nervous about college... help!

  • duhitisme

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    Aug 23, 2012 2:24 AM GMT
    so im just really nervous about going into college, like classes and what to expect. im not worried about dorming yet because im commuting for the first couple weeks but can i just get a perspective on what college is like with classes and living in a dorm. i'm legit freaking out because i hate not knowing whats going to happen. please help!
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    Aug 23, 2012 2:26 AM GMT
    It's like being in a place with a bunch of people who are [usually] smarter than the average person on the street.
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    Aug 23, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
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    Literally, your lectures will probably be awkwardly quiet the first few times, then people start to lighten up. all you do is sit there, listen and take notes. It really is no big deal for your classes.

    If you have labs to go along with your classes, you really get to know your lab partner. it is as if you were in high school, but more lenient and you actually have to learn.
  • Lanter

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    Aug 23, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
    I was in the same position in the fall of 2007. First of all, the orientation will basically be a several day long lecture about the consequences of underage drinking. In many ways, college for me was just an extension of high school. It will also fly by faster than it may seem right now. Make sure you show up for class and do your work and you should do fine. Also, go easy on the drinking. I saw a lot of boys go into college and come out looking and sounding like old men, and I can guarantee you its from the heavy partying. This was especially the case with the frat guys.
  • duhitisme

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    Aug 23, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    Farmjock saidLiterally, your lectures will probably be awkwardly quiet the first few times, then people start to lighten up. all you do is sit there, listen and take notes. It really is no big deal for your classes.

    If you have labs to go along with your classes, you really get to know your lab partner. it is as if you were in high school, but more lenient and you actually have to learn.


    yea, i don't have any labs this semester. the classes are really gonna be awk because im not really outgoing to be like, "hey whats up im (my name)". im the oldest in my family and the first to go to college and all i have heard is your freshman year is the worst so im just really nervous
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 23, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    Pay attention to the curriculum for the class and read ahead, otherwise you'll be lost half the time taking notes
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    Aug 23, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    duhitisme said
    Farmjock saidLiterally, your lectures will probably be awkwardly quiet the first few times, then people start to lighten up. all you do is sit there, listen and take notes. It really is no big deal for your classes.

    If you have labs to go along with your classes, you really get to know your lab partner. it is as if you were in high school, but more lenient and you actually have to learn.


    yea, i don't have any labs this semester. the classes are really gonna be awk because im not really outgoing to be like, "hey whats up im (my name)". im the oldest in my family and the first to go to college and all i have heard is your freshman year is the worst so im just really nervous


    It's no big deal. most people don't even talk to each other. My first professor told two people to leave when they talked anyway lol. But, I have had some cool professors since. It is no big deal, trust me. I pstched myself out until I actually got there and realized how cool it was.
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    Aug 23, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    Farmjock said
    duhitisme said
    Farmjock saidLiterally, your lectures will probably be awkwardly quiet the first few times, then people start to lighten up. all you do is sit there, listen and take notes. It really is no big deal for your classes.

    If you have labs to go along with your classes, you really get to know your lab partner. it is as if you were in high school, but more lenient and you actually have to learn.


    yea, i don't have any labs this semester. the classes are really gonna be awk because im not really outgoing to be like, "hey whats up im (my name)". im the oldest in my family and the first to go to college and all i have heard is your freshman year is the worst so im just really nervous


    It's no big deal. most people don't even talk to each other. My first professor told two people to leave when they talked anyway lol. But, I have had some cool professors since. It is no big deal, trust me. I pstched myself out until I actually got there and realized how cool it was.


    thanks i just needed some positive re-enforcement!
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    Aug 23, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
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    duhitisme said
    Farmjock saidLiterally, your lectures will probably be awkwardly quiet the first few times, then people start to lighten up. all you do is sit there, listen and take notes. It really is no big deal for your classes.

