Now that you are hot...

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    Aug 17, 2008 6:46 PM GMT
    So I was in the midst of recovering from some injuries that had me about 30 lbs lighter and looking like a hospital patient as I was at the time at the VA in San Diego.

    It was the first time I had gone out in a while and got up the nerve to ask a guy on a date and he turned me down flat as he said he doesn't date "guys who don't work out."

    So that was a year ago, I have gained back most of my muscle weight and went to San Diego this weekend for some surfing and family visiting.

    I went out.

    Saw the same guy.

    He came up, said hi and bought me a drink - obviously not remembering me.

    Said he likes Marines and thanked me for my service and whatsuch.

    He then asked me to "hang out" sometime.

    I was SOOO tempted to say something like "I was the skinny Marine you told off a year ago," but I did not, and i told him that I live in Denver, hoping that would terminate the line of conversation.

    He said that he comes to Denver "all the time because his sister lives there."

    I am not going to even go out with this guy as he is an asshole.

    Wanted to know if anyone has ever had a similar "now that you are hot I will give you the time of day" experience.

    Thanks
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    Aug 17, 2008 7:04 PM GMT


    Yes, both of us have had that. It's a time when you grit your teeth and carefully put down your drink so it won't be used for anything other than its intended purpose.icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 17, 2008 7:13 PM GMT
    Not to be a dick, but coming from a guy who has No pecs = no sex. in his profile, it's all very ironic.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Aug 17, 2008 7:25 PM GMT
    Devildoginco, reading through I was saying to myself "Oh no he didn't" but you just added "I am not going to even go out with this guy as he is an asshole" just in time icon_smile.gif

    Good for you.

    To answer your question, I'm not hot and never was hot and don't think I ever will be hot. I don't get hit on. Oh well, I guess I can't answer your question after all icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 17, 2008 7:30 PM GMT
    I have put on quit a bit muscle since high school. I wasnt too pleasant to look at. So I like hearing people say that I look good now. Girls flirting with me nowing damn well they didnt look twice my way before. I wouldnt want them anyway, but its a good feeling now that the tables have turned.


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    Aug 17, 2008 7:38 PM GMT
    Congratulations on your improvements. This guy you refer to sounds boring. Forget him...go for someone who can laugh and have fun with you because of your personality......it will compliment your new sexy body very well.

    As someone we probably all know sang:

    "Don't go for second best baby put your love to the test".
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    Aug 17, 2008 8:02 PM GMT
    Greg0201 saidNot to be a dick, but coming from a guy who has No pecs = no sex. in his profile, it's all very ironic.


    Oh, I hadn't checked his profile.

    Maybe they should date after all icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 17, 2008 8:30 PM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle said
    Greg0201 saidNot to be a dick, but coming from a guy who has No pecs = no sex. in his profile, it's all very ironic.



    LOL, I was going to initially comment by telling devildog to relish in giving this guy some shit for snubbing him. But you made it a good point. Saying something like "no pecs = no sex" is just as crude as telling someone you won't date them because they don't work out.

    Devidog..you walked right into this one.


    I didn't read his profile either....Sorry devil....I take back my advice. Maybe you guys would get along well.......
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    Aug 17, 2008 8:43 PM GMT
    Haha, also the "Upfront to the point of rudeness" bit. It seems like that's what the guy did to you a year ago. He was "Upfront to the point of rudeness" that "No Pecs = No Sex".
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    Aug 17, 2008 8:48 PM GMT
    There have been so many posts on here lately about not dating people (or even talking to people) that are too tall, too short, too skinny, too fat, too rich, too poor, too clean, too dirty, etc...

    What ever happened to just being nice to people? Get to know people before you dismiss them?
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    Aug 17, 2008 8:50 PM GMT
    Glasses=no sex
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    Aug 17, 2008 8:56 PM GMT
    ya i started a happy thread a while back but it didnt take off! too many threads on the forum are depressing.....
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    Aug 17, 2008 9:03 PM GMT
    Its all relative. I gained all my muscle back after going through a fat period after my break up with my bf. Sure I get more attention now than say 6 mos ago but who gives? I would of just told the guy to take a good look, then flex, then say you turned me down a yr ago, remember me? Maybe he'll laugh about it and you can still use him for sex.icon_rolleyes.gif

    He seems interested so just realize he's not bf material but can be used for a good time.
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    Aug 17, 2008 9:08 PM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle said
    Greg0201 saidNot to be a dick, but coming from a guy who has No pecs = no sex. in his profile, it's all very ironic.



    LOL, I was going to initially comment by telling devildog to relish in giving this guy some shit for snubbing him. But you made it a good point. Saying something like "no pecs = no sex" is just as crude as telling someone you won't date them because they don't work out.

    Devidog..you walked right into this one.


    I agree with both of you. This guy needs to take a good look at his own glass house before he starts slinging the stones at others.

    I like guys with muscle, but I would never rule out someone even if they lack muscle or size. When I met my boyfriend, he didn't have much of either.

    Besides, that "skinny" guy in the bar could be packin' 10 inches or more down south or, he could be incredible in the sack. Some of the best sex I've ever had has been with so-called "average" guys. They generally are much lower maintainence.

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    Aug 17, 2008 9:15 PM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle saidHall is right. We could use some good stories with happy endings.


    I'm having some negative experiences on RJ over the last while. I just had another in IM. I need a happy ending icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 17, 2008 9:24 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanHey that's not nice. You might hurt Hall's feelings.
    I think glasses are great.

