Do you have a "black phone book" of guys you date?

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    Aug 18, 2008 8:26 PM GMT
    I guess this thread is not for guys in a loving serious relationship.

    I don't have (or want right now) a serious LTR relationship/lover. I date a lot. I always have cool guys I can contact for a date...sometimes that involves being intimate....sometimes I may not see the same guy for weeks but we have a connection.

    In a typical week, might you have a few different dates? I find these connections very valuable and enjoyable and the guys are usually solid and smart enough not to push for more commitment.

    Yes, that's right....I don't want the commitment and responsibility in my life right now. But this could change in an instant if the cards were lined up just right.

    Does anyone else have the "Samantha from Sex and City" kind of lifestyle? What do you think of it?

    And please, no name calling.
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    Aug 18, 2008 9:42 PM GMT
    Before I got into a LTR I did. And it was fabulous and I loved it.

    Definitely a totally great way to live. Until you go on one date and it becomes the longest one -night stand of your recent life because you fall in love. Which is nice too.
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    Aug 18, 2008 9:48 PM GMT
    I've done this a couple of times in my life. It has its pros and cons, same as any other existential situation. I tend to sleep less in black book phases.
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    Aug 18, 2008 10:19 PM GMT
    KissingPro saidI guess this thread is not for guys in a loving serious relationship.

    I don't have (or want right now) a serious LTR relationship/lover. I date a lot. I always have cool guys I can contact for a date...sometimes that involves being intimate....sometimes I may not see the same guy for weeks but we have a connection.

    In a typical week, might you have a few different dates? I find these connections very valuable and enjoyable and the guys are usually solid and smart enough not to push for more commitment.

    Yes, that's right....I don't want the commitment and responsibility in my life right now. But this could change in an instant if the cards were lined up just right.

    Does anyone else have the "Samantha from Sex and City" kind of lifestyle? What do you think of it?

    And please, no name calling.


    Uh, -HELL YES! LOL
    I am LOVING being single right now. And I think I've earned it.
    I was in a relationship for nearly 3 years that blew up in my face this past January to the effect that I had to change cities..grrr....
    So, yeah after a few years of being monogamous , I am SO playing the field.
    There is nothing wrong w/ it too (hell my therapist encourages it!).
    I think its gonna be a while before I consider another relationship... Oddly enough, that doesn't bother me at all!
    X
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    Aug 18, 2008 10:26 PM GMT
    Its called my hot list....icon_rolleyes.gif jk

    I think it's great if you are upfront with people when you do this, nothing wrong with it. But don't lie and lead people on cuz they will get feelings for you etc.

    I make sure to tell my guys that Im just looking for friends to hang out with and have some fun with. I was in a 2yr LTR and not looking to jump into another anytime soon. At the same time Im not discounting it eventually coming my way but not looking and not worried about it. icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 18, 2008 10:37 PM GMT
    Nothing wrong with having a "black book" if you are single or have permission from your partner to play.

    With that said, technology being what it is today, most sites, from Manhunt to M4M to Realjock, have ways of allowing you to keep track of which you've "dated" and which you haven't... at least yet ;)

    Much easier to keep all of that online so you're not filling-up book after book after book LOL...

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    Aug 18, 2008 10:39 PM GMT
    BigSETXjock saidNothing wrong with having a "black book" if you are single or have permission from your partner to play.

    With that said, technology being what it is today, most sites, from Manhunt to M4M to Realjock, have ways of allowing you to keep track of which you've "dated" and which you haven't... at least yet ;)

    Much easier to keep all of that online so you're not filling-up book after book after book LOL...



    haha yea, black book in 2008 = my blackberry
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    Aug 19, 2008 2:58 AM GMT
    We all go through this at point or another as well as at different levels; I know when I have been in that "mode" I always enjoyed myself and them as well as when I'm not in that "mode". At my worst I was at my BEST!! HeeHee!!!
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    Aug 19, 2008 3:25 AM GMT
    Chuy2010 saidIts called my hot list....icon_rolleyes.gif jk

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    I'm on your hotlist, Chuy...when are we gonna hump? I'm free this weekend.
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    Aug 19, 2008 3:34 AM GMT
    BigSETXjock saidNothing wrong with having a "black book" if you are single or have permission from your partner to play.

    With that said, technology being what it is today, most sites, from Manhunt to M4M to Realjock, have ways of allowing you to keep track of which you've "dated" and which you haven't... at least yet ;)

    Much easier to keep all of that online so you're not filling-up book after book after book LOL...



    WAIT! It's not like I have hundreds of guys in my date book!

