Is anybody looking for a relationship?

  • Kromethius

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    Aug 31, 2012 5:37 AM GMT
    I know this is very peculiar searching for someone online but if someone near my area or is planning to move here for some arbitrary reason is looking for something serious as in a relationship I just wanted to know. I'm in one of the most conservative areas for college and alot of people here in the gay community say they don't want me because I'm black so I'm just curious if this approach might lead to something real beyond the websites.
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    Aug 31, 2012 5:55 AM GMT
    MIS37 saidI know this is very peculiar searching for someone online but if someone near my area or is planning to move here for some arbitrary reason is looking for something serious as in a relationship I just wanted to know. I'm in one of the most conservative areas for college and alot of people here in the gay community say they don't want me because I'm black so I'm just curious if this approach might lead to something real beyond the websites.


    *Raises hand.* Me! icon_smile.gif

    Now, if I could just do something about these #$&( sucking mother #$&(ers. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Kromethius

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    Aug 31, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    I'm not trying to play games or have like a "bachelor" show but if you could email me just so it would be more private I would gladly appreciate anyone's interest
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    Aug 31, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    MIS37 saidI'm not trying to play games or have like a "bachelor" show but if you could email me just so it would be more private I would gladly appreciate anyone's interest


    I didn't mean like "Oh me! I'm single and not taken so I obviously want to date you!" I meant it as "Oh me! I am searching for a relationship!" As per your title. icon_confused.gif
  • aiko14

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    Aug 31, 2012 7:02 AM GMT
    im searching for a relationship... well not really searching searching, but would love to be in one
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 31, 2012 7:08 AM GMT
    ok here goes. You're 19. I honestly believe you should be single at this time in your life. I know you have heard this before, but I can speak from experience. It's your time to focus on your career, casually date, and hang out with friends etc. Don't rush it.
  • Kromethius

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    Aug 31, 2012 7:11 AM GMT
    Personally I just can't do that all my roommates bring girls over and have relationships and I can't because every person i meet in this city doesn't like black people in gay relationships or physically so I really want one.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 31, 2012 7:17 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    MikemikeMike saidok here goes. You're 19. I honestly believe you should be single at this time in your life. I know you have heard this before, but I can speak from experience. It's your time to focus on your career, casually date, and hang out with friends etc. Don't rush it.
    Who the hell has a career at 19?


    I was in college at 19 and worked 30 hours a week part time in a job that pertained to my major. Most of my friends did. I was also in a frat. for fun.
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    Aug 31, 2012 11:59 AM GMT
    I agree with Trollileo .. Unfortunately it is true !
    it might not be 100%, but finding a job in your early 20s while studying is not easy anymore.

    As for MIS37 .. you can still casually date and bring your date over!
    Don't exhaust your mind and time looking for a relationship yet. Enjoy what comes and progress it without rush. All the best icon_smile.gif

  • fitartistsf

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    Aug 31, 2012 12:48 PM GMT
    Uh.... yeah.... but I'm starting to think it will never happen.....
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    Aug 31, 2012 1:03 PM GMT
    Not looking, cause I hear that is counter productive to its own cause. I'm looking to turn myself into a Keeper for a Keeper! =)

    Nothing pre-scripted or false, and has to be someone understands me enough to want to understand me more.
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    Aug 31, 2012 1:10 PM GMT
    OP, you're very handsome. They're really dumb if they don't want you cuz of the melanin in your skin.
  • Kromethius

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    Aug 31, 2012 1:38 PM GMT
    Well thats college station in a nutshell if it isnt a hook up its about racism and i literally have no where to look no gay person has ever came up to me and i feel the only way someone will find me is online
  • mybud

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    Aug 31, 2012 1:40 PM GMT
    Relationships evolve when your not lookin for em...
  • Kromethius

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    Aug 31, 2012 1:44 PM GMT
    Thats an easy concept but idk if it will happen online or real life because i am very masculine so meeting a gay guy in public will never happen
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    Aug 31, 2012 1:49 PM GMT
    MIS37 saidI'm not trying to play games or have like a "bachelor" show but if you could email me just so it would be more private I would gladly appreciate anyone's interest


    It's more like a beauty pageant with a sashes and such.
  • Kromethius

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    Aug 31, 2012 1:59 PM GMT
    Thats not my intention i didnt know a better way to articulate it
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    Aug 31, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    Relationsips will come your way when you don't look for them.

    Your roommates - do they relationships or just sex with girls?

    Don't try to force it, just let it happen.
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    Aug 31, 2012 4:33 PM GMT
    mileshelvetica saidRelationsips will come your way when you don't look for them.




    if you look you will find.
  • nomad4life

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    Aug 31, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    Honestly is you go searching for a relationship you'll probably end up scaring away some people because they might view that as desperation.
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    Aug 31, 2012 4:37 PM GMT
    why is looking for a relationship any different than looking for anything else - like a job for instance. do you just sit back and hope for one to drop in your lap?
  • Kromethius

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    Aug 31, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    I agree i have exploited my resources which is why Im usimg this forum post to see if it will prosper Im not going to keep waiting its too much anciety
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    Aug 31, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    I am!
  • FitGwynedd

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    Aug 31, 2012 5:22 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidok here goes. You're 19. I honestly believe you should be single at this time in your life. I know you have heard this before, but I can speak from experience. It's your time to focus on your career, casually date, and hang out with friends etc. Don't rush it.


    Few things could be farther than the truth. With all do respect, the opportunities for people in my age group are atrocious. I have a degree from one of the finest colleges in the world and I drive a transit bus, the most hours I get are about 12-15 a week and I can't find any other job to supplement my income. I have been finding friends increasingly difficult, to almost impossible to make, and I have always looked towards the possibility of not being alone anymore as the light at the end of the tunnel. However, this has not worked out for me, and I am still alone and single, which makes me very depressed. The older generations seem to think that we can just walk into somewhere and get a job because we are young. I applied for countless jobs, and got rejected every one of them. And these were jobs ranging from entry-level management to working on the railway. Rejected, almost all without an interview. And these are jobs that I would have been considered overqualified for in 2007. I have decided to continue my education, however the path I want to take in my studies is one that is in a dying field, and I simply view another year of studies as a way delay the inevitable misery, anxiety and depression that comes out of being severely underemployed, dependent on family members and almost nothing to look forward to in the future. That, added to my inability to make friends, while the rest of my friends are an ocean away, leaves the possibility of a relationship as the only thread of hope or optimism for the future. And now i'm told that I should be single and should be focusing on my career. I'm sorry but that is simply not practical. At this point, I have come to the conclusion that without someone for me to share my love with and to love me back, there will be nothing to look forward to in life, a prospect which terrifies me.
  • Kromethius

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    Aug 31, 2012 5:26 PM GMT
    Im really sorry that you are going through those issues and how it is way harder for you to cope with it. But its such a disappointment how hard it is for us