Am I a picky Bit*h?

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    Aug 22, 2012 1:20 AM GMT
    Ok so I went on this date with this super hot guy and had a great time until we kissed. His breath was kickin' and couldn't conjure enough courage to kiss longer than 5 seconds. Anyway.. I told myself maybe it was something he ate that propelled his mouth to have such stinging raunchy aroma, and so I decided to give him another chance. On the second date he leaned for a kiss and guess what?--his breath was reminiscent of the previous time. Because of this I thought that maybe he was perpetually plagued with this unique aroma.

    Well it turns out that I told him things were not going to work out. Besides this though, the guy is amazingly beautiful and genuinely nice. Am I an awful person for giving up on him just because of his upset stomach provoking gut wrenching breath?
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    Aug 22, 2012 1:24 AM GMT
    Nup as the song says "its in his kiss" if the kiss aint working nothing ever will
  • Webster666

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    Aug 22, 2012 1:28 AM GMT
    I think that you would have done him a favor by telling him, in as nice a way as possible.

    His problem could be caused by any number of things, including a cavity, or a piece of food stuck between two teeth.
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    Aug 22, 2012 1:32 AM GMT
    no you have standards and I respect that.
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    Aug 22, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    You dumped a guy because of his breath? While all other aspects about him were really good? icon_rolleyes.gif

    Something like good hygiene can easily be enforced by discussing it openly and kindly with him. Or if you want to take indirect route, how about offering him some Altoids after you guys finish a meal. icon_lol.gif

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    Aug 22, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    xrichx saidYou dumped a guy because of his breath? While all other aspects about him were really good? icon_rolleyes.gif

    Something like good hygiene can easily be enforced by discussing it openly and kindly with him. Or if you want to take indirect route, how about offering him some Altoids after you guys finish a meal. icon_lol.gif



    No no no.

    If he's not hygienic in his mouth he's most likely also not hygienic in his other body areas as well. Like down there.
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    Aug 22, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    If I really liked him I would have just asked him to brush his teeth. totally not kidding.

    (a lot of times being way more honest than most people comes in handy icon_biggrin.gif)
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    Aug 22, 2012 2:03 AM GMT
    Why do people let small things like bad breath outweigh the many good things?

    The problem is not just with you, but with a lot of people I see. Someone having bad breath shouldn't be an issue at all...
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    Aug 22, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidWhy do people let small things like bad breath outweigh the many good things?

    The problem is not just with you, but with a lot of people I see. Someone having bad breath shouldn't be an issue at all...
    Because the OP is a picky bitch! icon_lol.gif
  • Just_Tim

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    Aug 22, 2012 2:10 AM GMT
    Well, it's your call. Obviously. But that seems really picky to me. Bad breath is super manageable, dude!
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    Aug 22, 2012 2:14 AM GMT
    You know how some people put roofies in drinks? You can put Altoids in the drink. Along with the roofie, of course, that goes without saying.
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    Aug 22, 2012 2:19 AM GMT
    nope you're not wrong. poor hygiene is a huge turn off, and a sign of not only laziness but a lack of self-awareness.
  • Kriss

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    Aug 22, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    You could have told him his breath stinks, you can't assume that a person has COMPLETE poor hygeine simply due to one fact. Hygeine is important in a person yes, so you should have just said,

    "Hey man your cute and all but that breath....and my face....not gonna work." then crack a joke or something. You would have addressed the issue AND made him feel alot less worse about his bad breath problem because you simply made it funny.

    If you feel like his overall hygeine is horrendous though....then you need to kick it to the curb....like seriously.

    There is nothing wrong with a man sweating and smelling like a man...but when you smell like a thousand rotting corpses left outside in a sun and covered in grinded cow intenstines...well then sir...you need to move on because I REFUSE!
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    Aug 22, 2012 4:22 AM GMT
    I'm really starting to understand why so many gay guys are single.
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    Aug 22, 2012 4:49 AM GMT
    PieceOfMe saidnope you're not wrong. poor hygiene is a huge turn off, and a sign of not only laziness but a lack of self-awareness.

    Yeah, but who says it's poor hygene? - he could have a rotten tooth problem or gum disease he was not aware of - or it could be coming from his stomach. And just in case you've never noticed - it's almost impossible to smell odors from your own breath. If it were me, I would have said something to him.
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    Aug 22, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    Well it turns out that I told him things were not going to work out. Besides this though, the guy is amazingly beautiful and genuinely nice. Am I an awful person for giving up on him just because of his upset stomach provoking gut wrenching breath?
    No not awful - just foolish. You could have told him. He was probably not aware of the problem. Most people, although being slightly embarrassed, would be glad to be told they had such a problem. He might have taken corrective action and you might have gotten to third base.

    But wasn't it just a couple weeks ago that you told us you had sworn off men because some guy broke it off with you?
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    Aug 22, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    you could have offered him gum
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    Aug 22, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    Tell him to lick his wrist, breath on it, and take a wiff! He'll get the hint. icon_biggrin.gif

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    Aug 22, 2012 6:02 AM GMT
    I'm not dumping a nice guy for that reason.. Not even when i was in my 20's..
    i would think of such a thing.. consider:

    Altoids..
    Breath sprays..
    A dentist..

    ..If you make out with a guy.(his breath is kinda funky)...and say politely.."Hey what did you just eat?".." Hey sexy those onions are messin with our make out session"..that can open a conversation about his dental hygene .. just be polite ..extremely polite !! He will get the hint!

    If you are looking for a perfectly good guy out of the box...
    Good luck!!
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    Aug 22, 2012 6:36 AM GMT
    Yes that was very picky. There are ways to treat bad breath.

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    Aug 22, 2012 9:26 AM GMT
    ugggs,like seriously,try to dump him for a better reason,good gaymen are rare like unicorn.

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  • Buddha

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    Aug 22, 2012 11:31 AM GMT
    Why not just make him chew some gum?
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    Aug 22, 2012 11:33 AM GMT
    Sometimes all it takes is a little something like that to turn someone off.. I leaned into to kiss this girl back in 9th grade and one of her teeth had like this brown stain on it. I kissed her cheek instead. lol..
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    Aug 22, 2012 11:50 AM GMT
    You like what you like but if its not a cosmetic issue, I think being upfront in a tactful way is the way forward, same way as I would rather know than wonder why guys kept turning me down for a second date but its easier said than done and thats what good mates are for!
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    Aug 22, 2012 11:59 AM GMT
    homastj saidIf I really liked him I would have just asked him to brush his teeth. totally not kidding.

    (a lot of times being way more honest than most people comes in handy icon_biggrin.gif)


    This, I hate bad breath so why not let him know the reason and see if anything changes.