Father mean to his son

  • Musicman91

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    Aug 25, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    At work near the registers we have this display of balloons we have Spongebob and Snow White like this:

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    Yesterday a dad was checking out with his son who was 3 or 4 years old. While in line the kid saw the balloons and said he wanted one. The dad said sure and went to get him a Spongebob one but the kid said he wanted Snow White. The dad started to freak out and said he can only get Spongebob or he isn't getting one. The kid didn't freak out or start to cry he just looked sad and said he wanted Snow White he took one and was holding it close to him it was really cute. The dad said no and then said "I'm not raising a fag princess lover." I was shocked this man would say that to his four year old.

    I was having a bit of a bad week so this just annoyed me and I said "Why would you say that to your son?" The guy looked shocked that I said something. He said "Mind your own business." I just said "Pretty hard to do that when you're making a scene over a balloon." The dad started to freak out saying he was never coming to the store again and all that jazz and said he wanted to see a manager. They came over and a few cutsomers who were there said he was making a big deal about the balloon and just being an ass. My manager calmed him down and the guy bought his stuff and left. I let he kid take the balloon because the dad still wouldn't buy it and they're only 89 cents.

    I found the balloon in the garbage later. Like seriously why do people make such a big deal about stuff like this? Maybe the kid has a crush on Snow White? Maybe he likes her dress? Who cares he's 4 and doesn't understand the whole "liking princesses is for sissies" crap. Why crush his spirit? I know plenty of guys who liked "girl" toys and stuff when we were younger and they're pretty tough guys. My one cousin was obsessed with Ariel when we were kids and he is now in the Navy. I don't know just annoyed me and I felt I should share. Anyone ever experience something like this whether seeing it or having it happen to you?

    I know for a fact if I was a kid I would have wanted the Snow White balloon :3
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    Aww dude, this story breaks my heart. So glad you said something. I hope you universe returns that kindness to you in spades. Much love.
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    Sad story. I'm sorry man icon_sad.gif
  • onefortified

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    Aug 25, 2012 3:17 PM GMT
    Sad to hear, but this is the kind of world we live in. It was great of you to speak up. Most people avoid the situation and make excuses for doing so. Igorance is bliss.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 25, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    Well awesome you spoke up.. you could have lost your job if your manager was a jerk and I would have done the same as you did (and you didn't say anything out of hand.. very reasonable).

    Very sad, the little kid probably just liked the look of the balloon or had seen something about Snow White. What an ignorant adult!
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    what really annoys me is that a little kid playing with a snow white balloon, or even playing with actual dolls isn't actually inherently 'effeminate', it's just societies label on making it effeminate.

    if you think about it, the child wasn't wanting because he associated it with a particular female notion, it was merely because he wanted a balloon and thought the snow white looked better. It was the dad who made it seem "gay" which makes him a douche bag loser and I hope that child doesn't turn into a homophobe or a gay man with a hateful father.
  • vintovka

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    Aug 25, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    That's a sad story man, but not surprising. Our society is still really fucked up over all this stuff and as others have pointed out, the fact that the kid wanted the Snow White balloon doesn't mean anything.
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:27 PM GMT

    lol, what a dumb Dad. If you take a toy from a child like that you may very well make said toy all the more desirable.

    Well done, Musicman91. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    Musicman91 saidAt work near the registers we have this display of balloons we have Spongebob and Snow White like this:

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    Yesterday a dad was checking out with his son who was 3 or 4 years old. While in line the kid saw the balloons and said he wanted one. The dad said sure and went to get him a Spongebob one but the kid said he wanted Snow White. The dad started to freak out and said he can only get Spongebob or he isn't getting one. The kid didn't freak out or start to cry he just looked sad and said he wanted Snow White he took one and was holding it close to him it was really cute. The dad said no and then said "I'm not raising a fag princess lover." I was shocked this man would say that to his four year old.

    I was having a bit of a bad week so this just annoyed me and I said "Why would you say that to your son?" The guy looked shocked that I said something. He said "Mind your own business." I just said "Pretty hard to do that when you're making a scene over a balloon." The dad started to freak out saying he was never coming to the store again and all that jazz and said he wanted to see a manager. They came over and a few cutsomers who were there said he was making a big deal about the balloon and just being an ass. My manager calmed him down and the guy bought his stuff and left. I let he kid take the balloon because the dad still wouldn't buy it and they're only 89 cents.

