Where's the best place to meet a quality guy?

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    Aug 21, 2012 11:16 AM GMT
    Hey guys! So I'm sure there's been topics written on this before, but I wanted to find out from the RJ community the best place to meet a quality guy...the online dating sites have been ok...gay bars are sub-par...the sports leagues aren't as good. I feel like I've tapped out the obvious resources. I'm starting to feel like I'm way too picky! So, would love to get your opinion...what are some good ideas that I may be missing?

    Any advice is greatly appreciated!

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    Aug 21, 2012 11:33 AM GMT
    Airport restrooms, public parks after midnight, grindr, and rentboy.com.
  • ohioguy12

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    Aug 21, 2012 12:18 PM GMT
    There is no good answer. I guess it just depends on luck/keeping yourself out there. I've met some of the most quality guys on grindr and adam4adam, two places you would least expect.
  • calibro

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    Aug 21, 2012 12:18 PM GMT
    prison
  • somedaytoo

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    Aug 21, 2012 12:19 PM GMT
    When you find out, let me know.
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    Aug 21, 2012 12:53 PM GMT
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    Gay Men's Chorus Concerts. An example:

    http://www.agmchorus.org/

    EDIT: Here's one from your area (Triangle):

    http://www.tgmchorus.org/
  • camfer

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    Aug 21, 2012 1:01 PM GMT
    I think the place is absolutely anywhere. Start a conversation with anyone anywhere.

    If I could reframe the question for you, it would be something like this. Who are the quality people in my life now? Being with them is its own reward. They can also introduce you to people they know who might be looking to date.

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    Aug 21, 2012 2:10 PM GMT
    It depends on the kind of guy you want to find! There are plenty of quality guys anywhere. I live in an area with a heavy gay population so they are at the bars, at the parks, on the streets, at the gyms, at the grocery stores, at restaurants, everywhere!

    The biggest problem tends to be not being open, approachable, or daring enough to meet guys at all these places (at least I know that's my problem).
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    Aug 21, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    'Best place'...'Quality' right!? In the woods....

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    another alternative at the hills

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    Just make sure you are well equipped! extra disposable socks wont harm you seriously!..........................icon_twisted.gif
    *with all good intentions from the above and below.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 21, 2012 8:32 PM GMT
    This is a great question, however, i think the answer is alot deeper than just recommending a location. Going to give you my opinion... if i use the term "we" i mostly refer to myself and my views... so please dont get tooo pissed off icon_smile.gif

    The "where" isnt really the problem... i think you can find great guys just about anywhere, even on realjock, i think the problem is deeper

    a) early life (ages 5-18 or so...) (about 10 years ago)
    Emotionally some of us are disconnected. Why wouldnt we be. We grew up in a world where from a extremely young age we had to learn how to hide who we are, who we love and what our beliefs are. When our friends found love and experienced all the greatness it can give, we where hiding ours. When they dated, we stood watching. When they went through breakups we supported them, yet no one ever realise we needed support. When they took their dates to the prom, their true loves (at that point... lol), we again, just watched. When the people around us experienced their first kiss, we couldnt/didnt. We where mostly alone and had to build emotional barriers to survive. living in a world where you can feel love, but not act on it, see other people experience the joys of it is very similar to staying in a house, where 9 other people can eat as much as they want to, and you cant... starving... just watching and acting likes its all great. Then ontop of that, knowing if you acted on your feelings, you would have been outcasted. If you ate the food, you would be the "freak of nature" regardless as to that fact that a) your hungry and b) everyone else is eating... From an emotional point of view, i think that we have some strong barriers erected and breaking them down is extremely hard.

    b) early life (dating training)
    So, as stated above, when our mates started dating at the ages of 10 or so, we didnt. Now whats so special about that? Well, these relationships didnt involve sex. Sex only came, for the majority of my straight friends when they hit the age of 16 or so. At that time they have had numerous relationship with the sole purpose of it being "emotionally rewarding". Sex only introduced itself later, giving them some more perspective on the process. Hey, im not saying straight people are great, not in the slightest, their dating leaves alot to be desired, but they do have the tendancy to stay in them "slightly longer".

    c) where are we now
    So now... how do we date... how do we find our dates. Well simple. We go to a location (online or physical) where there is a grouping of gay people. We then filter through everyone based on physical attraction levels... so yea, that picture you uploaded... its a menu item... and then we select someone we hope will be Mnr right. We normally search for people when we are horny, because that makes us realise, we need to do something about it (really, its not like we randomly go online and say, today i want to find someone who i can spend the rest of my life with). We then have sex on either the first ate, second, and god, if we are good, the third date. We then hope, that Mnr right pops up through this process... We are sexual, we started acting on it in our sexual primes and we havent figured out that there is a reason why one can go on more than one date without it resulting in a sexual encounter. My sister, who... oooi... hate saying this... loves men+sex waaaaaaaay to much.. doesnt even do it within the first three dates.

    Again, my view. i dont think it applies to everyone, i definately dont think it does. but i think it does apply to a large portion of the guys i have met. I have had a ton of people on this very site msg me without seeing that i dont do NSA. Im a menu item, in a massive macdonals menu...

    I think if we change our approach, things could work better. Physical attraction is important, but first get to know someone. Hey, alot of them wont work out, thats fine, its normal, for everyone on earth. But physical attraction and emotional connection, both, should hold equal weight. Without the emotional connection part, and working on it, you can just call it a prolonged one night stand icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 21, 2012 8:33 PM GMT
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  • tuffguyndc

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    Aug 21, 2012 8:37 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidAirport restrooms, public parks after midnight, grindr, and rentboy.com.
    paul, he said quality. not sleezy. jeeze, have a little class sometimes. ha ha ha when you figure that one out let me know
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    Aug 22, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    I met all my bf's from online.

    I don't think there is any one place where you'll find quality.
  • O5vx

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    Aug 22, 2012 12:44 AM GMT
    Quality guys are everywhere, you just have to find what you want.
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    Aug 22, 2012 12:47 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    paulflexes saidAirport restrooms, public parks after midnight, grindr, and rentboy.com.
    paul, he said quality. not sleezy. jeeze, have a little class sometimes. ha ha ha when you figure that one out let me know
    What, anonymous sex with strangers isn't classy?

    Jeeze. What planet are you from? icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 22, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
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    or gaybar like the old fashion way.
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    Aug 22, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
    microbiologist saidI met all my bf's from online.

    I don't think there is any one place where you'll find quality.
    Ditto, but not all my boyfriends. You meet where you meet. Never know who is around each corner. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 22, 2012 12:51 AM GMT
    I don't know. That's why I'm still single.
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    Aug 22, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    Guys at the Roller Derby games:

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  • aznduderocks

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    Aug 22, 2012 4:04 AM GMT
    Live your life - you'll meet that quality guy icon_razz.gif embrace the law of attractions. icon_lol.gif I am still single though, haha....