Hey guys last week I met this rough top and this is what happened...

  • Valiente82

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    Aug 20, 2012 7:49 AM GMT
    hi guys, I had this encounter with this guy, he is a very rough top and I don't usually have rough sex and both of the times I did it with him .. he made me bleed from my little one down there (and sex was stopped immediately and he obviously hasn't called and don't want him to) . This has never happened to me before and I haven't bled ever since, neither to the bathroom and nothing else hurts. So I have some questions:

    What made me bleed?

    Is it normal if you encounter a rough sexual partner and you are not used too rough and hard sex for this to happened?

    Should I stay away rough men altogether?

    What can I do prevent this from happening again?

    Would it be Im probably too tight?

    Thank you guys for the advice and time taken to reply ... looking forward to your answers.

    thanks.
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    Aug 20, 2012 7:09 PM GMT
    not enough luuuuuuuube !!!

    more lube....no more......even more.......more than that........etc
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    Aug 20, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    1. more lube
    2. send him my way!!!!!!
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    Aug 20, 2012 10:03 PM GMT
    More lube.
    Not so rough.
    More foreplay... ?
  • jackthejock

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    Aug 21, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    Like the others said, more lube and more foreplay. Especially "rough tops" don't like to take the time to get a bottom prepped right. My boyfriend likes to fuck really hard sometimes, but he is always very patient about making sure I feel ready for it and going slow at first.

    You most likely just tore the skin on your anus a bit, which is very delicate and that can happen. Sometimes there are tiny tears you don't even notice or feel, but you may see a little spotting of blood on your toilet paper the next day...if that's the case just use a little bit of antibacterial (neosporin) type cream and you should be fine again in a day or so.
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    Aug 21, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    Did he use a condom?

    If not, GET TESTED!
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    Aug 21, 2012 12:59 AM GMT
    I deeply despise inconsiderate tops.
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    Aug 21, 2012 1:03 AM GMT
    Too rough..too fast..too little lube and probably a sloppy selfish top!
    OP..as the bottom you have complete controll..believe it or not !

    Here's what I would have done!

    a) First...We’d get you relaxed...You smiling is the perfect signal...The more you smile the more I know you’ll have tons of fun...

    b) Then comes the rimming session... I’d kneel and have you squat on my face so you’d have complete control..

    c) I’d take my tongue...and totally loosen you up... You’d like it... I promise!

    d) If you started getting nervous..a good strong massage would help..More rimming with some light fingering..This time with you on your back

    e) Then I’d let you sit on me...First facing me..Then facing away.. That helps to loosen you more..

    f) Then we’d go...At your pace...Your rhythm till you are completely comfortable...

    g) In between all these..(if your'e that into me) MAKING OUT!!.. It makes everything better..

    h) And then…I'd give you a nice pounding! icon_twisted.gif.. And make you shoot like a Glock 9.. icon_evil.gif

    i) What happens after is also very important.. Cuddle..Shower..I'd most likely spoil you with a fantastic home made meal..Dessert..and a movie?


    WHAT?
    .. Well what would you guys do differently?
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    Aug 21, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    foreplay, lube, it takes time to prep a bottom... gentle fingers..you know the rest. Rough is ok, as long as the pre-pounding is taken care of..LOL..
  • Valiente82

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    Aug 21, 2012 4:49 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidDid he use a condom?

    If not, GET TESTED!


    Yes both times ..
  • BlueMoose

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    Aug 21, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidToo rough..too fast..too little lube and probably a sloppy selfish top!
    OP..as the bottom you have complete controll..believe it or not !

    Here's what I would have done!

    a) First...We’d get you relaxed...You smiling is the perfect signal...The more you smile the more I know you’ll have tons of fun...

    b) Then comes the rimming session... I’d kneel and have you squat on my face so you’d have complete control..

    c) I’d take my tongue...and totally loosen you up... You’d like it... I promise!

    d) If you started getting nervous..a good strong massage would help..More rimming with some light fingering..This time with you on your back

    e) Then I’d let you sit on me...First facing me..Then facing away.. That helps to loosen you more..

    f) Then we’d go...At your pace...Your rhythm till you are completely comfortable...

    g) In between all these..(if your'e that into me) MAKING OUT!!.. It makes everything better..

    h) And then…I'd give you a nice pounding! icon_twisted.gif.. And make you shoot like a Glock 9.. icon_evil.gif

    i) What happens after is also very important.. Cuddle..Shower..I'd most likely spoil you with a fantastic home made meal..Dessert..and a movie?


