Opinion needed: Does this make me a slut?

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    Sep 01, 2012 3:04 AM GMT
    So there's this guy I normally see at my gym. We usually check each other out, but never really talked to one another. This one night I saw him a grindr and we started a conversation. I went over to his place and we went right to his bed with him fucking me all night, then I went home and slept in my own bed. The next time I saw him at the gym we both pretended that nothing happened.

    Well? What do you think?
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    Sep 01, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    Fake/10
    Wouldn't read again.
  • DR2K

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    Sep 01, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    Was any money exchanged?
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    Sep 01, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    Madame_Pele saidSo there's this guy I normally see at my gym. We usually check each other out, but never really talked to one another. This one night I saw him a grindr and we started a conversation. I went over to his place and we went right to his bed with him fucking me all night, then I went home and slept in my own bed. The next time I saw him at the gym we both pretended that nothing happened.

    Well? What do you think?


    Are you serious, Madam? icon_neutral.gif I wouldn't think this would happen to you.
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    Sep 01, 2012 5:08 AM GMT
    Neight saidFake/10
    Wouldn't read again.

    Rudeness.
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    Sep 01, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    ParadiseLost said
    Madame_Pele saidSo there's this guy I normally see at my gym. We usually check each other out, but never really talked to one another. This one night I saw him a grindr and we started a conversation. I went over to his place and we went right to his bed with him fucking me all night, then I went home and slept in my own bed. The next time I saw him at the gym we both pretended that nothing happened.

    Well? What do you think?


    Are you serious, Madam? icon_neutral.gif I wouldn't think this would happen to you.


    Pretty much. Except the fucking all night part. It wasn't all night. It lasted about like an hour.
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    Sep 01, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    Madame_Pele said
    ParadiseLost said
    Madame_Pele saidSo there's this guy I normally see at my gym. We usually check each other out, but never really talked to one another. This one night I saw him a grindr and we started a conversation. I went over to his place and we went right to his bed with him fucking me all night, then I went home and slept in my own bed. The next time I saw him at the gym we both pretended that nothing happened.

    Well? What do you think?


    Are you serious, Madam? icon_neutral.gif I wouldn't think this would happen to you.


    Pretty much. Except the fucking all night part. It wasn't all night. It lasted about like an hour.


    Well, if you want my honest opinion: Yeah, it does if all you wanted was sex. icon_neutral.gif Grindr isn't exactly the best place to meet people anyway... c_C
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    Sep 01, 2012 1:27 PM GMT
    Since you said "we both pretended that nothing happened", maybe he felt awkward or anti-social that day? You should be proactive and just say hi first. Doesn't have to be a big long conversation but sometimes being the initiator of a "hello" can help break the awkwardness.
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    Sep 01, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    You had mutually agreed upon sex.

    Did you have any additional expectations which you verbally communicated and which were agreed upon by your partner?

    I don't know of any person who can read minds.

    Communicate your needs and wants to others.
    Listen to others' needs and wants.
    Come to mutual agreement if, when, and where you can.

    Lasting relationships are all about the quality of the communication and agreements.
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    Sep 01, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
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    Sep 01, 2012 4:31 PM GMT
    microbiologist saidSince you said "we both pretended that nothing happened", maybe he felt awkward or anti-social that day? You should be proactive and just say hi first. Doesn't have to be a big long conversation but sometimes being the initiator of a "hello" can help break the awkwardness.

    We have talked once after but it's a very brief how are you, how's everything type of convo. Now when we see each other in the gym we'd do a hand wave but that's all about it.

    GAMRican saidYou had mutually agreed upon sex.

    Did you have any additional expectations which you verbally communicated and which were agreed upon by your partner?

    I don't know of any person who can read minds.

    Communicate your needs and wants to others.
    Listen to others' needs and wants.
    Come to mutual agreement if, when, and where you can.

    Lasting relationships are all about the quality of the communication and agreements.


    Wait, what? I'm not looking for a relationship.
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    Sep 01, 2012 4:39 PM GMT
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    Sep 01, 2012 8:47 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidYou had mutually agreed upon sex.

    Did you have any additional expectations which you verbally communicated and which were agreed upon by your partner?

    I don't know of any person who can read minds.

    Communicate your needs and wants to others.
    Listen to others' needs and wants.
    Come to mutual agreement if, when, and where you can.

    Lasting relationships are all about the quality of the communication and agreements.
    Interesting this was the topic this was made on but that is soooo true.
  • jackthejock

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    Sep 01, 2012 11:33 PM GMT
    It was a slutty thing to do, but nobody is perfect doing a slutty thing now and again doesn't make you a slut. It only makes you a slut if to do things like that frequently or habitually.


    As for your situation, if you do like the guy and want him either to be a regular fuck buddy or boyfriend, next time you see him at the gym just ask him if he wants to go get something to eat after the workout. The worst that will happen is that he will say no, and then you don't have to worry about being a slut because you made effort to go beyond a one-night-stand.