Looking at old photos brings out the Summertime Sadness

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    Aug 22, 2012 9:44 PM GMT
    Do you get sad when you look at pictures from your past?

    Usually, we take pictures of fun memories, friends, family, good times that we like to keep and preserve, so we can go back to them at some point in the future and relive the moments.

    But I am beginning to notice that looking at good times from the past often brings out feelings of nostalgia and even sadness, because more often than not some of the people that shared these moments with you are no longer part of your life.
    Life circumstances just makes it this way that people just "fall apart", they go their separate ways. It is just the first time that I associate this memory preservation mechanism that is "photographs" with how fleeting life is and how volatile every relation in this life is, with your family, friends, lovers, pets, acquaintances, even people you crossed paths with for a few minutes or hours, but for some reason affected you.

    Anyway, I just came to this realisation, this logical bond between how we as humans try to hold on to the time that is passing and our sadness at seeing it in front of us in a piece of paper (or digital photo), hoping we could relive the happy moments that pass, but in reality You can never go back...

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    Aug 22, 2012 9:46 PM GMT
    Taking new photos revives summertime awesomeness.
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    Aug 23, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    OP... Am I weird for not feeling that way? I am so obsessed with the future that I don’t look back so many times! Old moments from the past...or new moments in the future...Now you have me thinking!
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    Aug 23, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    I have around 30 or more cousins from both of my parents side and we were very close to each other. We would always get together over holidays or weekend to do fun stuff but now they're all grown up and married. I really really miss the old day. We take pictures of the moments so that one day we can look back and relive but could we really? I dont think so. Days after days, it become more and more difficult to remember that special moments, all you can get is just a glimpse of it.
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    Aug 23, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    lol lanadelgay reference.
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    Aug 23, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    I guess for me its depends on the circumstances of why certain people are no longer a part of your life. If they were merely satellite friends who you thought you would be friends with forever, and then they disappeared out of no where, I actually feel good - it shows that you did not waste the last few years of your life on those posers.

    On the other hand, if it's a really great friend, and circumstances like them moving away or you just spend a lot less time with them, then I invariably have that overwhelming sense of nostalgia.

    I tend to look forward a lot, so I even when I feel sad for a loss, it doesn't last that long. Think about all the great adventures that are to be had in the future!
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    Aug 23, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    sootopolis saidlol lanadelgay reference.
    +1
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    Aug 23, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidOP... Am I weird for not feeling that way? I am so obsessed with the future that I don’t look back so many times! Old moments from the past...or new moments in the future...Now you have me thinking!
    That's the whole point of my reply. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 23, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    Do you get sad when you look at pictures from your past?

    All the time.
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    Aug 23, 2012 3:57 AM GMT
    Kiss me hard before you go... Summer time sadden-ess!
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:33 AM GMT
    I feel you man. I often find myself looking back longing for the "good ole days" in college especially. It sucks how many of your old friends kind of drift apart as time goes by. Such is life I guess; doesn't make it any easier though.
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidTaking new photos revives summertime awesomeness.


    Lana Del Rey doesn't have a song called "Summertime Awesomeness". Thank you very much
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    leviticii said
    paulflexes saidTaking new photos revives summertime awesomeness.


    Lana Del Rey doesn't have a song called "Summertime Awesomeness". Thank you very much
    I have no idea who that is. Thank you even more.
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    sootopolis saidlol lanadelgay reference.


    Ka Ching
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    leviticii said
    paulflexes saidTaking new photos revives summertime awesomeness.


    Lana Del Rey doesn't have a song called "Summertime Awesomeness". Thank you very much
    I have no idea who that is. Thank you even more.


    That's so sweet of you icon_smile.gif I wanna insist on thanking you AND I wanna perform the chicken dance for you, just as a thank you gift. You think you are generous? You haven't seen what I can do yet, pfftttt
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    Aug 23, 2012 5:50 AM GMT
    leviticii said
    But I am beginning to notice that looking at good times from the past often brings out feelings of nostalgia and even sadness, because more often than not some of the people that shared these moments with you are no longer part of your life....