    If you have labs to go along with your classes, you really get to know your lab partner. it is as if you were in high school, but more lenient and you actually have to learn.


    yea, i don't have any labs this semester. the classes are really gonna be awk because im not really outgoing to be like, "hey whats up im (my name)". im the oldest in my family and the first to go to college and all i have heard is your freshman year is the worst so im just really nervous


    It's no big deal. most people don't even talk to each other. My first professor told two people to leave when they talked anyway lol. But, I have had some cool professors since. It is no big deal, trust me. I pstched myself out until I actually got there and realized how cool it was.
    Oddly enough, I was never nervous from the beginning. In fact, not one single person in my life (or work) even knew I'd signed up, except for the folks in HR at my company, because I had to go through them for tuition reimbursement. Even my mom didn't know, and I was living with her at the time. When I got home from class the first day with an arm full of books, she asked me what they were for. Then I told her. icon_lol.gif

    Then again, I didn't start college till age 31. By then I'd already had a good job and had been around the block once or twice, so it was just another step in pursuing my childhood dream...didn't even think about anything else.
  • duhitisme

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    Aug 23, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Farmjock said
    duhitisme said
    Farmjock saidLiterally, your lectures will probably be awkwardly quiet the first few times, then people start to lighten up. all you do is sit there, listen and take notes. It really is no big deal for your classes.

    If you have labs to go along with your classes, you really get to know your lab partner. it is as if you were in high school, but more lenient and you actually have to learn.


    yea, i don't have any labs this semester. the classes are really gonna be awk because im not really outgoing to be like, "hey whats up im (my name)". im the oldest in my family and the first to go to college and all i have heard is your freshman year is the worst so im just really nervous


    It's no big deal. most people don't even talk to each other. My first professor told two people to leave when they talked anyway lol. But, I have had some cool professors since. It is no big deal, trust me. I pstched myself out until I actually got there and realized how cool it was.
    Oddly enough, I was never nervous from the beginning. In fact, not one single person in my life (or work) even knew I'd signed up, except for the folks in HR at my company, because I had to go through them for tuition reimbursement. Even my mom didn't know, and I was living with her at the time. When I got home from class the first day with an arm full of books, she asked me what they were for. Then I told her. icon_lol.gif

    Then again, I didn't start college till age 31. By then I'd already had a good job and had been around the block once or twice, so it was just another step in pursuing my childhood dream...didn't even think about anything else.


    yea but its something completely different when your 18 and going away from home the first time and leaving the comfort of high school where you could just do 'okay' and not really have to work
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    Aug 23, 2012 2:55 AM GMT
    duhitisme saidyea but its something completely different when your 18 and going away from home the first time and leaving the comfort of high school where you could just do 'okay' and not really have to work
    It's no different than going into the military straight out of high school, which I did.

    And yeah, I was nervous; but I also lived in a really small town (less than 3000 ppl) and had nobody with prior experience to get support from. Instead, I just clinched my teeth and took whatever life threw at me...which is exactly what you should do. icon_wink.gif
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Aug 23, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    *slaps you across the face*
    GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF!

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    Just kidding, dude. Lighten up. You're making WAY too big a deal about this. Yeah, it's new. Yeah, it's exciting. Yeah, it's pretty much the first time in your life that you'll actually be responsible for your own actions. Nevertheless, you'll be surprised how quickly you'll fall into a routine. You need to develop some stress management skills or you're going to make yourself miserable. Try yoga, meditation, or just good ol' fashioned deep breathing and counting down from twenty. Other than that, here's everything you need to know to get started:

    1) Don't be a dick. Be friendly to everyone, even if you don't really like them. You can sort out your favorites later, but right now you're just trying to establish a social base, so don't go around making adversaries.

    2) RELAX. Don't dominate the conversation Don't talk too fast. Ask other people about themselves, and actually listen to them. Remember names. People who remember you as a good listener almost always have a positive impression of you.

    3) Just go for it. Initiate conversations with strangers. Take a minute to think of something simple to talk about ("Isn't this class boring?", "What's your major?", "My dorm is so crazy!"), and run with it.

    You're not going to know what's going to happen. Get over it! That's what makes it so exciting!
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    1) Don't be a dick. Be friendly to everyone, even if you don't really like them. You can sort out your favorites later, but right now you're just trying to establish a social base, so don't go around making adversaries.


