into brain*

    I think true love is different for different people.

    This is NOT to piss off or depress anyone, but meant as info on possibility.


    Our honeymoon never ended. It still feels the same.
    Examples.
    I watch Bill getting milk out of the fridge and get an electric flutter. He says he feels it watching me swim with Emma (smallest doggie).
    Why is this? The best we can figure out is remembering what drew us together in the first place with a visceral clarity - the gestalt of smell, sound, sight, touch and temperament. As well, what we found attractive about each other has been more enduring than appearance or performance.

    We've always focused heavily on the romantic aspects of our relationship and built on them. We court each other still, and perhaps this is what makes so much of our relationship timeless in its freshness.

    lol, OK I made a mess of that, but these topics tend to distress me a little, as there's always so much focus on work work work and not on the magic of
    being in love.

    -Doug
    Gah! I need coffee.





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    Aug 17, 2012 3:12 PM GMT
    Love is chemistry Love is for the young ( high hormone levels). Nothing lasts forever and truth is relative.