the C word !!!

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    Aug 27, 2012 11:17 PM GMT
    ok so ive just been to the out of hours dr's at the hospital. for an internal exam because of some (what i thought was hemerroids sypmtoms). and he said i need an emergency refferal to a surgeon for a "procedure" on thurs, as i have a "worryingly large and unusual" growth on my prostate. obviously the c word was raised and he refferred me to a councelling appointment!!!

    so i am shitting myself obviously. i havent told my partner as i dont want to stress him yet until i know one way or the other, and he's got a MASSIVELY important case on at the mo.

    just wanted some advice really please, what to expect what the "procedure" is!!!

    im just incredibly upst right now i even had a couple beers (for the first time in two years i know it doesnt solve anything etc etc).

    has anyone experienced prostate growths that arent cancer? or know anyone or something?

    i know i probably sound like a hypocondriact right now so sorry if its a whiny load of nonsense.

    thanks

    luke

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    Aug 27, 2012 11:56 PM GMT
    im really sorry you have to go through this. I too had a recent c word scare myself however; I had a growth removed from my left leg last week, after suspicions it of it being melanoma (still waiting on the biopsy results). i felt like i was facing my own mortality tbh, i imagine thats how u feel. this week i feel much better...just give urself time to calm down and think

    i've always thought, oh he has cancer? that sucks. but now i realize how it really can happen to anyone
    sorry i really cant offer any advice, i just thought id let you know that i can relate with you, bro. stay strong and icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 27, 2012 11:57 PM GMT
    EliBro saidim really sorry you have to go through this. I too had a recent c word scare myself however; I had a growth removed from my left leg last week, after suspicions it of it being melanoma (still waiting on the biopsy results). i felt like i was facing my own mortality tbh, i imagine thats how u feel. this week i feel much better...just give urself time to calm down and think

    i've always thought, oh he has cancer? that sucks. but now i realize how it really can happen to anyone
    sorry i really cant offer any advice, i just thought id let you know that i can relate with you, bro. stay strong and icon_smile.gif


    thanks mate and im sorry you had such a shitty experience.

    *hugz
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    Aug 28, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    oooh THAAAAAAAT "C" word.....

    Hope for the best!!! :-)
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    Aug 28, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    lucky_sevn saidok so ive just been to the out of hours dr's at the hospital. for an internal exam because of some (what i thought was hemerroids sypmtoms). and he said i need an emergency refferal to a surgeon for a "procedure" on thurs, as i have a "worryingly large and unusual" growth on my prostate. obviously the c word was raised and he refferred me to a councelling appointment!!!

    so i am shitting myself obviously. i havent told my partner as i dont want to stress him yet until i know one way or the other, and he's got a MASSIVELY important case on at the mo.

    just wanted some advice really please, what to expect what the "procedure" is!!!

    im just incredibly upst right now i even had a couple beers (for the first time in two years i know it doesnt solve anything etc etc).

    has anyone experienced prostate growths that arent cancer? or know anyone or something?

    i know i probably sound like a hypocondriact right now so sorry if its a whiny load of nonsense.

    thanks

    luke

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    Only the referring doctor, or the surgeon that you have been referred to, can tell you the nature of the procedure that you will undergo. You should be proactive and enquire. You should also establish, pre-surgery, what the limits are e.g. that they can't remove your prostate immediately at THIS surgical appointment.

    Most likely this is some sort of biopsy, where they will more directly examine the growth and take a tissue sample to be evaluated by an oncological specialist in an appropriate lab. But you REALLY should find out.

    Also, every surgery has risk. You should let key loved ones know BEFORE a procedure. Put yourself in their shoes... what if something untoward happens, and your loved ones find out because the HOSPITAL is contacting them rather than YOU? How would that make YOU feel?
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    Aug 28, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    Wow. I am so sorry man. I don't even know what to say. That really sucks. I'm hoping it turns out alright. All that said, you have to tell your partner. Right now. I understand you don't want to worry him, and that he's working on a really important case. Still, he's your partner. You need his support. Plus, he could be really upset that you didn't tell him.

