Do you get attention when going out?

  • Nayro

    Posts: 1825

    Aug 25, 2012 11:38 PM GMT
    Do you get attention from guys/girls when you go out? Either in straight clubs or gay clubs? I was just wondering what the normal amount of attention is that a gay guy should get when going out icon_razz.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 25, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    If I'm wearing a muscle shirt so my arms show, yes. Otherwise, I might as well be a potted plant. And if I divulge my age, forget it. Instant invisibility. But I should talk, if you're under 50, you have to talk fast on why I should waste a precious time/date on you.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 25, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    Depends on how I dress. Fitted showy clothes, then yes. Else no.
  • Nayro

    Posts: 1825

    Aug 26, 2012 12:05 AM GMT
    So basically when I want attention I should work out more and wear tight clothes? icon_razz.gif
  • starboard5

    Posts: 969

    Aug 26, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    Either way, straight club or gay, you have to remember that it's not reality. Straight guys are going to look at you as competition, if they look at all. In a gay club, attention just means that you are a suitable screen onto which some guy can project his fantasy. Attention is fun and gratifying as long as you know it for what it is and don't take it too seriously. Sometimes it can be a doorway into a friendship.
  • jock8873

    Posts: 120

    Aug 26, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    true, but what do you do when the straight guy (not the chick he's with) is checkin you out with his roving glittery eyes....
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    I don't think attention is always equivalent to how worked out or sexy you are. Personality goes a long way, as does dance ability and fun factor. No matter your age or appearance, people will get drawn to you if you shine.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 12:55 AM GMT
    Yup.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 12:58 AM GMT
    Depends how you define "attention."
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 12:59 AM GMT
    Old women hit on me frequently. It's both disgusting and disturbing.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    ConfederateGhost saidOld women hit on me frequently. It's both disgusting and disturbing.


    I get cruised by a 60 yr old asian woman at my gym whenever we happen to both be there. totally not kidding. it's the most bizarre experience
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    When I wear tube tops because I've got ample goodies up top.
  • studflyboy87

    Posts: 194

    Aug 26, 2012 1:05 AM GMT
    Yes I do get a decent amount of attention when going out. I do agree that a worked out body and more fitted clothes helps a lot.

    But that is not the only answer. When I first started going out, I didn't get as much attention. I got a lot of feedback that I had this tough guy, intimidating, hard to approach guy look on me who never was smiling. So I figured I would try something new. When someone makes eye contact with me, I would SMILE icon_biggrin.gif. That made all the difference in the world.

    Now a days, I sometimes go to a bar or club by myself. I grab a drink, stand out in the open by myself, get checked out by a few guys, and when someone I want to talk with makes eye contact, I smile back. Of all the times since I have gone to a large bar/club/pool party by myself, I have always managed to meet good people to hangout with.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 1:06 AM GMT
    LOL. The jokes I could make right now.


    homastj said
    ConfederateGhost saidOld women hit on me frequently. It's both disgusting and disturbing.


    I get cruised by a 60 yr old asian woman at my gym whenever we happen to both be there. totally not kidding. it's the most bizarre experience
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 1:07 AM GMT
    I'm not allowed out. icon_neutral.gif
  • PBLH

    Posts: 196

    Aug 26, 2012 1:08 AM GMT
    I usually don't get a lot of attention when I go out... Not sure why but that's just what it turns out to be.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 1:08 AM GMT
    ConfederateGhost saidOld women hit on me frequently. It's both disgusting and disturbing.


    Same but I don't think it's that disturbing...probably bc they are just around 40ish and not that bad looking?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    I have had a few people turn their heads, when I'm dressed well. Otherwise... not to often.

    On the other hand, I'm not looking around to see if I'm being noticed.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 1:11 AM GMT
    active_athlete said
    ConfederateGhost saidOld women hit on me frequently. It's both disgusting and disturbing.


    Same but I don't think it's that disturbing...probably bc they are just around 40ish and not that bad looking?


    1) They probably aren't hitting on you
    2) If they are, be a gentleman and show them a good time. I love making cougars smile icon_smile.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    Making comments like "I haven't had a good hotel room-romp since the late 80s" is disturbing. Like ew, you're old enough to be my mother...

    One of my most favorites was this lady who had a flat. I changed out the flat for her and as she was thanking me and I was getting my stuff together to leave, she said something along the lines of "I can help fix your flat ;)"

    I pretended I didn't hear it and just left.


    active_athlete said
    ConfederateGhost saidOld women hit on me frequently. It's both disgusting and disturbing.


    Same but I don't think it's that disturbing...probably bc they are just around 40ish and not that bad looking?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    huhwhat said
    active_athlete said
    ConfederateGhost saidOld women hit on me frequently. It's both disgusting and disturbing.


    Same but I don't think it's that disturbing...probably bc they are just around 40ish and not that bad looking?


    1) They probably aren't hitting on you
    2) If they are, be a gentleman and show them a good time. I love making cougars smile icon_smile.gif


    Well, when I was a lifeguard moms would come up to my stand and tell me that I'm "hot." When I did CrossFit, this mom came up to me and told me I should "never be allowed to wear a shirt." So I thought that qualified as hitting on me. And I try and show them a good time but they are married w/ kids, so I don't want to be a homewrecker. icon_wink.gif
  • Spiritreaver

    Posts: 2086

    Aug 26, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
    Yeah, I do. Moreso when I'm away from OKC. I think I never look happy when I'm out here. I dislike being at the bars here in town, and I think people pick up on that pretty quick. I get looks, but no one ever really approaches unless they're smashed or know me already.

    When I'm out visiting other places it's a whole different story. I feel a lot more comfortable (mostly because I don't know anyone!) and I just let loose.
  • O5vx

    Posts: 3154

    Aug 26, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    jock8873 saidtrue, but what do you do when the straight guy (not the chick he's with) is checkin you out with his roving glittery eyes....


    Then he isn't so straight afterall, is he now, lol.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 1:17 AM GMT
    Spiritreaver saidYeah, I do. Moreso when I'm away from OKC. I think I never look happy when I'm out here. I dislike being at the bars here in town, and I think people pick up on that pretty quick. I get looks, but no one ever really approaches unless they're smashed or know me already.

    When I'm out visiting other places it's a whole different story. I feel a lot more comfortable (mostly because I don't know anyone!) and I just let loose.


    So... uh... when are you visiting SF?

    * flutters eyelashes *
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 26, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    Heads used to turn almost all the time and I was never egotistical. Now they mostly turn away and suddenly I'm vain. Aging gay is almost as much fun as arthritis.