Haunted by exes

  • smthfun2009

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    Aug 21, 2012 11:03 AM GMT
    1.Recently I had a hookup with a guy from mh. I didn't have a good look at his profile before rushing to his place as I was too horny at that time. So in his place, he kept radiating this strange vibe, and I couldn't figure out what it was until his Polish accent came out and it instantly reminded me so much of my ex, who was also Polish. I told him that and he said he'd already had 3 guys telling him that and what a heartbreaker my ex was.

    In bed, I still couldn't shake off the idea of how much alike they were, and I couldn't help but stopped to talk to him. As I poured details about my ex, he realized I was talking about someone else, other than the heartbreaker previously mentioned, and immediately said my ex's name, which made my jaw drop. He said they even had a hookup once long time ago. Since that point, I just felt like I was having sex with my ex and the ways they talked, laughed, behaved and called my name were completely identical. They even had the same body size and cock size.

    Anyway, he seemed like a nice guy and he mentioned multiple times that he wanted to meet again. But I'm not sure what to do with the thoughts about my ex while around him. A friend told me if I get to know him more, I will recognize their difference and the image of my ex in him will fade, but does it really work like that?

    2.And there was another guy I met a year ago at my bday party in a beer garden, who, at that time, seemed like the best bday present ever. We dated for a couple weeks, and he became very intense and kept telling me how much he was in love with me to an extent I couldn't handle. And whenever we went on a date, he always asked if his best friend could come, which was a big turn-off. We suddenly broke contact in August without a sign.

    Lately he texted me twice about how much he would like to catch up and possibly get back together. I haven't agreed to meet him since I was not that into him at that time. But I was wondering if it's possible that over the year my taste in guys has changed and because I haven't had that much experience with guys in the past year, I could try to get to know him a bit more and wind up liking him, or is it gonna be the same mistake all over again?

    Anyone have similar experience? Really confused here icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 21, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    I've no experience, but my opinion is that...

    1. Go on the date, you may be pleasantly surprised? They're not the same person, after all.

    2. You broke it off for a reason - best go with the Polish guy.
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    Aug 21, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    OP.. You are clearly not over your ex.. if you go on dates and talk about your ex the whole time ..it's not making you look too good..

    Slow down.. every guy you date if you're not over your ex is a rebound guy...
    Most rebound guys do not last !..
  • smthfun2009

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    Aug 22, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidOP.. You are clearly not over your ex.. if you go on dates and talk about your ex the whole time ..it's not making you look too good..

    Slow down.. every guy you date if you're not over your ex is a rebound guy...
    Most rebound guys do not last !..


    I hardly think it counted as a date. Plus he was friends with my ex. They do have a lot in common. Like yesterday, he called to my surprise. First I thought it was my ex. When I found out it was him, I had to keep apologizing.

    I broke up with my ex 18months ago when I caught him cheating. I was totally over him at that time. It's probably because he recently left town forever, and part of me still wants him around even if I don't have feelings for him anymore. (We had sex twice after we broke up, and both times I had problems getting an erection)

    Thanks for your advice icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 22, 2012 4:08 AM GMT
    Instead of thinking about how you're so haunted by your exes; why not focus on your overwhelmingly blinding future?
    I know it sounds silly and tuning from one state of mind to another brings the loud noise of haters, but its well worth it. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 22, 2012 4:13 AM GMT
    my mom invited my ex to a cookout...without me knowing? luckily i had to work, so i wasnt there and didnt find out till afterwards, lol.
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    Aug 22, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    Hikari saidmy mom invited my ex to a cookout...without me knowing? luckily i had to work, so i wasnt there and didnt find out till afterwards, lol.


    Maybe she was trying to fix you up with him? I bet she doesn't know him as well as you do, which is why you broke up with him and she hasn't
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    Aug 22, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    smthfun2009 said
    Hikari saidmy mom invited my ex to a cookout...without me knowing? luckily i had to work, so i wasnt there and didnt find out till afterwards, lol.


    Maybe she was trying to fix you up with him? I bet she doesn't know him as well as you do, which is why you broke up with him and she hasn't


    he broke up with me for some dbag, he was back in town and was trying to get a hold of me *shrug*
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    Aug 22, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    I love to see us gay folks happy..!!
    it's just better for all of us if we are..You know what i mean!.. icon_biggrin.gif
    Take the time to get to know these guys..yes!