Using protection in a relationship

  • sdguy05

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    Aug 18, 2012 6:39 AM GMT
    If you and your partner both tested negative, would you still use protection for anal sex?
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    Aug 18, 2012 7:22 AM GMT
    Yes.
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  • Kriss

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    Aug 18, 2012 7:27 AM GMT
    I feel like i should say maybe...just so this thread isnt filled with yessums......

    but Yes wrap it up.
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    Aug 18, 2012 10:49 AM GMT
    always
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    Aug 18, 2012 1:15 PM GMT
    Honestly... No
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    Aug 18, 2012 1:18 PM GMT

    Yes, until you're reeeeeeaaaaallllllllyyyyyy sure of each other, and that sureness is not some automatic trust thing.

    That sureness, we think, should be built together.
  • WhoDey

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    Aug 18, 2012 1:19 PM GMT
    I think most people would say yes. The better question is, At what point in the relationship do you decide it is ok to bareback?
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    Aug 18, 2012 1:34 PM GMT
    WhoDey saidI think most people would say yes. The better question is, At what point in the relationship do you decide it is ok to bareback?


    I think for each couple the timing and and methods would be different.

    With us, we offered up our privacy to each other. A gift. We went to the same doctor and together gave him instructions to be able to talk freely to each other about each other's health. We proceeded with 18 months of testing every six months. At the start we were tested for every testable STI.
    Too much? Maybe, but the intent was building trust and a sense of sureness.

    We took our level of communicating to pretty deep levels, and integrated our families during this time.

    -Doug
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    Aug 18, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    remember that an HIV test is a snapshot in time... in the PAST.

    just because you tested negative, doesn't mean that you're negative forever. it means that at the time of your test, it did not detect HIV antibodies.

    HIV antibodies take 3-6months to show up in the blood stream after infection. testing once is not enough. you have to continually re-test.

    are you and your partner monogamous? have you discussed what the word "monogamous" means to each of you? some people will have sex on the side, even in a monogamous relationship (its called cheating)

    many people have been infected by their partners who were having outside sex, even though they thought that they were monogamous and had been together for decades.

    trust is a very abstract thing - you're not quite sure when its there, and even still, it can be broken.

    a condom is very real and they can break too, but at least you know when its there and when its not.
  • DrobUA

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    Aug 18, 2012 2:32 PM GMT
    kingmo saidremember that an HIV test is a snapshot in time... in the PAST.

    just because you tested negative, doesn't mean that you're negative forever. it means that at the time of your test, it did not detect HIV antibodies.

    HIV antibodies take 3-6months to show up in the blood stream after infection. testing once is not enough. you have to continually re-test.

    are you and your partner monogamous? have you discussed what the word "monogamous" means to each of you? some people will have sex on the side, even in a monogamous relationship (its called cheating)

    many people have been infected by their partners who were having outside sex, even though they thought that they were monogamous and had been together for decades.

    trust is a very abstract thing - you're not quite sure when its there, and even still, it can be broken.

    a condom is very real and they can break too, but at least you know when its there and when its not.


    This is true to a point. I take the early test which narrows the window to from 3-6 months to 1 week. It's offered by SDSU
  • Timbales

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    Aug 18, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
    Yes, I like using condoms and see no reason not to.
  • jackthejock

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    Aug 20, 2012 9:22 PM GMT
    Nope.


    My boyfriend and I got tested before we had sex the first time, we used condoms for about 7 months and then got tested again before we stopped. Since then he got tested again in May when getting his shots for an overseas trip, so we're way past any 3-6 month window for anything to show up.

    Besides, condoms aren't 100% effective. If you're only having sex with one person and they're only having sex with you and you are having sex a few hundred times a year after a while any benefit condoms would provide is probably long gone.
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    Aug 20, 2012 9:37 PM GMT
    would would you put anything into someone's anus without covering it first.....eww.
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    Aug 20, 2012 9:43 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidThis topic has been done dozens of times.




    Repeat threads...just another day on RJ...
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