Newlyweds Give Same-Sex Couples First Dance at Wedding

  • metta

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    Sep 01, 2012 3:40 PM GMT

    Newlyweds Give Same-Sex Couples First Dance at Wedding


    An Indianapolis couple reserved the traditional first dance at their wedding for LGBT couples who are still denied the right to marry.

    http://www.advocate.com/politics/marriage-equality/2012/09/01/newlyweds-give-same-sex-couples-first-dance-wedding
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    Sep 01, 2012 5:53 PM GMT
    Aw, thats really nice of them. But a part of me is saying that it was their wedding and it shouldn't be about anyone else but them. icon_confused.gif
  • waccamatt

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    Sep 01, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    That was an unbelievable sweet and unselfish thing to do.
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    Sep 01, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    IceBucket saidAw, thats really nice of them. But a part of me is saying that it was there wedding and it shouldn't be about anyone else but them. icon_confused.gif

    I love wedding and have to agree with you that it's too bad they didn't have all the focus on them. Makes me wonder if one of them has a brother or sister who's gay.
    It certainly made a news worthy statement and put it into terms that most straight people can't relate to.

    Probably. My sister just got engaged yesterday and she'd never in a million years do something like this for me. And I honestly wouldn't want her to - it's her day. Not mine.

    Maybe it's different for over there?
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    Sep 01, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    IceBucket saidAw, thats really nice of them. But a part of me is saying that it was their wedding and it shouldn't be about anyone else but them. icon_confused.gif
    It WAS all about them.. THEY thought it was important enough to THEM that they shared their feelings with their loved ones!icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 01, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidVery cool and typical of our young today. If polled, most young today say they don't really care if someone is gay anymore. It's becoming more common place.
    One day we'll look back and say,, remember the day when gays weren't allowed to marry???icon_eek.gif

    It sounds awful to say, but marriage equality will have a lot easier time becoming a reality in every state when older generations die off.



    What a wonderful thing this couple did, thinking of others on a day that should be all about them.
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    Sep 02, 2012 2:21 PM GMT
    TropicalMark said
    IceBucket saidAw, thats really nice of them. But a part of me is saying that it was their wedding and it shouldn't be about anyone else but them. icon_confused.gif
    It WAS all about them.. THEY thought it was important enough to THEM that they shared their feelings with their loved ones!icon_wink.gif


    This is a brilliant point that Mark just made, Iceblink. icon_wink.gif

    At our wedding, we thought the people attending as VIPs. After all, they came to witness us marrying and they came to celebrate our love for each other.
  • Sportsfan1

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    Sep 02, 2012 2:30 PM GMT
    Once again you have done it again. After reading this post I was filled with hope that things are changing for the better. I do agree with the reply that this was the newlywed's day. It should have been about them. However it was their choice to do something very brave and make a positive statement for a group denied the right that they had just enjoyed. God Bless them!
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    Sep 02, 2012 5:29 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    TropicalMark said
    IceBucket saidAw, thats really nice of them. But a part of me is saying that it was their wedding and it shouldn't be about anyone else but them. icon_confused.gif
    It WAS all about them.. THEY thought it was important enough to THEM that they shared their feelings with their loved ones!icon_wink.gif


    This is a brilliant point that Mark just made, Iceblink. icon_wink.gif

    At our wedding, we thought the people attending as VIPs. After all, they came to witness us marrying and they came to celebrate our love for each other.

    Damn that IceBucket kid causing confusion with my name!
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    Sep 02, 2012 5:34 PM GMT
    Iceblink said
    meninlove said
    TropicalMark said
    IceBucket saidAw, thats really nice of them. But a part of me is saying that it was their wedding and it shouldn't be about anyone else but them. icon_confused.gif
    It WAS all about them.. THEY thought it was important enough to THEM that they shared their feelings with their loved ones!icon_wink.gif


    This is a brilliant point that Mark just made, Iceblink. icon_wink.gif

    At our wedding, we thought the people attending as VIPs. After all, they came to witness us marrying and they came to celebrate our love for each other.

    Damn that IceBucket kid causing confusion with my name!

