Fake People

  • CTHS

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    Aug 30, 2012 4:01 PM GMT
    So last Friday I was at a local gay bar when a guy, I had recognized from chatting on different apps (grindr, scruff), walked up to me and said hey. We talked for a minute and went our separate ways... throughout the night, I kept running into him but we would just exchange smiles and keep on with our business. The more drunk I got the more I wanted to at least get his number. The next time I saw him I asked for it and he said he usually doesnt give out numbers in bars... it just wasnt his style... taking a hint, I politely said ok and walked away. The night ends with me standing at the road getting a cab when this guy walks out behind me. he leaned in for a hug and said nice to meet you buddy and gave me a kiss. he then starts making out with me right there in an alley and told me to... MMHMMM... S his D icon_smile.gif this not being my style I declined but I told him I would like to hang out sometime and i would hit him up on whatever app he showed up on next. he grabbed my phone and put his number in it and I walked him to his car. *flash forward* Today I get on facebook and and in the "People You May Know" column is the guy.... with a different last name than what he put in my phone... Im a little pissed about it.

    What are your thoughts? I think maybe he has a boyfriend or something
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    Aug 30, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    Bacon.
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    Aug 30, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
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    Aug 30, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    socio-path much?
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    Aug 30, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    calebsheeler said...he then starts making out with me right there in an alley and told me to... MMHMMM... S his D icon_smile.gif this not being my style I declined but I told him I would like to hang out sometime and i would hit him up on whatever app he showed up on next. he grabbed my phone and put his number in it and I walked him to his car. *flash forward* Today I get on facebook and and in the "People You May Know" column is the guy.... with a different last name than what he put in my phone... Im a little pissed about it.

    What are your thoughts? I think maybe he has a boyfriend or something



    Hmmm. I think he has a boyfriend too. Any man who would ask a total stranger to shave his dog is up to something.
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    Aug 30, 2012 4:22 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidHmmm. I think he has a boyfriend too. Any man who would ask a total stranger to shave his dog is up to something.
    That was excruciatingly unfunny.
  • CTHS

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    Aug 30, 2012 4:27 PM GMT
    yea I'm just a little confused about it... He had to at least been somewhat interested or he wouldnt have given me his number but why the hell would he give me a fake name? get real doode. NEXT
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    Aug 30, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    Caleb you can't build anything on that kind of shadiness..
    .. Doyou really wan't to sit and decipher all this cryptic antics...
    ..He does'nt give out his numbers in bars.. But he puts it in your phone..under a different name and asks you to "S...his D" in public...

    ..Shady..inconsistent..lunacy.!!!
    ^^^^
    You don't deserve this dude!!
    Not even if he was just a f*ck buddy..!!
    ..
    On a stern note.."In his eyes your are just the next piece of ass"
    Avoid this D-bag..
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    Aug 30, 2012 7:27 PM GMT
    calebsheeler saidSo last Friday I was at a local gay bar when a guy, I had recognized from chatting on different apps (grindr, scruff), walked up to me and said hey. We talked for a minute and went our separate ways... throughout the night, I kept running into him but we would just exchange smiles and keep on with our business. The more drunk I got the more I wanted to at least get his number. The next time I saw him I asked for it and he said he usually doesnt give out numbers in bars... it just wasnt his style... taking a hint, I politely said ok and walked away. The night ends with me standing at the road getting a cab when this guy walks out behind me. he leaned in for a hug and said nice to meet you buddy and gave me a kiss. he then starts making out with me right there in an alley and told me to... MMHMMM... S his D icon_smile.gif this not being my style I declined but I told him I would like to hang out sometime and i would hit him up on whatever app he showed up on next. he grabbed my phone and put his number in it and I walked him to his car. *flash forward* Today I get on facebook and and in the "People You May Know" column is the guy.... with a different last name than what he put in my phone... Im a little pissed about it.

    What are your thoughts? I think maybe he has a boyfriend or something


    Shady shady mother fu----. icon_confused.gif See? This is why I deleted Grindr/Scruff/Jack'd/etc. They all fulla dumbasses bitches.
  • Hothouse

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    Aug 30, 2012 8:13 PM GMT
    If you're just looking to fuck, who cares about last names.
    Seriously, he just wants to get into your pants, and that's it.
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    Aug 30, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    Hothouse saidIf you're just looking to fuck, who cares about last names.
    Seriously, he just wants to get into your pants, and that's it.

    Normally I would agree with this but in this case I cant given the circumstances. If the other guy just wanted to get into his pants doesn't make sense to turn him down in the bar. Unless the other guy was cruising some other guy and that didn't work out and so he decided to settle for second best.

