Question with the hot list

  • JosephC

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    Aug 26, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    Am I the only one who sometimes gets annoyed when somebody hot lists me and that's all. Sorry but most of the time (not every guy I can assure you) I'd like to talk to you too if you think I'm hot. I mean if it's a horny thing then that's why they made grinder. Just saying, anybody shed some light on the matter?
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    Aug 26, 2012 7:36 PM GMT
    The Hot List is whatever you make of it. Some use it to give compliment, some use it as a way to break the ice and start a conversation, and some use it to solicit sex.

    If you want to chat with the guys that Hot List you, then simply reply with a Thank You and then strike up a conversation. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 26, 2012 7:49 PM GMT
    Joseph ...this should be the flow..
    A guy hot lists you...You get the notification letter..
    You reply saying thank you..Perfect oppertunity to conversate if you see fit..

    You getting hot listed is a guy saying.."I wanna toss yer' cookies"..
    That's a compliment..So then it really is your duty to respond!
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    Aug 26, 2012 8:16 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidYour hotlist is about "you"....others' hotlists are about them. You no more get to dictate "what/when/and how" anymore than you get to dictate whether someone puts their toilet roll on the holder in the incorrect underhand position or the correct overhand position. icon_razz.gif

    So get ova you'self. icon_wink.gif


    Basically.

    Hot lists are for you to keep an index of guys you think are hot. It has nothing to do with interacting with them (unless you make the independent decision to make it about that).
  • TallguyNLA

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    Aug 26, 2012 8:18 PM GMT
    I agree with (xrichx) the post above.
    I dont "HOT" list for no reason at all. I think allot of guys on here are great looking, but Im more into what they have to say about themselves, as opposed to what they can show us all in a photograph. BUT....Lets be REAL.
    This is a gay online fitness site,and we're ALL GAY MEN, and MEN in general are "VISUAL" I dont think there's anyone on here with "no" photos that has been "hot" listed. and the ones who checked "Athletic, Defined, Truly Ripped, or Muscular, can prove it! A large percentage of the guys who have profiles on here are showing some skin. I noticed the guy who started this topic is shirtless as well. THIS is what gets attention. I guess my point in all of this is.... Dont be offended if someone "hot" lists you, man. take it as a compliment, even if you dont find them to be your type.
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    Aug 26, 2012 8:29 PM GMT
    I don't have a hot list anymore, but when I did, it was just a list of guys that I thought were physically hot. I didn't know most of them. It's just a way for you to keep track of the guys you think are hot. I quickly found out that on RJ everybody is hot, and it's a futile effort to try to catalog them all.

    It is not a good way to strike up a conversation. If you want to talk to someone who interests you, send them a private message. Having a computer say "Hi!" for you isn't a good idea. It's also a little unfair to put all the pressure for creating a conversation on the other guy when all you did was click a link.
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    Aug 26, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    I use it selectively, I only give it to guys where after looking at the pics and profile I have almost an emotional connection beside the physical, I have to feel I can picture this guy as a boyfriend.
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    Aug 27, 2012 2:35 PM GMT
    I think such lists are stupid. But to each his own.
  • JosephC

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    Aug 27, 2012 3:36 PM GMT
    See the problem is I do respond to those that interest me who have added me. Problem is they don't respond afterwards. I suppose you're right in regards to they just want to look at pretty pictures or something. And I am always very very flattered, good way to brake the ice if your super shy just wish they'd reply.
  • JosephC

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    Aug 27, 2012 3:39 PM GMT
    Oh and "TallGuyNLA" is sooo right on the money on this one.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    JosephC saidSee the problem is I do respond to those that interest me who have added me. Problem is they don't respond afterwards. I suppose you're right in regards to they just want to look at pretty pictures or something. And I am always very very flattered, good way to brake the ice if your super shy just wish they'd reply.


    If they're judging you solely on your looks, they probably don't care what you have to say anyway. I don't respond unless it's someone I know, and then it's just to be friendly, since I'm already in a relationship.