    I hear what you saying about online dating sites. But actually writing that person's name down and phone number seems more personal. Plus, I get tired of spending too much time online. AND....my book has guys I've dated, or will soon date,,,not a wish list of hotties I see online.

    Whatever works is good.
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    Aug 19, 2008 4:11 AM GMT
    tommysguns2000 said
    Chuy2010 saidIts called my hot list....icon_rolleyes.gif jk

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    I'm on your hotlist, Chuy...when are we gonna hump? I'm free this weekend.


    You sweet talker you....icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 19, 2008 4:29 AM GMT
    I don't keep a black book so much as I keep hair and fingernail samples of everyone I've dated. That way I have the necessary components to make voodoo dolls so I can compel them to be better lays or not talk during Battlestar Galactica.
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    Aug 19, 2008 4:36 AM GMT
    I put the numbers in a jar with a label reading,"In Case of Emergency Break Glass".
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    Aug 19, 2008 11:28 AM GMT
    RBY71 saidI don't keep a black book so much as I keep hair and fingernail samples of everyone I've dated. That way I have the necessary components to make voodoo dolls so I can compel them to be better lays or not talk during Battlestar Galactica.


    LOL

    Personally, I don't have one. Otherwise I'd imagine the conversation going like this:
    Some guy: "So is that your little black book."
    Me: "Yes, why?"
    Guy: "Can I see it?"
    Me: "Sure."
    Guy: "There's nothing written in here."
    Me: "Yes. What's your point?"
    Guy: blank stare.

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    Aug 19, 2008 11:48 AM GMT
    I have a 'little yellow sticky note'. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Only recently have I started to date. I've never been a dater before, so this is a real change for me. But I definitely need it.


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    Aug 19, 2008 11:54 AM GMT
    I'm a serial monogomist, so my little black book is more like a little black journal.

    I tried dating more than one guy one hot summer. It started great, but even after telling beach boy and city boy I only wanted to be casual, they both fell in love with me! Very frustrating and annoying and not fun. That was that.
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    Aug 19, 2008 12:13 PM GMT
    No book..

    I was very sheltered growing up. When I came out it was BF after BF.. it seemed like I never had a moment to myself to enjoy such a lifestyle.

    I've always thought about it though..

    Maybe there's just not enough hot guys out there I want to sleep with.. cause the few times I have seen someone I want, either they are in a relationship, I am, or they're "straight.."
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    Aug 19, 2008 12:21 PM GMT
    When I was single there was no book. I just kept the numbers in my phone and I would just call the guy I wanted to hook up with.
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    Aug 19, 2008 5:01 PM GMT
    I have a black book of greasy chicken joints and by the hour hotels. Teehee.
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    Aug 19, 2008 5:15 PM GMT
    gymguy1 saidWhen I was single there was no book. I just kept the numbers in my phone and I would just call the guy I wanted to hook up with.


    Same here.
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    Aug 19, 2008 9:54 PM GMT
    I used to have one, though it was actually red. I stopped doing it though when I realized I could no longer remember who in the world some of those guys were (LOL). It was embarrassing.
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    Aug 19, 2008 10:05 PM GMT
    My little black book is my little black cell. Being single frustrates me at the moment, though I still have my fun since thats the only way I may find something real. Till then I just save every hot guy I meet on my cell and if I dont remember a name anymore I delete him.
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    Aug 20, 2008 2:08 AM GMT
    I used to have a small list of "fuck buddies," but it dwindled over time as my need for sex and intimacy decreased. That was in the U.S.

    Here in Mexico, they're too far apart timewise to "accumulate." But, over time, they might. It seems I keep getting a hankering for the prior boyfriend after the more recent one goes south.
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    Aug 21, 2008 12:32 AM GMT
    Back in the early 2000's, I customized my Microsoft Outlook address book so that instead of the usual business-related fields, it had like three fields for profile links, three fields for chat IDs, and a big space to paste pictures into... in addition to the usual phone number fields, etc.

    It was my "little black book" for contacting people, and it also doubled as a list of "conquests". I toyed with the idea of adding a drop-down field to indicate sexual position and a place where you could indicate a number of "stars" next to a person, and marketing the template to gays everywhere.... but I just didn't end up having the time to bother. LOL

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    Aug 21, 2008 3:08 PM GMT
    RunintheCity saidI've done this a couple of times in my life. It has its pros and cons, same as any other existential situation. I tend to sleep less in black book phases.


    Same here.

    The OP shouldn't feel too bad; many of us have been there. For me, however, "blackbooking" got old. I realized it did not enrich my life--and I wasn't getting enough sleep icon_lol.gif. Nowadays, I just flirt.