attraction in a profile

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    Aug 15, 2007 10:08 PM GMT
    now we all have one and look at others
    profile,s that is
    but what is it that makes you think hey that is nice, interesting or even hot

    for me it could be just one line in what they wrote about themselves
    or just that one picture

    lets see what makes you remember a profile
  • ajlclimber

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    Aug 15, 2007 10:38 PM GMT
    for me.. its usually an attractive guy where I can actually see their eyes. I prefer them to have something to say in their profile.. but seeing as I have a hard time writing about myself.. I dont bank everything on that.
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    Aug 15, 2007 11:35 PM GMT
    well obviously a picture helps, gets attention, but once in a while, a thoughtful, interesting, "about me," sections grabs me.

    nick
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    Aug 16, 2007 12:26 AM GMT
    It is everything...

    Especially what they post on the forums... It lets you take a little peak into their thinking and values...

    That is something you would not immeditately experience even with someone you meet in the flesh, until maybe months after the initial meeting (and sometimes never!)
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    Aug 16, 2007 12:38 AM GMT
    I like it when a guy says that he likes the movie Donnie Darko. That really makes me want to knock a guy up. ;-)
  • irishboxers

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    Aug 16, 2007 12:39 AM GMT
    It's always something intangible for me. Sure, a great body helps, but I'm not turned on by headless torso shots or a guy who can't spell.

    Same way in person. My friends think I have most sporadic taste in men, but it comes down to smile, eyes, and personality, and that comes in all shapes and sizes. Past bfs have been all over the spectrum, and my ex- wasn't close to what usually turns my head physically...but the eyes and the smile were there and he was funny as hell. All I needed.

    On here, have clear pics of yourself and have something to say. In the digital age, there's no excuse for blurry pics or not having something written in your profile. Hell, just paste it from your profile on another site if you can't think of anything.
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    Aug 16, 2007 1:34 AM GMT
    My impressions tend to vary with the profile's pictures, text, comments that someone emails me, etc. There have been several ocassions where a guy with hot pics made a bad impression due to comments, and vice versa.

    People who seem respectful always make an impression on me.
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    Aug 16, 2007 1:54 AM GMT
    Great question...

    I'm not impervious to the physical appeal, but that holds my attention for a few nanoseconds. What keeps me interested is what arises from the entire "picture,” what I sense in one's gaze, his sensibility, wit, kindness, and creative flair, combined with the ability to find the humor in life. And that sometimes comes across in one liner...

    To your point Thom27, for me it could be the intriguing thorn on one's side, or gregstevenstx's mention to Donnie Darko, which is a great example of common affinities translating into physical/intellectual arousal...

    Thanks for asking, by answering to your question, I’ve refined my standards!
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    Aug 16, 2007 2:21 AM GMT
    I seem to remember profiles better if the guy identifies as top or top/versatile. I'm not entirely sure why.
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    Aug 16, 2007 2:46 AM GMT
    OHhiker: LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Aug 16, 2007 3:24 AM GMT
    Beautifully written profiles are very appealing; especially if they give a sense of intelligence, character and personality. I like photos that depict the person doing something sports-related. This is a fitness community after all!

    Profiles that have character are less likely to be fake in my experience.
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    Aug 16, 2007 4:15 AM GMT
    It's all about what's written in the profile. There are a whole lot of really physically hot guys on this site, but pair that with a legible, decently written piece about themselves and that's where it's at. Also, typing out words in full instead of using internet abbreviations is a huge plus.

    The best profiles are those that have humor in them. If a guy can joke around, especially about himself, that shows that he can be light-hearted and not take life too seriously. Comedy in a profile is great.
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    Aug 16, 2007 4:55 AM GMT
    It's a package deal for me. The guy doesn't have to look like the newest male supermodel, but I want to know that he's working on taking care of himself. In fact, to me, totally ripped doesn't look healthy. There needs to be a reasonable amount of fat on his body. Education is important. I want to be able to converse on a number of different subjects. I want to know about what he likes to do in his spare time, tv, movies, books, outdoor recreation, sports, etc. I kind of like to know what he does for a living, but I DON'T want to know how much he makes, because I want him to know that I like him for who he is, not the size of his wallet.

    Finally, I want to know if he's real, or just into trophy guys, because trophy guy, I am not. I'm just a regular joe.

    Oh, and he ought to be validated.
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    Aug 16, 2007 5:15 AM GMT

    What's this?!! – Two of my very favourite RJs summoning me from my slumber??!!
    I heard my name twice and, lo and behold, I see it stated here exactly two times.... hmm.
    Which do I prefer, getting 'knocked up'?... or "translating common affinities into physical/intellectual arousal"? I seriously cannot decide at this late hour so you'd better slug it out boys while I freshen the bed-linens.