    I found the balloon in the garbage later. Like seriously why do people make such a big deal about stuff like this? Maybe the kid has a crush on Snow White? Maybe he likes her dress? Who cares he's 4 and doesn't understand the whole "liking princesses is for sissies" crap. Why crush his spirit? I know plenty of guys who liked "girl" toys and stuff when we were younger and they're pretty tough guys. My one cousin was obsessed with Ariel when we were kids and he is now in the Navy. I don't know just annoyed me and I felt I should share. Anyone ever experience something like this whether seeing it or having it happen to you?

    I know for a fact if I was a kid I would have wanted the Snow White balloon :3


    First off, major kudos to you for being sympathetic to a four year old and brave enough to stand up to his pig of a father!

    That said, couple of points. While the kid might be pre-gay everyone with a TV by now knows you're not going to change him. You'll either have a conflicted and unhappy gay son, a suicide, or you'll learn to live with it.

    Second, Snow might have reminded him of his mother or the Virgin Mary! Many depictions of Mary look like that and the mother might too. Besides Snow is LESS gay than Spongebob.

    Third, while I agree with you that many boys who play with dolls end up hetero, couldn't you have exaggerated and said the marines? Now, tracing this kids life from Snow to the Navy, I have the damn Village People in my head singing a medley of In The Navy and YMCA.

    Fourth, he might think he's playing the prince who rescues her. Now, to get some love from a man this might turn him into a queen.
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:31 PM GMT
    It's caused by low intelligence.
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    The father's own insecurities maybe.
    Either way, it is horrible what he did to his little boy and probably has done many a time before and will do again in the future.
    Your bringing this to his attention may make him realize that he is the one with the problem, not his son. But then again, it might not. icon_sad.gif

    Thank you for standing up for the little guy.
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    It's hard to tell what's going on in the mind of a 4 y/o...
    If this father was smart .. he would let his son be..
    Good work musicman..icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    The father is in the closet...typical behavior.
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidThe father is in the closet...typical behavior.


    I always have fantasies about raping a homophobe. But I'm a bottom so I would have to tie him up and then stick his dick in my pussy.
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
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    paulflexes saidThe father is in the closet...typical behavior.


    I always have fantasies about raping a homophobe. But I'm a bottom so I would have to tie him up and then stick his dick in my pussy.

    I've had the same fantasy Only I'm a top. icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 25, 2012 3:58 PM GMT
    Kudos for saying something to the sperm donor.

    For comments like that, he does not deserve to be called dad.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 25, 2012 4:02 PM GMT
    The irony is that Spongebob is his creator are GAY!!!!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 25, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    Serious kudos for speaking up. Wow, what an asshole that father! icon_mad.gif
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    Aug 25, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    You deserve to be Man of the Day.

    You're my Man of the Day today!

    That was a great thing to do. You have no idea how your words may affect the father. They may just penetrate sometime later. You never know.

    This dad at least realized that he screwed up...it's kinda cute....poor little guy


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    Aug 25, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    Sounds like the kid acted more like an adult than the dad. Thanks for setting a good example. Hopefully both the kid and dad learn from it.
  • d_1M

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    Aug 25, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    Good for you for saying something
    and not thinking that the kid was really a fag JUST because he wanted a princess ballon.
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    Aug 25, 2012 4:12 PM GMT
    Thanks for standing up and saying something...that took guts!
  • dtx1

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    Aug 25, 2012 4:18 PM GMT
    Thanks for sharing this. The situation reminds me of a segment from ABC's 'What Would You Do?' program about a boy who wanted his dad to buy him a doll.

    http://abcnews.go.com/WhatWouldYouDo/video/doll-boy-12735299








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    Aug 25, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
    but was the dad at least hot?
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    Aug 25, 2012 4:33 PM GMT
    Good that you spoke up. Maybe (just maybe) you'll cause this 'father' to wise up. You have my MOTD vote.

    Too bad you have to have a license to fish, but no license at all to have a child.