    I've always dealt with guys this way: I'm dealing with and adult hence I expect responsible adult behavior. Anything less is unacceptable.
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    Aug 30, 2012 9:44 PM GMT
    TellMeMoar said
    Hothouse saidIf you're just looking to fuck, who cares about last names.
    Seriously, he just wants to get into your pants, and that's it.
    Normally I would agree with this but in this case I cant given the circumstances. If the other guy just wanted to get into his pants doesn't make sense to turn him down in the bar. Unless the other guy was cruising some other guy and that didn't work out and so he decided to settle for second best.
    I've always dealt with guys this way: I'm dealing with and adult hence I expect responsible adult behavior. Anything less is unacceptable.
    Yeah, because surprising someone by telling them to suck your dick is totally acceptable.
  • CTHS

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    Aug 31, 2012 11:18 AM GMT
    TellMeMoar said
    Hothouse saidIf you're just looking to fuck, who cares about last names.
    Seriously, he just wants to get into your pants, and that's it.

    Normally I would agree with this but in this case I cant given the circumstances. If the other guy just wanted to get into his pants doesn't make sense to turn him down in the bar. Unless the other guy was cruising some other guy and that didn't work out and so he decided to settle for second best.

    I've always dealt with guys this way: I'm dealing with and adult hence I expect responsible adult behavior. Anything less is unacceptable.


    I thought of that... him trying to just get what he could as he walked out, but I thought why would he even approach me in the first place? Anyway... Im not even worried about it anymore. He is not worth my time or worry. Thanks for all the feedback guys!

    -Caleb
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    Aug 31, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    McQueen said
    TellMeMoar said
    Hothouse saidIf you're just looking to fuck, who cares about last names.
    Seriously, he just wants to get into your pants, and that's it.
    Normally I would agree with this but in this case I cant given the circumstances. If the other guy just wanted to get into his pants doesn't make sense to turn him down in the bar. Unless the other guy was cruising some other guy and that didn't work out and so he decided to settle for second best.
    I've always dealt with guys this way: I'm dealing with and adult hence I expect responsible adult behavior. Anything less is unacceptable.
    Yeah, because surprising someone by telling them to suck your dick is totally acceptable.

    The OP had been chatting up the guy on Grindr and Scruff previously and it was late at night after a bar. What were you expecting at that point? behavior befitting a queen? icon_razz.gif

    And no, it doesnt make it acceptable. And no, no-one has ever asked me to suck dick on a street after a night out. I dunno about u, tho. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 31, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    what the hell is gridr and scruff?
  • mybud

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    Aug 31, 2012 3:23 PM GMT
    His buddies at the bar kept tellin him you were cute so he made a scene for their benefit....head games times a million....You deserve better dude.
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    Aug 31, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    Just meet him and tell him you saw the difference in last names and you wondered what the deal was. It's not that hard.

    I have friends who have different last names on Facebook to what they go by in reality. I don't know why they do it, but it's nothing sinister and that on it's own is not that big of a red flag.
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    Aug 31, 2012 3:31 PM GMT
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    Aug 31, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    If you feel like playing detective, the fact he's shown up as someone you may know on Facebook reveals there aren't many degrees of separation between you two, i.e. he's a friend of a friend of a friend. He obviously gets around.
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    Aug 31, 2012 3:52 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidWow,,, so the guy told you to S his D in a public alley! Humm.. Looks like you two were looking for 2 different things.
    He wanted a quickie and you wanted dinner and a movie. Not a match made in heaven. Not sure why you'd even let him put his # in your phone nor waste the energy being mad today.
    Think clearly... He was living on Grindr', Scruff, A4A, Craigslist etc. rules.
    One F and it's over. Those apps are all the same with the same outcome.
    Sure, some guys will say how they found their true love on Grindr'... those stories are far and few. 99% are not there looking for love.


    well both of them are living on hookup sites. i don't see why the op is making a big deal over this.
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    Aug 31, 2012 4:17 PM GMT
    ... i was on a cheap sex hook-up site and i saw another guy on a cheap sex hook-up site.....
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    Aug 31, 2012 4:21 PM GMT
    Many people will use different names on FB so they don't come up in searchs made by their employers, for example.
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    Aug 31, 2012 4:25 PM GMT
    He racheeeet.
  • LJay

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    Aug 31, 2012 4:27 PM GMT
    I have never come across anyone who did stupid stuff at a bar, especially not at closing time wandering out of the place. Never. Really. Definitely not. Certainly not. Of course not.

    And the Pope's a Baptist.
  • metta

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    Aug 31, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    I use a different last name on my facebook so that if someone does a search, my facebook page does not come up. It gives me more privacy. A lot of people do that.