Frustration

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    Aug 28, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    I met this guy online for about 4 months. We hitted off good at the beginning, but at some point it degraded and now back up again. He said he'll contact me once he hit my city to just chill. One day he passed by and didn't contact me because he was helping a friend get over someone by coming to Montreal pride week for a night. Fine...

    Recently, I chatted with an ex coworker of mine and he said he met the same guy and were developping something apparently since two dates already. He actually forced the guy to come to the city again for the second date. I hated this coworker of mine already, always exaggerating stories about men hitting on him or how he finds himself good-looking and SOOO effeminated and fake he is.

    I hated the fact that this guy have something for a guy like my coworker. In a way, I lost respect for this guy, but in another way I feel humiliated as it means my coworker's better than me... Argggg just needed to blow it off! It's times like these that I feel depressed about myself.
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    Aug 28, 2012 11:35 AM GMT
    ..and the Jealousy doesn't help...
    The guy you like..is a player...
    He played you...
    and will most likely play your co-worker too...

    Get yourself a solid man..
    Unstable men will make you unstable...
    HUgz Steduo...icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 28, 2012 11:39 AM GMT
    Nope. You don't need to feel like your coworker is better than you. You need to decide that the jerk is not good enough for you... There is someone better than that out there for you.

    Don't waste your time and energy on this guy. Keep your eyes forward on all the possibilities that lie ahead. icon_cool.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 28, 2012 11:58 AM GMT
    I'd dispense with this negative drama. Think about how it is making you feel.
    Negative drama doesn't help you, understand the warning signs and remove yourself. Your health and self esteem are worth more.

    I agree with the others, drop any interest (note this experience to avoid in the future) and focus on other men.
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    Aug 28, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    Steduo saidArgggg just needed to blow it off! It's times like these that I feel depressed about myself.

    1.Guys who exaggerate about their love lives merely prove their insecurity & poor self-esteem.

    2. The online guy may have his own self-esteem problems, leading him to pick a loser. Such men are uncomfortable with guys they perceive to be better than themselves, and instead will go for men they think are inferior.

    3. In that case you are to be congratulated that he passed over you. The online guy may in fact be attractive and accomplished, but if that's not how he sees himself then you still don't want him. So don't get upset if you meet him in person through your former co-worker and he looks great, because ultimately what's inside is more important.
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    Aug 28, 2012 8:04 PM GMT
    Wait a minute. So you met a dude online....who doesn't even live in your city....am I following?

    He's in your city once, but doesn't visit. Am I right?

    Then you drift apart with this out-of-towner....and then, your ex-coworker, also gay, who you don't even like and thus I don't know how a conversation about your love lives would even be brought up, just so happens to meet this same exact guy who doesn't live in your city, and has two dates with him....

    Either that's a very small world, or this story doesn't add up broski.
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    Aug 29, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    IAmTheOneWhoKnocks saidWait a minute. So you met a dude online....who doesn't even live in your city....am I following?

    He's in your city once, but doesn't visit. Am I right?

    Then you drift apart with this out-of-towner....and then, your ex-coworker, also gay, who you don't even like and thus I don't know how a conversation about your love lives would even be brought up, just so happens to meet this same exact guy who doesn't live in your city, and has two dates with him....

    Either that's a very small world, or this story doesn't add up broski.


    I don't like this co-worker for his personality, but then again it's was a coworker so better be friendly than being a jackass to a person you're working with, right?

    And yes this coworker of mine met the guy online the same way I did. It was my co-worker that contacted on fb for update that I learned about this. Yes small world...

    Oh well, just that I was kind dreaming about the time we would meet each other, but yea I guess he's not worth it. Put too much anticipation on it for nothing. Right, on to the next news!