    Hahaha, I get confused myself. icon_redface.gif

    *Wait, I don't remember posting that."

    But back on topic. It's just the feeling I have. I see, understand and agree Mark's point but it wouldn't be something that I'd be into myself I guess.
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    Sep 02, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    Iceblink said
    meninlove said
    TropicalMark said
    IceBucket saidAw, thats really nice of them. But a part of me is saying that it was their wedding and it shouldn't be about anyone else but them. icon_confused.gif
    It WAS all about them.. THEY thought it was important enough to THEM that they shared their feelings with their loved ones!icon_wink.gif


    This is a brilliant point that Mark just made, Iceblink. icon_wink.gif

    At our wedding, we thought the people attending as VIPs. After all, they came to witness us marrying and they came to celebrate our love for each other.

    Damn that IceBucket kid causing confusion with my name!



    Nah, it's me. *takes out eyes, swishes them in solvent, pops 'em back in*

    There that's better!
    *peers at posts by blinkbucket and Icemark*

  • Svnw688

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    Sep 03, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    Not buying it, I'm too jaded.

    So a couple let gays have the traditional first dance. Let's analyze:

    Cost: You miss out on a "first dance" that lasts all of 4 minutes and then get to enjoy the next 4 hours dancing.

    Benefit: Everyone views you as some martyr that's given so much to advance a cause that's so noble. You're forever that "nice couple that gave their first dance."

    Pah-lease. This required no time, no energy and no effort on their part. Refusing to get married until gays can get married costs something, instructing your guests to donate to (insert your charitable gay cause of choice here, HRC, for example) in lieu of a gift costs something. This overly sentimental gesture is piss in the pot. It's their day, and in their attempt to be nice to gays, the couple has come off looking like magnanimous martyrs. Surprise, surprise, it CONTINUES to be all about them.
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    Sep 03, 2012 7:44 PM GMT
    Svnw688 saidNot buying it, I'm too jaded.

    So a couple let gays have the traditional first dance. Let's analyze:

    Cost: You miss out on a "first dance" that lasts all of 4 minutes and then get to enjoy the next 4 hours dancing.

    Benefit: Everyone views you as some martyr that's given so much to advance a cause that's so noble. You're forever that "nice couple that gave their first dance."

    Pah-lease. This required no time, no energy and no effort on their part. Refusing to get married until gays can get married costs something, instructing your guests to donate to (insert your charitable gay cause of choice here, HRC, for example) in lieu of a gift costs something. This overly sentimental gesture is piss in the pot. It's their day, and in their attempt to be nice to gays, the couple has come off looking like magnanimous martyrs. Surprise, surprise, it CONTINUES to be all about them.


    You can come sit by me dear. I've saved you a seat.

    My first reaction was similar. Though I simply thought this was the 2nd best thing they could have done, the first being to boycott their own marriage.

    While your point of costs may be true, it is also true that someone needs to come to the protest for the protest to be effective. So as much as I would like to see str8s who claim to be supportive of our human rights protest by giving up their own rights to marriage, since I have a hard time imagining anyone taking our plight that seriously, even those who claim to love us, because homophobia is so fucking ingrained, much more so, I believe, than racism, I don't expect everyone to be piling into the back of the bus with Rosa to pull that wheelie.

    So unless the society columns start publishing disengagement announcements and posting wallet sized portraits of the recently disengaged, the brides to not be, then we take this as a lovely gesture, not just four minutes, but four minutes multiplied by how many people have seen that photo and read about that story, four minutes multiplied by how many have discussed this with their friends or blogged with strangers on familiar forums.

    Sometimes the benefits outweigh the costs. Now go dance with your young friends and enjoy the party.
  • Montague

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    Sep 03, 2012 7:46 PM GMT
    Mr. and Mrs. Balls. heheicon_lol.gif
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    Sep 03, 2012 7:49 PM GMT
    Montague saidMr. and Mrs. Balls. heheicon_lol.gif


    Haven't thought this silly thought in years but when I was a kid in summercamp there seriously was a camp counselor for the girls' campus named Anita Balls.