One great love forever or many great loves over a lifetime?

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    Aug 20, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    Ideally, if you could have one great love that you were with forever would you choose that, or would you rather have shorter, smaller relationships with many different loves? icon_question.gificon_question.gif
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    Aug 20, 2012 4:06 PM GMT
    Just one for me thanks!!..

    Think about this for a second...
    If you are not with a lover...it means it didn't end so well..which means baggage...
    A lot of ex boyfriends = a lot of baggage..
    I would'nt want to go through life with a ton of baggage from 5-6-7 ex boyfriends...

    ..I'd prefer to stay single..or just get a FB.

    .."shorter, smaller relationships with many different loves"

    How would that work as a prefference?
    "You can have me only from May to September?"

    (i love your threads btw).. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 20, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    For me, ideally, one great love forever.

    But the way my life has played out so far, I have had many different loves.

    The baggage disappears eventually though.
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    Aug 20, 2012 4:21 PM GMT
    microbiologist saidFor me, ideally, one great love forever.

    But the way my life has played out so far, I have had many different loves.

    The baggage disappears eventually though.


    See MicroB.. ( i'll call you that it's kida hip)..this is what i'm trying to avoid..i've had 3 exes and i don't want a 4th..
    ...I'm enjoying being single..But like most humans..i want love with Intimacy..i'd prefer to have it from 1 guy..
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    Aug 20, 2012 5:40 PM GMT
    Anocxu said
    microbiologist saidFor me, ideally, one great love forever.

    But the way my life has played out so far, I have had many different loves.

    The baggage disappears eventually though.


    See MicroB.. ( i'll call you that it's kida hip)..this is what i'm trying to avoid..i've had 3 exes and i don't want a 4th..
    ...I'm enjoying being single..But like most humans..i want love with Intimacy..i'd prefer to have it from 1 guy..


    I hear that! I would love my next love to be my last.
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    Aug 20, 2012 10:21 PM GMT
    As much as I prefer it , one life love sounds awkward these days!
    For me at least ! icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 20, 2012 11:38 PM GMT
    I see myself in 5 ten year relationships as opposed to one long term one. I believe in monogamy and faithfulness etc. I just think I will be in relationships where we both complement our lifestyles at the time, and when the lifestyles change (move cities for work, both looking for something else, who knows!) we'll agree to do what's best for both. I don't have a negative relationship with any of my exes, and would like to think I will be able to continue this as the years go by. In the end, it's out of my hands, but that's what I see happening icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 20, 2012 11:56 PM GMT
    jerbear89 saidI see myself in 5 ten year relationships as opposed to one long term one. I believe in monogamy and faithfulness etc. I just think I will be in relationships where we both complement our lifestyles at the time, and when the lifestyles change (move cities for work, both looking for something else, who knows!) we'll agree to do what's best for both. I don't have a negative relationship with any of my exes, and would like to think I will be able to continue this as the years go by. In the end, it's out of my hands, but that's what I see happening icon_smile.gif


    5 ten year relationships..hmm.. now you have me thinking...well i'm quite old..so 2 ten year relationships?..and my last few years i'd use the life insurances from my exes to be a sugar daddy???... icon_biggrin.gif

    (just one guy thank you)

  • Smile0_0

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    Aug 20, 2012 11:57 PM GMT
    only one
  • O5vx

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    Aug 21, 2012 12:04 AM GMT
    Yeahhh...one is good enough for me. If you find that one, hold on to him and make it work.
  • O5vx

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    Aug 21, 2012 12:04 AM GMT
    Yeahhh...one is good enough for me. If you find that one, hold on to him and make it work.
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    Aug 21, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    One that last forever would be great.
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    Aug 21, 2012 12:13 AM GMT
    Give me "The One"
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    Aug 21, 2012 12:16 AM GMT
    THE one.
  • O5vx

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    Aug 21, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    WhyWhySee saidJust thinking with my fingers, but if your ONE leaves you or passes away, how do you move on without believing that there is more than one?


    Obviously he is not your one.
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    Aug 21, 2012 12:35 AM GMT
    Many great loves. If I were straight, maybe I'd feel differently but being gay significantly cuts down on the pool of available talent. I would rather learn from 5 or so solid relationships that just became friendships over time than to be with one guy forever and ever and ever. Maybe it's because of where I am in my life right now and what I've seen here in Austin. I just don't believe that my "soul mate" and I would cross paths, nor would I be ready for him right now. That could change though.
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    Aug 21, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    Too late...I've already had a few.
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    Aug 21, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    WhyWhySee said
    O5vx said
    WhyWhySee saidJust thinking with my fingers, but if your ONE leaves you or passes away, how do you move on without believing that there is more than one?


    Obviously he is not your one.

    Fair if he leaves you, but if he dies?
    That's a question that cannot be answered until it happens.

    I know many people who remarried after the death of a spouse.

    My mom didn't remarry, nor did any of her three sisters (all widowed).
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    Aug 21, 2012 12:59 AM GMT
    I would prefer just one.
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    Aug 21, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    WhyWhySee said
    O5vx said
    WhyWhySee saidJust thinking with my fingers, but if your ONE leaves you or passes away, how do you move on without believing that there is more than one?


    Obviously he is not your one.

    Fair if he leaves you, but if he dies?


    If he dies and you are in good terms before he dies, I would be reluctant to think there is anyone else out there for me. I would more than likely stay single for the rest of my life.
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    Aug 21, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    [quote]Sooooooooo....

    You're "divorce material" rather than "marrying material". (?)[/quote]



    No, I'm saying I likely wouldn't get married icon_wink.gif

    Life's too short, and with globalization being the way that it is I think it's unrealistic to think you're not going to want to experience life from a few different vantage points. It's not like 50 years ago when people were generally limited to who they could date/grow old with.

    Maybe it's selfish of me, but it IS my life, right? And I'm not saying I would be counting down the days to the 10 year mark then pull the plug. I just see things working out that way given past experiences/my personality. I have too much love for just one person icon_smile.gif Share the wealth and they in turn continue to spread the positive experiences.
  • Laurence

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    Aug 21, 2012 7:31 AM GMT
    I think everyone should aim for one.

    You don't really enter a relationship thinking this may be one of a few. You need to commit and give it your all.

    Life sometimes has other ideas though. You might split up or suffer a bereavement and this might mean you end up having more than one great love.

    It is unlikely you'll have many great loves over a lifetime. If you have one or two, then you're very lucky.

    Lozx
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    Aug 21, 2012 7:52 AM GMT
    The one all the way.
    I don't believe necessarily that there is one person in the entire universe made for me, I believe there are more compatible people and you can make it work with anyone as long as both are willing to work and commit to it.

    I totally would love to come home to my one everyday icon_smile.gif
    I'm probably a hopeless and somewhat naive romantic but I want it!
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    Aug 21, 2012 9:10 AM GMT
    Watch the movie "Inventing the Abbots" about two brothers courting three sisters. One brother believes in "one love forever", the other believes in multiple loves. Interesting take on this topic.




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    Aug 21, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    Laurence saidI think everyone should aim for one.

    You don't really enter a relationship thinking this may be one of a few. You need to commit and give it your all.

    Life sometimes has other ideas though. You might split up or suffer a bereavement and this might mean you end up having more than one great love.

    It is unlikely you'll have many great loves over a lifetime. If you have one or two, then you're very lucky.

    Lozx


    People should do what's best for themselves with their compatible other at the time.
    ... And be honest and realistic with themselves and their other.