    Geez, I certainly hope Hall, who is cute, knows I'm kidding.

    Generally, I think DevilDog's experience and apparent double standard are commonplace. My body has been all over the damn map and I've had his experience of being hit on by a former rejecter more than once. However, I've also shamefully rejected men because of their appearance, although I've never said anything as brazen as, "I don't date guys who don't work out."

    This is hardly unique. I've frequently seen especially hot men given a pass on RJ for forum comments that would get someone less hot eviscerated.

    I also noticed that a certain member who provoked a lot of negative commentary recently left the site for a few weeks and came back with some much hotter pictures than before. Now he's everyone's favorite, even though the tenor of his commentary hasn't changed.

    It's also amazing how often "hot" and "nice" or "sweet" end up conflated. Read through the Real Jock "man of the week" posts if you wanna lesson in the way "looksism" affects language, even when there's an obvious effort to avoid that.

    What is depressing is how little we seem to learn from our own experience in this regard. It can make "aging gracefully" difficult. icon_smile.gif



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    Aug 17, 2008 9:39 PM GMT
    obscenewish said
    MuchMoreThanThis is hardly unique. I've frequently seen especially hot men given a pass on RJ for forum comments that would get someone less hot eviscerated.


    Thank you OW. I have made that point many times here on RJ. It's nice to know I'm not the only one to see it.
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    Aug 17, 2008 9:40 PM GMT
    You guys are SO slow.

    Clearly when he says "No pecs = no sex" he's referring to Pecs, Hungary's 5th-largest city. Duh.

    Read more:

    [url] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/P%C3%A9cs[/url]

    See? He's not so bad after all.
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    Aug 17, 2008 9:41 PM GMT
    obscenewish said
    MuchMoreThanI also noticed that a certain member who provoked a lot of negative commentary recently left the site for a few weeks and came back with some much hotter pictures than before. Now he's everyone's favorite, even though the tenor of his commentary hasn't changed.


    Tell me, who icon_question.gif
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    Aug 17, 2008 9:43 PM GMT
    things_n_stuff_n_cents saidYou guys are SO slow.

    Clearly when he says "No pecs = no sex" he's referring to Pecs, Hungary's 5th-largest city. Duh.

    Read more here:

    P%C3%A9cs

    See? He's not so bad after all.


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    Aug 17, 2008 9:57 PM GMT
    Oh come on: At least say you laugh a litte!

    MikePhil said
    things_n_stuff_n_cents saidYou guys are SO slow.

    Clearly when he says "No pecs = no sex" he's referring to Pecs, Hungary's 5th-largest city. Duh.

    Read more here:

    P%C3%A9cs

    See? He's not so bad after all.


    icon_rolleyes.gif
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Aug 17, 2008 10:14 PM GMT
    things_n_stuff_n_cents saidOh come on: At least say you laugh a litte!

    MikePhil said
    things_n_stuff_n_cents saidYou guys are SO slow.

    Clearly when he says "No pecs = no sex" he's referring to Pecs, Hungary's 5th-largest city. Duh.

    Read more here:

    P%C3%A9cs

    See? He's not so bad after all.


    icon_rolleyes.gif


    I did laugh. And you were supposed to laugh at mine icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 17, 2008 10:19 PM GMT
    obscenewish saidGlasses=no sex

    Unless it is filled with Crown and 7.
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    Aug 17, 2008 10:21 PM GMT
    devildoginco saidSo I was in the midst of recovering from some injuries that had me about 30 lbs lighter and looking like a hospital patient as I was at the time at the VA in San Diego.

    It was the first time I had gone out in a while and got up the nerve to ask a guy on a date and he turned me down flat as he said he doesn't date "guys who don't work out."

    So that was a year ago, I have gained back most of my muscle weight and went to San Diego this weekend for some surfing and family visiting.

    I went out.

    Saw the same guy.

    He came up, said hi and bought me a drink - obviously not remembering me.

    Said he likes Marines and thanked me for my service and whatsuch.

    He then asked me to "hang out" sometime.

    I was SOOO tempted to say something like "I was the skinny Marine you told off a year ago," but I did not, and i told him that I live in Denver, hoping that would terminate the line of conversation.

    He said that he comes to Denver "all the time because his sister lives there."

    I am not going to even go out with this guy as he is an asshole.

    Wanted to know if anyone has ever had a similar "now that you are hot I will give you the time of day" experience.

    Thanks


    Good for you for taking the high road.
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    Aug 17, 2008 10:22 PM GMT
    On at-least-one occasion that I can recall I have said hello to Devildog online.

    It ought to be pretty obvious that my interest would be non-sexual. (I am old, partnered, and live on the other side of the planet)

    It is just a habit of mine to express a little gratitude to men in uniform.

    a.) I never served myself (a source of some shame for me - and fear of serving as a Gay man is the main reason I didn't serve).

    b.) I think service people are getting a raw deal.

    Anyway, unless I am mistaken I never so much as received a thank you, fuck you, die old fart, nuthin.

    My thought is this.

    There is always someone hotter, better built, younger, etc.

    Arrogance is expensive in the long run, while common courtesy costs nothing and eventually reaps benefit.

    Yes, you are a great looking guy, confirmed.

    I still commend you for your service and for your effort to recover from injury.

    If your nice to people they will admire your physique even more.

    Terry