This girl asked me if I was gay

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    Aug 22, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    Earlier today I was down at student services taking care of some things. I was talking to this girl as I was waiting for my counselor. Straight up out the blue she asks me "Are you gay?!" mid-conversation. I was floored, so my voice got a little shaky. I told her no, but that was a lie. I don't know why I lied it just caught me off guard. I'm not used to people asking me that.icon_redface.gif
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    Aug 22, 2012 10:18 PM GMT
    Why are you so afraid to be yourself?
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    Aug 22, 2012 10:19 PM GMT
    Im pretty sure she already knew.. just being a cunt about it.
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    Aug 22, 2012 10:29 PM GMT
    Don't bother lying when someone asks ... If they are asking, it is because they can tell you are gay but realize that you are trying to act straight, but you are not pulling it off ... you are only making a bigger fool out of yourself when you deny it, because when you walk away they laugh at you because you denied ... so be right up front and say, "Yes, I am. Do you have an issue with that?" but say it in a very nice tone of voice, not an offended tone of voice or an embarrassed tone of voice .... they will probably say 'no, sorry, I wasn't trying to offend you', and maybe they are not, maybe they are just trying to get it out of the way so you will be more comfortable around them ... and maybe they will set you up with a really Hot Guy .... So don't be a fool ... say yes to gay
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    Aug 22, 2012 10:43 PM GMT
    I'm sorry you had to go through that. It can be uncomfortable at first but if you're not ready to tell then you're not ready. I know some people just love to ask if someone is gay or not. A girlfriend of mine asks practically every guy that if he's straight or gay when she first met them.
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    Aug 22, 2012 10:53 PM GMT
    "Coming out" is not a one-time ordeal.

    It's a process that lasts a lifetime.
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    Aug 22, 2012 11:13 PM GMT
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    Well it's none of her business if you don't wanna tell her, so it's not like you did anything wrong. So you don't need to feel embarrassed or anything. Were you wearing anything that may have been an indicator? Or do you think she was just expecting you to be more flirtatious, and because you weren't, she thought you might be? I've never had someone ask if I was gay, but if they did I would probably say no.
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    Aug 22, 2012 11:14 PM GMT
    ChangeofName saidIm pretty sure she already knew.. just being a cunt about it.

    Right there.
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    Aug 22, 2012 11:17 PM GMT
    i think i will say no if anyone ask me,take ur time,dun rush,life is all about learning and giving.
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:26 AM GMT
    I used to have people ask me that sometimes... I always said no but now not anymore, I'm like "Yeah bitch!! Whats up!?!?" and then I throw glitter in their face and jump on my big gay rainbow and ride it into the sunset... lol icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    Dennis1992 saidI used to have people ask me that sometimes... I always said no but now not anymore, I'm like "Yeah bitch!! Whats up!?!?" and then I throw glitter in their face and jump on my big gay rainbow and ride it into the sunset... lol icon_razz.gif


    LOL. Good answer.
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:32 AM GMT
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    Dennis1992 saidI used to have people ask me that sometimes... I always said no but now not anymore, I'm like "Yeah bitch!! Whats up!?!?" and then I throw glitter in their face and jump on my big gay rainbow and ride it into the sunset... lol icon_razz.gif


    LOL. Good answer.


    Why thank you good sir *Tops Hat* icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    If you had told her, you could be yourself around her from then on.

    Maybe the people are around are just getting impatient with you coming out.


    I got asked by a lady (we were in our 20's when this happened. So still young) and she asked me one day if I was gay. I say yes, then I asked her why she thought that. She said cause of the way I write my capital A. icon_eek.gif

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    Aug 23, 2012 1:40 AM GMT
    "Gurl, I'm not gay. I just look up gay porn on my roommate's phone."
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    MadExistence said"Gurl, I'm not gay. I just look up gay porn on my roommate's phone."


    LMAO icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    I've had that happen to me twice and I reacted the same way. Sucks being caught off guard like that but as you get more comfortable I think you're reaction will change...that is if you get that again lol
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    MadExistence said"Gurl, I'm not gay. I just look up gay porn on my roommate's phone."


    LAMO. Absolutely classic.
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    MadExistence said"Gurl, I'm not gay. I just look up gay porn on my roommate's phone."


    Fucking gold! Bahahahahaha!
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    Dennis1992 saidI used to have people ask me that sometimes... I always said no but now not anymore, I'm like "Yeah bitch!! Whats up!?!?" and then I throw glitter in their face and jump on my big gay rainbow and ride it into the sunset... lol icon_razz.gif


    Hahaha can totally see that happening!

    It's just about learning to be comfortable with yourself. I remember when that question caused me so much anxiety that I would either lie or somehow try to avoid it ever being brought up. Now I could care less. I mean, I don't shout it from the rooftops but I feel no need to lie to anyone about...unless we're talking about family icon_eek.gif Lol
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    MadExistence said"Gurl, I'm not gay. I just look up gay porn on my roommate's phone."


    ROFL
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:53 AM GMT
    she already knew the answer, she was just testing you to see if you were going to be a pussy and lie or not.
  • Smile0_0

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    Aug 23, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    That happened to me once. I said no
    " self-esteem + 70% gay + judgement "
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    Aug 23, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    LadyMars saidI'm sorry you had to go through that. It can be uncomfortable at first but if you're not ready to tell then you're not ready. I know some people just love to ask if someone is gay or not. A girlfriend of mine asks practically every guy that if he's straight or gay when she first met them.


    Well put!
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    Aug 23, 2012 2:15 AM GMT
    That has happened to me a few times, by girls and guys. I think ChangeOfName is right- Girls already know, they just want to be a bitch about it.

    A kid at work asked me, when he first started; I said no, only because he caught me off guard and I didn't know him well, aside from the fact that I thought it was rude.

    Don't worry about it so much. People will ask. Say whatever you want to say, depending on the situation, and don't feel bad about it. If a girl asks you again, ask her if she eats gash icon_lol.gif