    NYCMusc4Musc: It IS everything, the whole 'package', that makes the profile. The all-potent ingredients, in my esteem, were concisely stated by Irishboxers and Gooodvibe.
    And I agree with you completely on forum postings revealing the essence of a feller more than the profile can do on its own. In lieu of actions, words speak louder than images.

    re: Donnie Darko – I've seen that film at least six times and I love the fact that I STILL don't get the Rabbit.

    Bed's all made up. So who am I expecting tonight? I do hope it was a tie...

    -Darko, as in... ........ .........
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    Aug 16, 2007 5:31 AM GMT
    Except... why do I have this feeling that if I looked for ten minutes I could find a service from which I could buy an optimized profile, complete with pics? Probably a spin-off of one of the term-paper mills.

    And the rabbit was a premonition of the halloween mask.

    I too, like the idea of action pics, but I can't figure out how to take any of myself without stupid fake staging or serious injury. For some reason, the government still won't give me copies of the surveillance tapes.
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    Aug 16, 2007 5:48 AM GMT
    mindgarden: LOL – I too really want to add action pix to my profile, but since all the physical activities that I engage in at present are solitary pursuits or would require eloborate staging in an urban environment, it'll have to wait until a friend is willing to help me stage my 'real' life!!!
    There's something to be said for team mates and soccer moms... or... I could always just ask a member of our neighbourhood canine association to snap some scintillating series of pix at the dog park this afternoon... shirtless, sprayed-on sweat gleaming in the sun, and surrended by a dozen tiny terriers. HOT!!!
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    Aug 16, 2007 6:26 AM GMT

    I love it when a profile says "no face pic? don't even waste my time!"

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    "straight acting, not into fems!"


    ...so hot.







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    Aug 16, 2007 6:35 AM GMT
    Mindgarden and AERO: The rabbit in Donnie Darko is also a tip of the hat to a 1950s Jimmy Stewart movie called Harvey in which Jimmy Stewart has a 6 foot tall, imaginary, white rabbit friend that he calls a pooka; albeit, the rabbit in Darko is the antithesis of the pooka character in Harvey. Sort of an interesting nod to cinema history.
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    Aug 16, 2007 7:01 AM GMT
    To be brutally honest, it's a guy's pictures. I like men who are handsome, who look like they take care of themselves and who look HAPPY and at ease. I don't like pictures of guys looking mean, moody or gothic - usually it's younger guys who do that look, it's not attractive to me.

    Sometimes though I can like the look of someone and then be put off by a guy's writings. Some men really have no idea about how offensive they can be in some of the things they write - like saying they're not attracted to "orientals". Why say that? That's a big turn me off for me.

    But really, a profile is just a snapshot of someone. As someone else said on here it's the forum where you get of better idea of a guy's personality.
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    Aug 16, 2007 9:39 AM GMT
    I'll look at a guy's profile for one of two reasons. Either he'll look like a nice, smiley sort of chap, or he'll have said something ingenious in the forums. If his profile says something obnoxious, then I don't hot list him, but generally I do. It's just a quick click, and it makes people feel better about themselves, so I'm a very liberal hot-listifier.
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    Aug 16, 2007 11:36 AM GMT
    A smile paints a thousand pictures.

    Guys with profiles that only have pictures of them pouting like a zoolander audition tape do nothing for me.

    A genuine smile and a shiny set of eyes will knock over so many walls.
  • DenveRyk

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    Aug 16, 2007 11:53 AM GMT
    Agree with Colm regarding reasons to check out a profile. More weight given to comments made on a forum than just a pic. Pics are nice, and can be intriguing, but it's usually more about what a person has written regarding a particular topic that grabs my attention and draws me to find out a bit more about him.
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    Aug 16, 2007 12:21 PM GMT
    Photos that looks like he's happy and enjoying life and a profile that says the same are what get my attention. And I agree with the Donnie Darko reference, but only the original, not the overexplained re-release. I'm sure his mom had an inkling of what was going on, poor woman. And redheads.
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    Aug 16, 2007 12:56 PM GMT
    I definitely like what is in the About Me section.
    Love looking at pics- but it is really about the whole package.
    Ric
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    Aug 16, 2007 1:50 PM GMT
    I'll agree with those saying the forum posts are the biggest factor. It gives you a chance to interact with people and it's that interaction which determines levels of attraction and interest.

    A picture and answered profile are definitely needed but they don't reveal as much about what the person thinks.