This is a great question, however, i think the answer is alot deeper than just recommending a location. Going to give you my opinion... if i use the term "we" i mostly refer to myself and my views... so please dont get tooo pissed off
The "where" isnt really the problem... i think you can find great guys just about anywhere, even on realjock, i think the problem is deepera) early life (ages 5-18 or so...) (about 10 years ago)
Emotionally some of us are disconnected. Why wouldnt we be. We grew up in a world where from a extremely young age we had to learn how to hide who we are, who we love and what our beliefs are. When our friends found love and experienced all the greatness it can give, we where hiding ours. When they dated, we stood watching. When they went through breakups we supported them, yet no one ever realise we needed support. When they took their dates to the prom, their true loves (at that point... lol), we again, just watched. When the people around us experienced their first kiss, we couldnt/didnt. We where mostly alone and had to build emotional barriers to survive. living in a world where you can feel love, but not act on it, see other people experience the joys of it is very similar to staying in a house, where 9 other people can eat as much as they want to, and you cant... starving... just watching and acting likes its all great. Then ontop of that, knowing if you acted on your feelings, you would have been outcasted. If you ate the food, you would be the "freak of nature" regardless as to that fact that a) your hungry and b) everyone else is eating... From an emotional point of view, i think that we have some strong barriers erected and breaking them down is extremely hard.b) early life (dating training)
So, as stated above, when our mates started dating at the ages of 10 or so, we didnt. Now whats so special about that? Well, these relationships didnt involve sex. Sex only came, for the majority of my straight friends when they hit the age of 16 or so. At that time they have had numerous relationship with the sole purpose of it being "emotionally rewarding". Sex only introduced itself later, giving them some more perspective on the process. Hey, im not saying straight people are great, not in the slightest, their dating leaves alot to be desired, but they do have the tendancy to stay in them "slightly longer".c) where are we now
So now... how do we date... how do we find our dates. Well simple. We go to a location (online or physical) where there is a grouping of gay people. We then filter through everyone based on physical attraction levels... so yea, that picture you uploaded... its a menu item... and then we select someone we hope will be Mnr right. We normally search for people when we are horny, because that makes us realise, we need to do something about it (really, its not like we randomly go online and say, today i want to find someone who i can spend the rest of my life with). We then have sex on either the first ate, second, and god, if we are good, the third date. We then hope, that Mnr right pops up through this process... We are sexual, we started acting on it in our sexual primes and we havent figured out that there is a reason why one can go on more than one date without it resulting in a sexual encounter. My sister, who... oooi... hate saying this... loves men+sex waaaaaaaay to much.. doesnt even do it within the first three dates.
Again, my view. i dont think it applies to everyone, i definately dont think it does. but i think it does apply to a large portion of the guys i have met. I have had a ton of people on this very site msg me without seeing that i dont do NSA. Im a menu item, in a massive macdonals menu...
I think if we change our approach, things could work better. Physical attraction is important, but first get to know someone. Hey, alot of them wont work out, thats fine, its normal, for everyone on earth. But physical attraction and emotional connection, both, should hold equal weight. Without the emotional connection part, and working on it, you can just call it a prolonged one night stand