bachian said... If everyone took care of themselves there would be a greater supply of attractive guys and less cutthroat competition.If everyone took care of themselves, that wouldn't solve a damn thing. Sure there'd be more eye candy, but I think it's been proven time and time again here on RJ (and on other fitness sites) that being hot doesn't mean being a good person.
There would still be competition among personalities; and there would still be competition among body types (thin/defined, muscular, bulky...aka ectomorph, mesomorph, endomorph).
Still Paul, it's better to pick the good personalities among a group where hotness is guaranteed than having to compromise on other things because you can't guarantee physical attraction.
But overall I agree, though I think competition would be more even and there wouldn't be this concentrated power in the hands of few.
Do I sound socialist?
You sound EVER so slightly like more of a dullard than a socialist.
If you are basing yer relationships on something as ephemeral, personal and ultimatelty mass-media comercialized as "Hotness" - you should prepare yerself for a great deal of time spent alone flipping thru Men's Health and surfing the internetz looking for Men in their undeerwear (or less). And CONSTANTLY complaining about their lack of perfection and MANY flaws.
I've been in that boat since I came out in '91.
The very fir man I ever popped a woody to was an Asian martial artist (Bruce Lee). It wasn't because I wanted to fuck him or suck his dick or even be his friend. It was because I wanted to touch his muscles when he flexed them.
To this day, I still have no desire to fuck or suck; however I do value friendships. Unfortunately it's almost impossible to find a man who's into flexing and touching, without also demanding fucking and/or sucking. Therefore I've adjusted to the fact that I'll have friends with [flexing] benefits and possibly never a husband, because every person I've ever tried to date eventually wanted to "do more" even though I have no intention of doing more.
That said, I think it's perfectly normal to require "hotness" in a boyfriend. And if he loses that hotness for whatever reason, he should be understanding enough to accept the fact that I'll get my nut elsewhere, even though I still love him as a husband.