Guy at work

  • Joeyphx444

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    Aug 24, 2012 2:45 AM GMT
    OK so I need some guidance or tips lol

    There is a new guy at work and he sits in an area in which I pass by everyday. Every time I saw him, he would acknowledge me or say hi even, There is a little break room across from where he sits and I go there on my first break everyday around noon. He has walked in I think 2 or 3 this week. He gets there shortly after I do and all he does is check his phone. He is not on break and not even making any calls. So the last time it happened (Wednesday) I said something to him and we talked about his job and he introduced himself and shook my hand.

    We have an instant messaging system at work and I IMed him today. He didn't know who I was at first but he did after I explained and we talked about how he is doing in training. I ended the conversation cuz he was busy and I was too. I said "I was just checking in, you are busy so we'll talk later." He responded with a "yeah, I'll be here late again tonight, good talking with you. Have a good day!"

    I did IM toward the end of the day and he said his day had been busy then there were IT issues and that's all that was said then.

    My plan now is to pretty much do nothing unless he initiates conversation or says hi to me in passing. Have I given him clues that I am interested or is he just simply friendly and just talking friendly without thinking anything else? OR he may be like me and trying to figure out my intention and what I am lol

    I just thought and a few other people I told thought it was suspicious that he would go in that break room shortly after me and he wasn't even on break. Also, I really don't know how he interacts with other people so maybe he smiles/says hi or nods to everyone in passing that happens to look at him first. I know I don't make any gestures while passing someone I don't know unless they do it first.

  • IAmTheOneWhoK...

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    Aug 24, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    Business and pleasure.
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    Aug 24, 2012 3:04 AM GMT
    Office romance = bad idea

    Flirting on office network/IM = worse idea
  • cromi

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    Aug 24, 2012 3:33 AM GMT
    you said
    "Also, I really
    don't know how he interacts with
    other people so maybe he smiles/
    says hi or nods to everyone in
    passing that happens to look at him
    first. I know I don't make any
    gestures while passing someone I
    don't know unless they do it first."

    i say, investigate. maybe he is just like that(well its game over, it would be a waste of time to push through) or if he's giving you special treatment then i say go for it(well it depends in ur personality, are you straight-forward? or do you play games on who should initiate this and that). imho, office romance is cool, especially if youre all stressed out, its nice to have someone out of reach to lighten the mood icon_smile.gif
    btw, those break room incidents gives you about 70% chance that he is into you. i bet he doesnt even have someone over the phone and just checking u out lol.
    good luck. hope it works out. Dont forget to update us haha
  • Suetonius

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    Aug 24, 2012 6:27 AM GMT
    xrichx saidOffice romance = bad idea

    Rule worth remembering - don't fuck where you eat.

    But if you must, has it occurred to you that most people meet in an office situation by actually talking to the other person - not by sending them emails from a stranger like you're in a spy novel.
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    Aug 24, 2012 6:31 AM GMT
    Agreed with another post... don't mix work with pleasure. If he starts talking to you, then by all means talk to him. Otherwise, just keep it at your friendly occasional hey. You don't want to seem like a stalker icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 24, 2012 6:43 AM GMT
    certainly people do meet up at work but this is the exception rather than the rule, I dont know how many times I've had to let someone go when it gets ugly, and it will.
    Dont do office romances just dont
  • Joeyphx444

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    Aug 24, 2012 8:21 AM GMT
    alex1990 saidAgreed with another post... don't mix work with pleasure. If he starts talking to you, then by all means talk to him. Otherwise, just keep it at your friendly occasional hey. You don't want to seem like a stalker icon_razz.gif


    Yah I am gonna do nothing now and just let things happen if they are meant to be

    And guys who said anything about office romance? At least we can be friends, I am cool with that. I don't even know if he is gay LOL

    And cromi, yah I doubt he was actually doing anything legitimate on his phone. But why didn't he initiate convo with me first? Maybe he chickened out or WAS purely just checking me out.

    Well, I am gonna stick to my routine, cuz I go to that break room all the time, before he even started so icon_razz.gif