Sundown, I just finished reading this book about a month ago, and on my recommendation, 2 of my friends (both gay) also bought it. We all loved it because it shows how insidiously the shame factor sneaks into our self-perceptions and works itself out in our lives in a self-defeating way.
I also read "The Way Out" by Christopher Lee Nutter. Nutter stresses being authentically yourself, and that as we come out (to ourselves, to others), we always evaluate our motivations for how we decide to dress, how we choose a lover, how we deport ourselves, etc. Nutter is Buddhist and he nicely integrates some Buddhist tenets into the points he makes.
A friend gave me a copy of "Reclaiming Your Life" by Rik Isensee. I haven't read this one yet, but it came highly recommended.
Ashpenaz, I love what you wrote.
ITJock, your criticism seems a little different than the other negative things people wrote. I don't quite get it, but I'd be interested in knowing more of what you meant. It seems like you're saying the book reflects negatively on the author, Alan Downs. Could you explain this?