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  • Suetonius

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    Aug 23, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    What your experience will be like depends on the kind of place you are going - a good-sized university or a small college.
    Where are you going to be attending?
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    Aug 23, 2012 5:36 AM GMT
    Suetonius saidWhat your experience will be like depends on the kind of place you are going - a good-sized university or a small college.
    Where are you going to be attending?
    Bad advice. It doesn't matter the type of place he's going.

    I went to a very unknown college, dropped out early, and make more than most people who graduated from Embry Riddle (highly esteemed aeronautical university).

    Personality and intelligence mean way more than how you handle college or which college you attend. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 23, 2012 5:56 AM GMT
    WestCoastGuy saidhonestly it's a big version of high school except people live there and its expensive as fuck
    No, it's not. Not if you waited a few years after high school to enroll (BTW, I never encourage college immediately after high school).

    By the time I enrolled in college, I was already making more than most of the professors, and used that against them every time they tried to treat me like a high school kid.

    If you have the balls to stand up to the professors (professionally and diplomatically), they'll think more highly of you and make your college experience much more enjoyable.

    It's not high school. That's why it's so expensive. It's an environment of intelligent people with higher goals in life than the average Joe. If you think it's an advanced and expensive form of high school, then you'll be the next statistic flipping burgers after you "graduate" with a 2.01 GPA.
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    Aug 23, 2012 7:02 AM GMT
    I understand how you feel, and the vast majority of freshmen have the same feelings.

    The easiest way to ensure that you do well in school is to go to classes. For many of them attendance is not mandatory, and this is where people tend to go wrong. Going to class is the easiest way to assure yourself a decent GPA.

    If you are living in a dorm, the easiest way to mee people is to keep your door propped open while you are in the room. Most other freshmen living in your dorm will be in the same boat, and are trying to meet people. It is relatively easy to strike up a conversation with someone when he walks by your door.

    As far as drinking goes, don't be that guy that refuses to have a drink just because you are underage. You'll come off as a Puritan and people won't ask you to hang out with them. Also, don't be that guy that drinks a lot during the week just for the hell of it- they are called alcoholics. The reason you are in college is because you are there to learn in order to advance yourself financially and to develop yourself intellectually. Feel free to party on the weekends, but don't let it become your focus.
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    Aug 23, 2012 7:02 AM GMT
    Duhitisme...You know what i like about your opening post..you are really taking this seriously!...
    ..Now if you are loosing sleep over this.....Not very good!!..
    Read all the posts above and below ..look at all the good things you are about to experience...
    ..You should be excited!..
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  • cromi

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    Aug 23, 2012 10:35 AM GMT
    pffft. you need to witness more murders in your neighborhood.
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    Aug 23, 2012 10:41 AM GMT
    duhitisme saidso im just really nervous about going into college, like classes and what to expect. im not worried about dorming yet because im commuting for the first couple weeks but can i just get a perspective on what college is like with classes and living in a dorm. i'm legit freaking out because i hate not knowing whats going to happen. please help!


    College is a lot of fun. Honestly, the hardest parts are not skipping the occasional class because you can and not overeating. As long as you keep studying and make some friends along the way, you'll be fine.
  • rafiki87

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    Aug 23, 2012 12:53 PM GMT
    If you're nervous, then there should be other people too that are just as or even more nervous. Question is, are you big enough of a person to make the other people less nervous around you.

    Here's how I see meeting people... If you don't try to at least meet one person, then you're in the same position that you started in. Nothing changes.

    If you try and they're nice enough to go carry on with whatever you're talking about, then you have one person in class that you know.

    If they say no, then you're back to where you started. Nothing wrong with rejection, it is part of being human and having volition.

    Do find something interesting to talk about, say events happening around campus. Ask if they've heard about the event and what they think. Another one is opinion questions, ask them their opinion on something, whatever it is.

    Example (using an event).

    You: hey, so there's this underwater basket weaving class in the pool on Thursday. Not sure what it's like. Have you heard of it? Like would they give you air tanks down there?