    Sometimes it is best not to view the photos very often, when your friends in the photos have passed on. For those of us that were kicking around in the 80's, there may be lots of lost friends who died of AIDS. But for people who just moved on and are no longer in your life - why keep photos of them?
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    Aug 23, 2012 5:57 AM GMT
    Seeing the thread heading reminded me of this song:

    Lana Del Rey - "Summertime Sadness"

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    Aug 23, 2012 6:21 AM GMT
    joelryn saidSeeing the thread heading reminded me of this song:

    Lana Del Rey - "Summertime Sadness"



    Well, I was kinda aiming for that ;)
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    Aug 23, 2012 6:41 PM GMT
    Dad was heavily into photography (his family was in entertainment: music & film, so it was his upbringing) and even had a dedicated dark room set up in the house. Some of my favorite memories are of helping him develop photos in their chemical baths. I both found it fascinating plus it was one of the rare times he'd ever take interest in teaching me or even spending time. Major issues that guy has. Also he was into 8mm, state of the art at the time.

    Mom kept every photograph ever taken and managed to keep them even while moving stateside to island to boat to land to house to apartment to house. I've boxes of the stuff going back a few generations. When they had divorced, my dad didn't keep a single picture of us. A nightmare I didn't know about until he was in his late 70s. For his 80th birthday I digitized for him all the photos of him with his children but not my mother, the memory of whom still makes him bitter.

    Later in life my step-dad was totally into videography including the very earliest computerized editing programs. An engineer who loved boat engines and hi-tech, he'd be totally jealous of the crap we have today. I can hardly remember a time together when for at least part of the day he wasn't filming us. Also he transferred my dad's 8mm to VHS. So now I have about 60 tapes to digitize plus all the rest of the photos.

    It's hard to look at some of that for long periods of time. The only ones I've destroyed so far are of people who either fucked me or my family, duplicates and unflattering shots. But even of the good shots of good people, how many pictures can I have of one person. So I'm trying to get myself to weed through all that. As I digitize the still photos I may organize them according to each person aging, as I have done on my profile. Then I can just pick out some of the better pictures from each time period and start discarding some of the rest.

    What I love having is the videos and I especially love the idea of digitizing them and handing them down to my niece and nephew so that even their children and grandchildren will know the interactions of my grandparents and the laughter of my mother's voice. I think that is incredible and when you think about it, very new to humanity.

    It's only since 1927, still just under 100 years, that popular culture got to enjoy the very first full length talkie: The Jazz Singer



    So very few families have voices to go with film of ancestors going back just that far. When did we get home movies with sound, the 1970s? So relative to the 1000s of years of development of our modern psyche, this is all very new in culture and to the psychology of that. Yet now we have a barrage of photography and videography and storage capacity when we've hardly had time to process the development. That's called whiplash.

    No wonder it is difficult to know how to think about it. Never before has humanity been able to compress time like this, then pop it open at the stoke of a keyboard. How can that not affect us when we look at old photos.
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    Aug 29, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    Personally, what gets me nostalgic are video games. I used to play them more as a kid, but I don't have the time for them much anymore.

    It's all for school... Everything I do.
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    Aug 29, 2012 3:29 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidTaking new photos revives summertime awesomeness.


    glass half-full, check!
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    Aug 29, 2012 4:35 PM GMT
    I only get sad when , i see loved ones that have passed on them ..
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    Aug 30, 2012 6:29 AM GMT
    neffa saidI only get sad when , i see loved ones that have passed on them ..


    This hurts more than you can imagine...
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    Aug 30, 2012 7:11 AM GMT
    I know how you feel. I have tons of old family pics. Since i lost my dad few months back and my mom moving closer to us, ive ended up with allot of old pics. Plus i like to listen to music from my Childhood and early adulthood (70s-80s) on XM radio. Some songs make me sad only wish I could go back in time and re live those days. Even though I like the technology of today. I wish i could relive the past. Ive lost many of family and some close friends since i was a kid and more of a loner now then ever. I lost track of allot of people over time, when i look at old pics it just makes me more depressed.