    WHAT?
    .. Well what would you guys do differently?


    Wow can we date ;)
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    Aug 21, 2012 5:30 PM GMT
    BlueMoose... You know your'e too far away!... icon_redface.gif
  • Valiente82

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    Aug 21, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidToo rough..too fast..too little lube and probably a sloppy selfish top!
    OP..as the bottom you have complete controll..believe it or not !

    Here's what I would have done!

    a) First...We’d get you relaxed...You smiling is the perfect signal...The more you smile the more I know you’ll have tons of fun...

    b) Then comes the rimming session... I’d kneel and have you squat on my face so you’d have complete control..

    c) I’d take my tongue...and totally loosen you up... You’d like it... I promise!

    d) If you started getting nervous..a good strong massage would help..More rimming with some light fingering..This time with you on your back

    e) Then I’d let you sit on me...First facing me..Then facing away.. That helps to loosen you more..

    f) Then we’d go...At your pace...Your rhythm till you are completely comfortable...

    g) In between all these..(if your'e that into me) MAKING OUT!!.. It makes everything better..

    h) And then…I'd give you a nice pounding! icon_twisted.gif.. And make you shoot like a Glock 9.. icon_evil.gif

    i) What happens after is also very important.. Cuddle..Shower..I'd most likely spoil you with a fantastic home made meal..Dessert..and a movie?


    WHAT?
    .. Well what would you guys do differently?


    WOW amazing!! so hot and I think that would've helped me a lot!!
  • Hothouse

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    Aug 21, 2012 6:52 PM GMT
    Valiente82 said
    Anocxu saidToo rough..too fast..too little lube and probably a sloppy selfish top!
    OP..as the bottom you have complete controll..believe it or not !

    Here's what I would have done!

    a) First...We’d get you relaxed...You smiling is the perfect signal...The more you smile the more I know you’ll have tons of fun...

    b) Then comes the rimming session... I’d kneel and have you squat on my face so you’d have complete control..

    c) I’d take my tongue...and totally loosen you up... You’d like it... I promise!

    d) If you started getting nervous..a good strong massage would help..More rimming with some light fingering..This time with you on your back

    e) Then I’d let you sit on me...First facing me..Then facing away.. That helps to loosen you more..

    f) Then we’d go...At your pace...Your rhythm till you are completely comfortable...

    g) In between all these..(if your'e that into me) MAKING OUT!!.. It makes everything better..

    h) And then…I'd give you a nice pounding! icon_twisted.gif.. And make you shoot like a Glock 9.. icon_evil.gif

    i) What happens after is also very important.. Cuddle..Shower..I'd most likely spoil you with a fantastic home made meal..Dessert..and a movie?


    WHAT?
    .. Well what would you guys do differently?


    WOW amazing!! so hot and I think that would've helped me a lot!!


    I know reading Anocxu's post helped me get hard. Just sayin'.
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    Aug 21, 2012 7:56 PM GMT
    OP..i posted that so you could set your standards for a top..did'nt mean to derail..oops icon_sad.gif
  • BlueMoose

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    Aug 21, 2012 9:15 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidBlueMoose... You know your'e too far away!... icon_redface.gif


    I know I used to live in FLorida though.
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    Aug 21, 2012 11:20 PM GMT
    Valiente82 said So I have some questions:

    What made me bleed? Most likely a small tear on the anus.

    Is it normal if you encounter a rough sexual partner and you are not used too rough and hard sex for this to happened? Yes

    Should I stay away rough men altogether? No

    What can I do prevent this from happening again? More lube. And, as stated, you are in control. Go at your own speed and depth.

    Would it be Im probably too tight? Could be. If it was a larger penis than you are use too and weren't relaxed enough.

    Thank you guys for the advice and time taken to reply ... looking forward to your answers.

    thanks.


    More lube and go at YOUR comfort levelicon_smile.gif
  • Svnw688

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    Aug 23, 2012 6:20 AM GMT
    1). It is NOT normal to bleed. Bleeding is a sign that something is WRONG, you are causing DAMAGE, and you need to STOP immediately (and stay stopped for a couple days until you feel healed).