    Them: OMG, yeah! Its the most awesomest thing ever!!! Though they don't give you air tanks. You practice holding your breath for so long. You should go check it out.

    You: Why's that?

    Them: I know the person leading the class. He's really good at making underwater basket weaving really fun, literally, he makes it quite breath taking! At first I thought it'd be boring, trying to half drown myself while making a wicker basket that's trying to float back up to the surface, but it's really interesting how relaxing and zen-like it is. Luckily, after a few bouts of near asphyxiation, I was hooked.

    You: I'm Tony, by the way. And you are?

    Them: I'm Maria.

    You: Nice to meet you Maria, who enjoys being half dead under water.

    Laughter ensues.

    You: Sorry, it's just my way of remembering people. Maria - likes being half dead under water...

    You: I think I might check it out. Can I have your number, so I don't go on my own? Would be nice to have a familiar face.

    Maria: No problem it's 555-555-5555.

    You: OMG that's hilarious! Is that really your phone number? I thought you only see that in cartoons.

    Maria: hey, don't laugh, I've had that number since grade 6 and people used to tease me for it. I thought it was funny too though, that's why I kept it.

    Maria starts laughing again.

    You: Why're you laughing?

    Maria: Just realized it, you're Tony and I'm Maria. Gawd, West Side Story!

    You: Oh (not quite getting the reference)

    Convo continues, this time Maria carries it...


    Example (using an opinion):

    You: Is it just me or this prof has a ridiculously thick Russian accent? It kinda reminds me of those 60s spy movies, the ones where the antagonists are members of the KGB.

    Them: Yeah, it's pretty thick. I can't quite get it either.

    You: Me too, it makes it so much harder to follow. Thank god he writes out everything he says word for word.

    Them: Yeah, every gory detail of Czar history.

    You: I'm Steve, by the way.

    Them: Tony.

    You: So why are you taking this class? (Notice how I asked for why and not what for... if I said what for then they'd say "oh, it's an elective" and that kills the convo).

    Tony: Oh, I'm part of a Ukrainian dance group and I'd like to learn more about my heritage.

    You: That's so cool!


    So yeah, just go and have fun with it! Ask people their opinion and lots of why questions. Stay away from what, how, where and when questions because they can be easily answered with one word answers and that'll kill your convo faster than anything. This rule does not hold water though on Grindr, dunno why guys can't give an opinion yet are more than willing to give more than one pick of their barn yard animal - be it horses or roosters.
  • ohioguy12

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    Aug 23, 2012 1:01 PM GMT
    Watch out for freshman hunts.

    It's not OK to be a freshman
  • duhitisme

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    Aug 23, 2012 2:35 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 saidWatch out for freshman hunts.

    It's not OK to be a freshman


    okay this is what im afraid about the most. does it actually happen? cuz my school has one of the best security systems in the US and cops patrol during the night so its not like shit like this could actually happen right?
  • duhitisme

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    Aug 23, 2012 2:36 PM GMT
    volsfan315 saidI understand how you feel, and the vast majority of freshmen have the same feelings.

    The easiest way to ensure that you do well in school is to go to classes. For many of them attendance is not mandatory, and this is where people tend to go wrong. Going to class is the easiest way to assure yourself a decent GPA.

    If you are living in a dorm, the easiest way to mee people is to keep your door propped open while you are in the room. Most other freshmen living in your dorm will be in the same boat, and are trying to meet people. It is relatively easy to strike up a conversation with someone when he walks by your door.

    As far as drinking goes, don't be that guy that refuses to have a drink just because you are underage. You'll come off as a Puritan and people won't ask you to hang out with them. Also, don't be that guy that drinks a lot during the week just for the hell of it- they are called alcoholics. The reason you are in college is because you are there to learn in order to advance yourself financially and to develop yourself intellectually. Feel free to party on the weekends, but don't let it become your focus.


    thanks but im commuting for a few weeks and then living there so idk how i would able to make friends quickly since i don't have a dorm at first