Text from an ex

  • franklinstein

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    Aug 19, 2012 6:21 AM GMT
    He wasn't really an ex, just someone I went on quite a few dates with. We sorta had the relationship talk, but he stopped texting soon after. This was more than half a year ago. He started texting me at the start of summer, and after a few weeks (I was working all 7 days of the week so I had no time) I asked him if he wanted to grab dinner or what not he said sure, and he promised to text me later that day to confirm. Haven't heard from him til now, our planned meet up was a little more than a month ago. He's acting like it never happened. Do guys just expect to be forgiven if enough time passes or for people to forget about their douchiness/flakiness? Uhhh end of rant
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    Aug 19, 2012 6:40 AM GMT
    Fuhget about him. Flaky people are flaky.
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    Aug 19, 2012 6:47 AM GMT
    tell him to go fuck himself and to lose your number
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    Aug 19, 2012 12:18 PM GMT
    a) he's not an ex.
    b) he's a douchebag.
    c) stop trying to make sense of his actions. he's a flake.
    d) move on.
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    Aug 19, 2012 12:19 PM GMT
    The only advice about relationships I think might be true is...

    They continue as they begin.

    You get to decide if you like this or not.
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    Aug 19, 2012 12:20 PM GMT
    He's a lame. Move on to someone else
  • rnch

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    Aug 19, 2012 12:21 PM GMT
    kingmo saida) he's not an ex.
    b) he's a douchebag.
    c) stop trying to make sense of his actions. he's a flake.
    d) move on.



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    Aug 19, 2012 12:23 PM GMT
    Sounds like he was bored. Dont give him the time of day next time he texts you. Make him put some effort into it.
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    Aug 19, 2012 12:25 PM GMT
    rnch said
    kingmo saida) he's not an ex.
    b) he's a douchebag.
    c) stop trying to make sense of his actions. he's a flake.
    d) move on.


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  • RSportsguy

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    Aug 19, 2012 1:51 PM GMT
    As the old saying goes:
    Fool me once shame on you
    Fool me twice shame on me!
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    Aug 19, 2012 1:52 PM GMT
    I've met some people with ADD and short term memory loss like that.... sometimes it is a choline deficiency. You could end up waiting quite a bit... drop him.
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    Aug 19, 2012 2:03 PM GMT
    Hey.

    I kind of gave my husband the brush off when we first met because I thought he was weird/aspergers.

    I got bored and called him one day way after we initially met and had a really good conversation with him on the phone.

    He didn't really do anything sexual with me for 5 months. We started out as just friends meeting for social events, etc.

    When we finally did let it happen it was amazing and I instantly fell in love with someone I already liked a LOT.

    I'm telling you this because, dude, let things develop, give it time. It could be amazing. That "flake" might be busy too, or have things in his live you don't know about because you didn't bother to find out? Maybe he thinks you're a flake too. Don't drop people because of things you assume. It could be something wonderful.
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    Aug 19, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    I so try to live my life like Daas says and it has led to a lot of wasted time and heartache. I recently changed my view and I only give people the benefit of the doubt once or twice, before I realize if they cared they would make the time. Doesn't mean you need to be mean but, yes, make them work for it if they want it!
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    Aug 19, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    Setup a date...
    Give him hell..
    I mean TERRIRIZE HIM!
    Tell him your life is in danger..!
    Make him buy you a Tazer..!!

    Use it on him!!
    DUMP His Ass!!
    (post pics here)
    BZZZzZZZZTTTtttttttChhhhRRRRR!!!
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    Aug 19, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
    eurofreak saidI so try to live my life like Daas says and it has led to a lot of wasted time and heartache. I recently changed my view and I only give people the benefit of the doubt once or twice, before I realize if they cared they would make the time. Doesn't mean you need to be mean but, yes, make them work for it if they want it!


    I give it three times.
    A relationship is a (not necessarily the only) priority.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 19, 2012 2:48 PM GMT
    I like the 3 time strike out approach. After 3 strike outs.. just forget it and move on.

    I do think being fair (more than fair) is important in some cases. He may really have forgotten this time, but I'd ask him about it (and note the strike).
    There are other "fish in the sea" who aren't flaky .....
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Aug 19, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI like the 3 time strike out approach.


    You give them 3 strikes? I go by the 2 strike rule icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 19, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    HndsmKansan saidI like the 3 time strike out approach.


    You give them 3 strikes? I go by the 2 strike rule icon_wink.gif


    Yeah you can do that cause your'e hot!..
    Me 5-6-7-strikes...
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    Aug 19, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI like the 3 time strike out approach. After 3 strike outs.. just forget it and move on.

    I do think being fair (more than fair) is important in some cases. He may really have forgotten this time, but I'd ask him about it (and note the strike).
    There are other "fish in the sea" who aren't flaky .....


    what sea have you been swimming in? are you sure all the fishes aren't flaky?
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    Aug 19, 2012 8:27 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    HndsmKansan saidI like the 3 time strike out approach.


    You give them 3 strikes? I go by the 2 strike rule icon_wink.gif


    i give em 1.5 strikes

    the .5 is to explain and recover from the 1 strike.