Why Gays Hate Their Bodies

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    Aug 21, 2012 7:48 PM GMT
    This was a really interesting article! What are your thoughts?

    http://hommemaker.com/2012/08/20/why-the-gays-hate-their-bodies/
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 21, 2012 8:03 PM GMT
    Lame article. I love my body.icon_biggrin.gif
  • HorrorHound

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    Aug 21, 2012 10:12 PM GMT
    Orlando Soria is a fuckin' vapid POS. His line of thinking/reasoning is destructive. I'm so glad I'm not like that.
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    Aug 21, 2012 10:21 PM GMT
    Maybe the writer of the article is projecting?

    The line I took away from it: "Because men are inherently superficial and inferior to women, we rely on visual cues for arousal."

    ORLY.

    I wasn't aware I was inferior.

    Thanks for the update.

    Also interesting: only one brown (barely) fella in there.

    That is 3 minutes of my life I'll never get back...
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 21, 2012 10:33 PM GMT
    Sort of a stupid article for trying to associate the entire population of gay to "hating their bodies". Obviously, not all of them do, or they wouldn't have the bodies they have. Just take a look around on this site.

    Typical Media Hype
    Did they borrow this article from, "Why women hate their bodies" article?
  • tazzari

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    Aug 21, 2012 10:33 PM GMT
    Stupid. I spent a life in professional sports and kicked the hell out of my body. At 63 it's showing the wear, but we get along just fine!
  • jayatl56

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    Aug 21, 2012 10:35 PM GMT
    I find many men are body-centric. I mean, that's all they think about. So many profiles are about their gym schedule and photos are taken in front of the gym mirrors and their ideal guy has the same ideas. That's all fine and good but there's more to life than abs.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Aug 22, 2012 12:04 AM GMT
    we all can't look like Marky Mark when he was 19, but we all wish we did, and we're all secretly looking of him, for us older guys.
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    Aug 22, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
    I stopped reading when I read "hot skinny people".
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    Aug 22, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidLame article. I love my body.icon_biggrin.gif


    that's because you actually have a nice body

    tazzari saidStupid. I spent a life in professional sports and kicked the hell out of my body. At 63 it's showing the wear, but we get along just fine!


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    this thread isn't about you
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    Aug 22, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    bachian saidI stopped reading when I read "hot skinny people".
    I started fapping when I read that.
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    Aug 22, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    Silliness. I love gay men and their bodies.
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    Aug 22, 2012 12:51 AM GMT
    at times i feel blehhhhhhhh but then i dont,i guess it depends on the day
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    Aug 22, 2012 12:58 AM GMT
    The media in general ( commercial as it is) still isnt sure how to treat gays as a group. I know down here on every morning radio show there is this constant man vs woman vibe, you know call in and tell us how stupid your husband is, how many shoes does your wiIfe own etc etc same shit. Basically the mainstream is still finding its way on generalising us without being to mean so we wont buy the products they advertise, cause in the end its all about selling advertising space.

    Gay men dont hate their bodies (well maybe uptight Yanks doicon_rolleyes.gif:winkicon_smile.gif but the rest of the worlds gays are pretty free and easy despite size shape and age.
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    Aug 22, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    I don't hate my body, I'm glad I'm so healthy looking and all... but I can hate on your body; if it makes you feel better? icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 22, 2012 1:03 AM GMT
    JR_RJ saidI don't hate my body, I'm glad I'm so healthy looking and all... but I can hate on your body; if it makes you feel better? icon_neutral.gif


    Ive been an admirer of your body for quite sometime now lol
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    Aug 22, 2012 1:19 AM GMT
    I find it understandable why they might think that. What gay person hasn't had a moment if insecurity when going to the gym and seeing another guys body perfect abs or any other body part for that matter. I'm in NY, so I always hear the insecurities in gay men, but it's not just gay men either.
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    Aug 22, 2012 4:52 AM GMT
    http://gawker.com/5936775/article-explains-why-gay-men-feel-insecure-by-reminding-them-how-fat-and-gross-they-are?utm_campaign=socialflow_gawker_facebook&utm_source=gawker_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow

    I liked Gawkers version of this far better lol.
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    Aug 22, 2012 4:54 AM GMT
    cus it's the only thing they have to offer??
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    Aug 22, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    I think gay men are already "raw"... especially if you were ever in the closet and you are looking for acceptance... the first thing you do is you look for a boyfriend.. and most likely you look in the wrong places... most men will immediately think bars and such. You have some men who are all 6's looking for an 11.. instead f just focusing on someone who is just going to be a good partner. There can be, not always, but CAN be.. alot of presure to be "perfect".. actually i feel it a lot at times.. and kind of have moments where i have to buckle against it say.. you know what i do not HAVE to look perfect for anyone.. just take care of myself to my TASTE and not bend over backwards and look as good as i can and i will always have a dating pool.

    Yet there is this fear that a lot of us have that if you are not attractive you mean nothing. As a black guy.. to be honest... if i were 30% less attractive than i am now (however you personally see me) i think i would most likely be completely cast aside... because i get that old line i think most black gay dudes get "You're attractive...for a black guy."... i think minorities feel this way and so do overwieght gay men who can not seem to lose wieght.
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    Aug 22, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    I think there's some validity to the points made in that article. Most importantly is that we compare ourselves to our partners. That's something a straight couple doesn't do or have to worry about. A woman may tell her husband she feels fat or compare herself to other women she sees but she's not going to size herself up to her husband.

    I also agree there's a lot of competition and superficiality to look your best and be the hottest guy or you'll be single forever. Gay men are tough critics, and like the article says there's a lot of shirtlessness, so you've gotta look good!

    This article is obviously a little ridiculous but I do agree there are a lot of pressures out there to look a certain way. Not sure that most gay guys "hate their bodies" though.
  • kencarson

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    Aug 22, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    I responded with my own blog. http://humanchameleon.blogspot.com/2012/08/hating-our-bodies.html
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    Aug 22, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    JackBlair69 saidAnd this is how he ended it:

    "Ultimately our body dysmorphia is a good thing which will force our community and outlive our straight peers and take over the world."

    Not when considering that health-wise, the "gay community" is a sort of petri dish of the gods.


    Yeah that's a pretty stupid sentence. I didn't think all his points were valid. Ha ha.
  • dancedancekj

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    Aug 22, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    Interesting comment from the Gawker article:

    "I recently published a book on sexuality and fat, Fat Sex: The Naked Truth. I had throngs of people wanting to be interviewed about their experiences. Straight women and men, and lesbian women, that is. In the year I spent interviewing people I found one gay man willing to be interviewed. One. In looking for at least one gay man to interview I encountered some perspectives I only saw in the gay male community -- while in the straight and lesbian community there are preferences, and some people have issues with those preferences -- it's a mixed bag. In the gay male community there was nearly a fear to speak up. An invisibility that seems far worse than what straight women experience -- who are often quite invisible. Lucky I found one brave and very vocal soul. But he described a great deal of bigotry and pain. Very disturbing.

    Rebecca Jane Weinstein"
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    Aug 22, 2012 5:27 AM GMT
    I read this somewhere else originally and I found it slightly humorous; maybe it was intended to be satirical? Some realistic viewpoints are embedded within an overdramatic and biased piece, I personally didn't take offense but actually related to lots of it (I'm a recovering fat kid). Maybe I didn't read into it as deeply as some of you, but either way it's a piece of opinion/perspective, not a doctrine. Relax icon_biggrin.gif