    All the best man.
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    Aug 28, 2012 12:04 AM GMT
    I've had prostate cancer and was treated with radiation, radioactive implants, and hormone blocker. What do you want to know?

    I blogged my experience here on RJ: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/150050
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    Aug 28, 2012 12:08 AM GMT
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    lucky_sevn saidok so ive just been to the out of hours dr's at the hospital. for an internal exam because of some (what i thought was hemerroids sypmtoms). and he said i need an emergency refferal to a surgeon for a "procedure" on thurs, as i have a "worryingly large and unusual" growth on my prostate. obviously the c word was raised and he refferred me to a councelling appointment!!!

    so i am shitting myself obviously. i havent told my partner as i dont want to stress him yet until i know one way or the other, and he's got a MASSIVELY important case on at the mo.

    just wanted some advice really please, what to expect what the "procedure" is!!!

    im just incredibly upst right now i even had a couple beers (for the first time in two years i know it doesnt solve anything etc etc).

    has anyone experienced prostate growths that arent cancer? or know anyone or something?

    i know i probably sound like a hypocondriact right now so sorry if its a whiny load of nonsense.

    thanks

    luke

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    Only the referring doctor, or the surgeon that you have been referred to, can tell you the nature of the procedure that you will undergo. You should be proactive and enquire. You should also establish, pre-surgery, what the limits are e.g. that they can't remove your prostate immediately at THIS surgical appointment.

    Most likely this is some sort of biopsy, where they will more directly examine the growth and take a tissue sample to be evaluated by an oncological specialist in an appropriate lab. But you REALLY should find out.

    Also, every surgery has risk. You should let key loved ones know BEFORE a procedure. Put yourself in their shoes... what if something untoward happens, and your loved ones find out because the HOSPITAL is contacting them rather than YOU? How would that make YOU feel?[/quote]

    i know mate i rreally know but its been like 5 hrs, i need some time to let it sink in a little, its unusual ass a reaction, i thought wit something as serious i would run to him immediately (i do about every little thing else lol). i just cant find the words and i have no idea what this is and how much of a scare this is i just panicked. i didnt even ask any follow up questions or info, i just nodded and left. im really not handling this in the manor i useually expect. in a crisis i am very proud of my ability to keep calm and make logical decisions.
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    Aug 28, 2012 12:10 AM GMT
    Caslon20000 saidI've had prostate cancer and was treated with radiation, radioactive implants, and hormone blocker. What do you want to know?

    I blogged my experience here on RJ: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/150050


    WOW.

    ok i pressume you are ok now as you refferred to your experience in the past tense i will read the blog first, but would it be ok to pm you? maybe when i know if it is, or how you found out etc?
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    Aug 28, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    lucky_sevn said
    Caslon20000 saidI've had prostate cancer and was treated with radiation, radioactive implants, and hormone blocker. What do you want to know?

    I blogged my experience here on RJ: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/150050


    WOW.

    ok i pressume you are ok now as you refferred to your experience in the past tense i will read the blog first, but would it be ok to pm you? maybe when i know if it is, or how you found out etc?

    Sure go ahead and PM me


    BTW, did you catch that diet I had after my radioactive implant....blogged on Jan 17.......sweet jesus! One would actually die eating that first month's diet for a prolonged period cuz of lack of nutrition!
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    Aug 28, 2012 12:12 AM GMT
    lucky_sevn said[quote][cite]intensity69 said[/cite]
    lucky_sevn saidok so ive just been to the out of hours dr's at the hospital. for an internal exam because of some (what i thought was hemerroids sypmtoms). and he said i need an emergency refferal to a surgeon for a "procedure" on thurs, as i have a "worryingly large and unusual" growth on my prostate. obviously the c word was raised and he refferred me to a councelling appointment!!!

    so i am shitting myself obviously. i havent told my partner as i dont want to stress him yet until i know one way or the other, and he's got a MASSIVELY important case on at the mo.

    just wanted some advice really please, what to expect what the "procedure" is!!!

    im just incredibly upst right now i even had a couple beers (for the first time in two years i know it doesnt solve anything etc etc).

    has anyone experienced prostate growths that arent cancer? or know anyone or something?

    i know i probably sound like a hypocondriact right now so sorry if its a whiny load of nonsense.

    thanks

    luke

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    Only the referring doctor, or the surgeon that you have been referred to, can tell you the nature of the procedure that you will undergo. You should be proactive and enquire. You should also establish, pre-surgery, what the limits are e.g. that they can't remove your prostate immediately at THIS surgical appointment.

