Madame_Pele saidIs it the way someone looks?
Is it the way someone acts? The way they speak? Their choices of words?
Their voice? The way they smell? maybe what they like? (like Madonna, Lady Gaga, Taylor Swift....blah blah )
Like, would you date a guy who looks super masculine but act really fem or vice versa and stuff?
Hmn... Okay. Good question!
What is it about femininity in a male that seems to turn me off, personally. Well, as strange as this may sound, I've been conditioned to think that males should have a certain kind of demeanor and countenance that make them exclusively what they are as men. The frequency which males give off are unique to them. When they imitate or portend to the idea of incorporating the complete opposite, feminine, wavelength, it's confusing, makes my brow furrow, and repels me. I cannot take a man seriously in that situation, for whatever the reason may be-- social conditioning or what have you.
Now, that said, I hate it to break it to everyone but NOT EVERYTHING IS SO BLACK AND WHITE!
We are varying degrees of masculinity and femininity. The same can be said about our sexual preferences. It's not an on or off switch you can flick, it isn't as simple as "you are masculine" or "you are not masculine". Even the most yippy/nelly/campy of homosexuals will exhibit this trait.
That said, there is also something I am equally repelled by: people playing roles. Not just the whole "omg so I totally bought this chanel perfume" but also "yeah i'm str8 actin', laid back, man's man." WTF is that? A "man's man?" No. I want a person, not an actor, not a role, not a facilitator, not a mask, a charade or a facade. A person is rarely ever -just- going to be the epitome of masculinity and if they honestly are so insecure/preoccupied with trying to achieve this role, they honestly are not worth my time of day.
I want a person who is capable of strength, courage, and determination as much as I am interesting in finding someone of weakness, of fear, of vulnerability because, in reality, we are all of these things. We are both Yin and Yang to varying degrees.