Military/ex mil people: what do you use?

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    Aug 25, 2012 7:26 AM GMT
    Hello

    Firsty a shout out to any military or ex military guys on RJ!

    Secondly: guys what sites (if any) do you use to meet other gay military men?

    I'm asking incase some of you feel it's common place that civilians don't like, understand or are interested in military guys, so I feel it is great to make friends with other military guys around the world ?

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    Aug 25, 2012 7:29 AM GMT
    I've never used a site to meet ex military men.

    I met TropicalMark (retired Marine) in a bar in St Petersburg, Florida; then found him again here on RJ a few years after I moved.

    I'm also acquainted (in real life) with Art_Deco, another retired service member and RJ'er.

    But joining RJ was not an attempt to meet ex military guys. They're just everywhere, no matter which site you're on.

    BTW, I'm ex Navy. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 25, 2012 7:40 AM GMT
    Thanks for the response Paulflexes

    I was just curious if people used specific sites or just random

    I can't say it's that easy to make mil/ex mil friends and civilians don't seem that understanding of military guys
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    Aug 25, 2012 7:43 AM GMT
    FTTL11 saidThanks for the response Paulflexes

    I was just curious if people used specific sites or just random

    I can't say it's that easy to make mil/ex mil friends and civilians don't seem that understanding of military guys
    Civilians are weird. They think we're all individuals (individualistic society).

    Those who've been in the military know what it means to be "batting for the same team." icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 25, 2012 7:48 AM GMT
    Well I certainly think it healthy for mil guys to network together
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    Aug 25, 2012 7:49 AM GMT
    Me too, especially when they're plotting to take over the whole world. icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 25, 2012 7:55 AM GMT
    I would be controversial and say most gay men don't give a damn about military guys but that might r case/nation specific
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    Aug 25, 2012 7:57 AM GMT
    Most gay men I've known were military.

    Hell I even hooked up with my dentist in the Navy a few times...till I had a dental appointment and saw who it was I'd been hooking up with at Denny's. That was an awkward moment. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 25, 2012 8:01 AM GMT
    Sounds very country specific

    Will see what other people do or sites they use etc
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    Aug 25, 2012 12:06 PM GMT
    FTTL11 saidWell I certainly think it healthy for mil guys to network together

    Well I think it can be another bond between gay men, or any men, though that varies by the individuals. For some, military service is significant, while others don't bring it into their personal lives, or into their relationships. And there are always practical advantages to networking, whatever the shared link.

    My 25 years continues to have a great impact on my own life, but not to the extent that I make military service a social factor. I tried a few military chat rooms in my AOL days (if any were also gay I didn't find them), but didn't like the topics & chat, and felt an outsider since I was already retired, many of the roomies still on active duty.

    My partner served a few years in uniform, but not how I met him nor why we're together, at least not consciously. At most the military may have shaped our thinking & attitudes, making us more compatible.

    For instance, we're both very diligent, reliable, trustworthy, hard working, never shirk a job, absolutely detest being late for anything, and detest those others who are. All traits you need in the Army that you may not acquire in civilian life, even in something like the Boy Scouts which is not a 24/7 proposition, nor presents you with life-or-death reasons for self-discipline.

    I can also confirm paulflexes' words, since I didn't meet him because he's ex-military, either. I merely met him online here by chance, later in person, and only then found out his background. And we really don't talk that much together about our former experiences.

    But again, the fact we get along together may partly be the result of our common military experience shaping our personalities (even if he was in the soggy Navy, while I had my more reasonable feet on terra firma icon_wink.gif ). Or it could just be because he's an easy guy to befriend and whose company is a pleasure, whether you yourself were/are military or not.
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    Aug 25, 2012 12:09 PM GMT
    My parents were both in the Navy for a combined total of 39 years icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 26, 2012 9:58 AM GMT
    I just googled gay miltiary dating sites! shocking!
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    Aug 26, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    I I never used a military dating site. The few that are around only attract a few select servicemembers plus a bunch of weirdos. Your best bet would be the traditional gay sites everyone else is using....
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    Aug 26, 2012 8:18 PM GMT
    When it comes to meeting gay servicemen in the UK, the demographics are not really on our side. The total number of UK regular armed forces personnel stands at about 177,000. Given that about 9% of those are women, that leaves you with about 160,000 servicemen. Government statistics estimate the gay population of the UK at about 6%, which would suggest that about 9,600 male regular armed forces personnel are gay. Of course, ex-service personnel and reservists would increase that figure, but it is still a relatively small number of people, who are spread across the entire country (and the world).

    The US is a different kettle of fish, given they have around 1.5 million active duty personnel and about the same number of active reserves, plus a shed load of veterans.
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    Aug 26, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    I have never really hear of any good ones. I think it would be difficult to have a relationship with someone who is also serving.
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    Aug 26, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    FTTL11 saidI just googled gay miltiary dating sites! shocking!
    I bet 99% of them were gay fetish sites. And 1% of them were sites for military wives looking for hookups while their husbands were on deployment. icon_lol.gif
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    May 10, 2013 2:19 PM GMT
    yeah its not easy to find other military guys
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    May 10, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
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    May 10, 2013 3:01 PM GMT
    well in my town there is nothing but military guys so its very easy to find a gay one
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    May 10, 2013 4:26 PM GMT
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    I'm asking incase some of you feel it's common place that civilians don't like, understand or are interested in military guys, so I feel it is great to make friends with other military guys around the world ?


    With those looks, I strongly doubt have any difficulty catching men. Unless you maybe have politics that people find repulsive, I don't see why you should be having a problem. Most gay men dream about military guys. So I suspect you are the one making a problem out of the military thing, not them. Indeed, what makes it important for you to find other military guys? It is a little weird - just as weird as a teacher, say, looking to date only other teachers.

    If you think being military makes you special, then I can see how people could find it hard to be with you, just like it would be hard to date an investment banker with a chip on his shoulder.
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    May 10, 2013 7:08 PM GMT
    If you're talking hookups, there are secret facebook groups that have members from all over the globe. One group I was in was called Military Fuck Club. Not sure if it's still around but you could have a hookup arranged in Afgan if you wanted to. Just ask your gay military friends.

    If you're talking relationship or just networking, there's outserve.com. I never really used it.

    The best way to meet gay military is in real life, in gay bars/clubs near bases.
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    May 10, 2013 7:34 PM GMT
    cutedeadguys.com?
  • hanzo83

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    May 10, 2013 10:54 PM GMT
    I'm in the military part time and I haven't hooked up with many guys period so I never did with another military guy. There were a few I wanted to hook up with in my unit but I lived far away from them and it never had a chance to happen. I did join the outmilitary.com website and there were a few thousand members there from around the world. They closed it and are on facebook now though.

    A military man is not ideal for me because some of them have a fucked up "sheep" mentality and some have to move around too much. I'm ready to get out of the military myself and as soon as I make a few million I'm out lol.
  • SinfulWays

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    May 10, 2013 10:58 PM GMT
    I use a lot of them. Last time i counted, it is about 13 different ones.
  • omgazn

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    May 11, 2013 4:19 AM GMT
    I'm ex- navy but I'm going to reenlist again. I use to meet alot of gay military in the local gay bars. But my main way of meeting other gay guys are all through networking from one guy. We use to workout with the EOD/ND) to prepare ourselves for SAR (search and rescue). And one of the guy I workout with happen to be Queen bee and I just met countless of gays in the military from there.