    Most likely this is some sort of biopsy, where they will more directly examine the growth and take a tissue sample to be evaluated by an oncological specialist in an appropriate lab. But you REALLY should find out.

    Also, every surgery has risk. You should let key loved ones know BEFORE a procedure. Put yourself in their shoes... what if something untoward happens, and your loved ones find out because the HOSPITAL is contacting them rather than YOU? How would that make YOU feel?[/quote]

    i know mate i rreally know but its been like 5 hrs, i need some time to let it sink in a little, its unusual ass a reaction, i thought wit something as serious i would run to him immediately (i do about every little thing else lol). i just cant find the words and i have no idea what this is and how much of a scare this is i just panicked. i didnt even ask any follow up questions or info, i just nodded and left. im really not handling this in the manor i useually expect. in a crisis i am very proud of my ability to keep calm and make logical decisions.


    Completely understandable. I had a testicular cancer scare in my 20's, which turned out to not be a tumour, and TOTALLY sympathize. I'm just trying to help you to get with the program as to priorities:
    1. Contact the referring doctor, to find out more about the procedure. Or, this may be the function of the conselling appointment. ASK.
    2. Make sure you are given a chance to define your limits in regards to the surgery, once you know more about what they plan.
    3. Let your closest loved ones know what is going on.

    Good luck!
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    Aug 28, 2012 12:13 AM GMT
    Keep us posted Luke..PLeeeeeze!
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    Aug 30, 2012 10:01 PM GMT
    ok so i went for the "procedure" which turned out to be a colonoscopy, which i couldnt have because i was supposed to be eating a certain diet (unbeknown to me) which i now have to do starting monday and go back on thurs to try again. icon_confused.gif

    i decided to tell my bf after some very good advice from you guys in this thread and to my pm. he's now going for a prostate exam and is really supportive as i knew he would be.

    thanks alot for all the kind words ad support from everyone it really made me snap out of the whole FUUUUUUUUUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!! mentality.

    this is after all just business to be dealt with, and panicking never made me any money icon_biggrin.gif

    so thanks again and ill keep you updated.

    luke

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    Aug 30, 2012 10:10 PM GMT
    Thanks for keeping us posted..Let us know what happens..!
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    Aug 30, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    Best wishes to you Luke. As the other guys said - keep us posted.
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    Aug 30, 2012 10:17 PM GMT
    redsoxfan791 saidWow. I am so sorry man. I don't even know what to say. That really sucks. I'm hoping it turns out alright. All that said, you have to tell your partner. Right now. I understand you don't want to worry him, and that he's working on a really important case. Still, he's your partner. You need his support. Plus, he could be really upset that you didn't tell him.

    All the best man.
    Couldn't agree more. You are frightened, and naturally so. Talk to your guy. That's what relationships are all about.

    Hope everything works out, man.
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    Aug 30, 2012 10:21 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    lucky_sevn saidok so i went for the "procedure" which turned out to be a colonoscopy, which i couldnt have because i was supposed to be eating a certain diet (unbeknown to me) which i now have to do starting monday and go back on thurs to try again.


    You have to follow a certain diet for three to four days? Dang.

    I've had three colonoscopies in the past and it involved one day of dieting the day before and a liquid supplement to stimulate the bowels to empty.

    Hang in there.


    yea the liquid thing is on the last day and ive got a fiber supp to take too. four days is gonna suck as this is really interrupting my cutting icon_mad.gif