    2). You bleed for one of two reasons, or a combination of the two: not enough lube, or too large a cock. Believe it or not, this is easy to fix. As others have mentioned, use a ton of lube. You should almost feel ridiculous with the amount. If it's a size issue, you've got to have him enter slowly to give your involuntary muscle (sphincter) time to relax. If it clamps down, and he pushes in, that friction/tension will make tears in your skin that bleed. All anal sex creates "micro" rips, as does vaginal intercourse, and this is unavoidable. However, you shouldn't see blood. Even if you whip after sex, you shouldn't see faint traces of blood, just wetness from lube and maybe a hint of brown (unless you just shit on his dick).

    3). Another factor that often gets overlooked is the psychological aspect. This is often couched in "do lots of foreplay" advice, which can help, but really what people are effectively hitting at is you have to be in the "right mood." I can get in the right mindset by thinking in about 5 seconds, so foreplay is meaningless and a waste of time for me. But until you acquire this ability to relax on command, then foreplay can help. Foreplay does NOT help loosen you up medically. Your hole can expand in less than a second to the size large enough to accommodate a traffic cone or fist. What foreplay does is allow you to slowly get into the mindset. It's like the difference between jumping into the deep end or starting at the kiddie end and walking towards the deep end. It's a very personal thing that's different for everyone. At the bottom line, what I'm saying and what foreplay in a round-about way does is this: make you want him inside you. If you don't want it in, your ass will clinch. If you crave his dick inside, you'll open up immediately. Foreplay might be a necessary step until you can control your hole mentally. But don't get lost in the foreplay, foreplay is a means to an end, the end is a feeling of you wanting to feel his dick in you.
  • jesuscruz

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    Aug 24, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidToo rough..too fast..too little lube and probably a sloppy selfish top!
    OP..as the bottom you have complete controll..believe it or not !

    Here's what I would have done!

    a) First...We’d get you relaxed...You smiling is the perfect signal...The more you smile the more I know you’ll have tons of fun...

    b) Then comes the rimming session... I’d kneel and have you squat on my face so you’d have complete control..

    c) I’d take my tongue...and totally loosen you up... You’d like it... I promise!

    d) If you started getting nervous..a good strong massage would help..More rimming with some light fingering..This time with you on your back

    e) Then I’d let you sit on me...First facing me..Then facing away.. That helps to loosen you more..

    f) Then we’d go...At your pace...Your rhythm till you are completely comfortable...

    g) In between all these..(if your'e that into me) MAKING OUT!!.. It makes everything better..

    h) And then…I'd give you a nice pounding! icon_twisted.gif.. And make you shoot like a Glock 9.. icon_evil.gif

    i) What happens after is also very important.. Cuddle..Shower..I'd most likely spoil you with a fantastic home made meal..Dessert..and a movie?


    WHAT?
    .. Well what would you guys do differently?



    take me!
  • BarettaB80

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    Aug 26, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
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    Aug 26, 2012 6:43 AM GMT
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    Read.... genius..he used rubbers both times,,
    You were just dying to post that weren't you..???
    Wrong thread...
    Your profile headline saids "Professional Genius"..???
    Still waiting to be convinced... icon_eek.gif



  • Valiente82

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    Aug 28, 2012 3:13 PM GMT
    Anocxu said
    BarettaB80 said35dnm8.jpg


    Read.... genius..he used rubbers both times,,
    You were just dying to post that weren't you..???
    Wrong thread...
    Your profile headline saids "Professional Genius"..???
    Still waiting to be convinced... icon_eek.gif





    Thank you .. very much
  • BarettaB80

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    Sep 06, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    anocxuRead.... genius..he used rubbers both times,,
    You were just dying to post that weren't you..???
    Wrong thread...
    Your profile headline saids "Professional Genius"..???
    Still waiting to be convinced... icon_eek.gif


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    First of all -- using "rubbers" does not mean 'NO AIDS'. They help though!

    Secondly, YES, I was dying to post that.

    #3, my headline does not, did not, and never will read "Professional Genius" - it says, "Professional Smartass".

    If you're going to snark and get your panties in a bunch, better put on your glasses/learn to read.
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