How many partners have u had?

  • H0TChocolate

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    Aug 18, 2012 10:39 PM GMT
    I've been curious as to what's the average amount of partners a sexually active gay man has during his lifetime. How many is too many? Is there a such thing as too many? Do u guys have a cap limit?


    I'm 22, I've had 7 sex partners and I don't want too many more. Just tryna see where I fit in the spectrum.
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    Aug 18, 2012 10:48 PM GMT
    I'm 25 and I've been with eight sexual partners.

    As for a cap? No, I really don't believe in some magical number to limit yourself to.
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    Aug 19, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    This is a type of distorted thinking called Self-Comparison. Why compare apples to oranges if you view sex differently than other people do, have different morals at different times in your life, and grow and change as a person on a completely different trajectory than anyone else.

    There is nothing inherently wrong with having so many partners you have lost count and having only a few.

    The real question is, why do you care how many other people have had?

    Many of us don't even bother counting and never did count from the start. It is interesting that you feel the need to count and remember each one.
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    Aug 19, 2012 12:44 AM GMT
    I have had 30.
    I feel disgusting
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    Aug 19, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    Yup Trackin' this one..very curious to see the responses!
    What?... Me?....How Many Partners?

    very few!!
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    Aug 19, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    My computer doesn't have the processing power to handle the calculation.
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    Aug 19, 2012 12:58 AM GMT
    Pretty interesting answers here although it seems as if bluey2223 is a little irritated and doesn't want to give his number. Probably has a lot....it's ok man, no judgment here.


    Jose77 have you really had 30 partners? Damn dude, you've been getting it in...good job.

    I myself have had at least 12...I just quit counting and I'm not going to give the timeframe in which I slept with these people. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 19, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidMy computer doesn't have the processing power to handle the calculation.


    LMAO... omg
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    Aug 19, 2012 1:06 AM GMT
    so does 0 at the age of 25 make me ... lame?
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Aug 19, 2012 1:27 AM GMT
    37
    and i have had 9 sexual partners
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    Aug 19, 2012 1:53 AM GMT
    The title at first made me think it meant husband partners. That would be 2, the first having died, and with my second partner now. And I'm the third of his partners, having split from his first, and losing his second to AIDS as I did mine, a grief we share in common.

    The BF total is 4, not counting that my 2 partners were also BFs before being "promoted" to partner.

    Other FBs, tricks and miscellaneous sexual encounters are around 100, when I've tried to add this up before. But I'm honestly not sure, never kept a running score, and some were on the group plan at bathhouses and gay resorts, not sure all those guys count, with them could be more than 100. But then I've only been out since 1995, a late starter. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 19, 2012 2:05 AM GMT
    Just wondering - does oral count? Or if it was just mutual handys - does that count? Cause the total tally could vary depending. icon_cool.gif
  • O5vx

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    Aug 19, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    Is what matters not the quality time you have with those people and not the quantity of those people? I don't know. I just have a very interesting approch to this type of topics.
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    Aug 19, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    BRoss saidso does 0 at the age of 25 make me ... lame?


    not at all! icon_razz.gif
    join the club
    Zero too icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 19, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    JockHunt said
    BRoss saidso does 0 at the age of 25 make me ... lame?


    not at all! icon_razz.gif
    join the club
    Zero too icon_biggrin.gif


    ZERO here too!
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    Aug 19, 2012 3:40 AM GMT
    I've only had 2.

    One of them was my former best friend and the other was a random hookup after my high school prom.

    I'm being forreal lol



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    Aug 19, 2012 3:40 AM GMT
    Im 20 and have had 8 and I regret every single one If I could turn back time I would have decided to never have been with them.
  • FireDoor211

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    Aug 19, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    I was at 60 something by the time I was 20. I stopped counting because it was too depressing. Most of that happened in one summer. I'm easily in the triple digits, and I'm in my 30's now.
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    Aug 19, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    i'm classy, i don't kiss and tell.

    trollops
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    Aug 19, 2012 8:06 AM GMT
    blasiankid saidPretty interesting answers here although it seems as if bluey2223 is a little irritated and doesn't want to give his number. Probably has a lot....it's ok man, no judgment here.


    Jose77 have you really had 30 partners? Damn dude, you've been getting it in...good job.

    I myself have had at least 12...I just quit counting and I'm not going to give the timeframe in which I slept with these people. icon_smile.gif


    Another form of distorted thinking is something called Mind Reading, displayed here. You don't know what I'm thinking or feeling at all. This is text. I am direct on the internet. Don't read into things unless it gets you off. If it gets you off that I've had over 1000 dicks, then have at it. If it gets you off that I'm not too experienced with multiple partners, then think about that. I don't care either way.
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    Aug 19, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    bluey2223 said
    blasiankid saidPretty interesting answers here although it seems as if bluey2223 is a little irritated and doesn't want to give his number. Probably has a lot....it's ok man, no judgment here.


    Jose77 have you really had 30 partners? Damn dude, you've been getting it in...good job.

    I myself have had at least 12...I just quit counting and I'm not going to give the timeframe in which I slept with these people. icon_smile.gif


    Another form of distorted thinking is something called Mind Reading, displayed here. You don't know what I'm thinking or feeling at all. This is text. I am direct on the internet. Don't read into things unless it gets you off. If it gets you off that I've had over 1000 dicks, then have at it. If it gets you off that I'm not too experienced with multiple partners, then think about that. I don't care either way.


    Actually what I said wasn't "mind reading" it was an assessment based on your response to the originator's question. Which is all it was. If you didn't want or feel the need to answer his question, why bother answer at all. It's not that serious man, it really isn't. However, since you bothered bringing up distorted thinking, it seems you're bordering the lines of global labeling as well as filtering based upon both of your replies. Read what I actually wrote before saying I was reading your mind because I clearly said it "seems" like you were irritated. Quit reading into things too much because life is too short for silly things. You're a pretty hot guy so be happy man!
  • UGAdawg

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    Aug 19, 2012 10:50 PM GMT
    i am 20 an i have hat 3 partners lol icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 19, 2012 11:06 PM GMT
    Just 2.
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    Aug 19, 2012 11:07 PM GMT
    Wait. Partners? I thought the question was how many parents.
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    Aug 19, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    Kudos to you guys for being so frank. I don't even answer this question for boyfriends. Because there is no good answer.